SO, husband suddently transitioning to Executive role, income tripling, becoming SAH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

Probably someone from a very "humble" background who's overly thrilled at the idea of joining the upper middle class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not know how to cook OP?

Is it worth the transition? I agree with other PPs that it can create a inequality in your relationship. I would recommend talking through the transition with a therapist.

Therapy, really?

context matters. Are we talking going from $90K as a government schlub to $270K as an association or non-profit "executive?" But still living in Gainesville and riding the MARC train 2.5 hours per day?
Or are we talking private sector near-executive to executive and comp near $1M???

Totally different lifestyles and intra-family dynamics.

-- pp 10:32

Exactly. I think, in general, if you couldn't afford to SAHM before, tripling your income is not going to mean living like a king. At all. At least not in this area

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not know how to cook OP?

Is it worth the transition? I agree with other PPs that it can create a inequality in your relationship. I would recommend talking through the transition with a therapist.

Therapy, really?

context matters. Are we talking going from $90K as a government schlub to $270K as an association or non-profit "executive?" But still living in Gainesville and riding the MARC train 2.5 hours per day?
Or are we talking private sector near-executive to executive and comp near $1M???

Totally different lifestyles and intra-family dynamics.

-- pp 10:32

You sound sad and mad. Sorry

LMAO I don't know if your OP or just a deranged person, but I find it hilarious that you feel the need to accuse anyone who isn't sooooo impressed with OP's situation as being "jealous".

Whatever you have to tell yourself to feel better, dear...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

Probably someone from a very "humble" background who's overly thrilled at the idea of joining the upper middle class.

why did you put humble in quotes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

Probably someone from a very "humble" background who's overly thrilled at the idea of joining the upper middle class.

Good for OP. I'd like to join those ranks!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

Probably someone from a very "humble" background who's overly thrilled at the idea of joining the upper middle class.

why did you put humble in quotes?

I'm guessing it was a nicer way of saying low-class

[Anonymous]

Not saying the new SAHM and her "executive" husband are not worthy, but I bet there is a equal or more worthy female that got passed over so her DH could take the "executive" position, because the company figured the female would also quit working when her own DH gets promoted to an "executive " position. On another long thread, people talked about SAHM with advanced degrees choosing to quit work and this is what happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not saying the new SAHM and her "executive" husband are not worthy, but I bet there is a equal or more worthy female that got passed over so her DH could take the "executive" position, because the company figured the female would also quit working when her own DH gets promoted to an "executive " position. On another long thread, people talked about SAHM with advanced degrees choosing to quit work and this is what happens.

Good point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not saying the new SAHM and her "executive" husband are not worthy, but I bet there is a equal or more worthy female that got passed over so her DH could take the "executive" position, because the company figured the female would also quit working when her own DH gets promoted to an "executive " position. On another long thread, people talked about SAHM with advanced degrees choosing to quit work and this is what happens.

You bet wrong. Go pay the house all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not saying the new SAHM and her "executive" husband are not worthy, but I bet there is a equal or more worthy female that got passed over so her DH could take the "executive" position, because the company figured the female would also quit working when her own DH gets promoted to an "executive " position. On another long thread, people talked about SAHM with advanced degrees choosing to quit work and this is what happens.

You bet wrong. Go pay the house all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

Probably someone from a very "humble" background who's overly thrilled at the idea of joining the upper middle class.

Good for OP. I'd like to join those ranks!!!

Well....good for OP's husband. But I think OP really needs to quit it with the capital-E executive talk, and settle down. If she's telling the truth and the bump is as big as she seems to think, it will mean certain obligations for her as well, including some amount of dignity about her new circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

Probably someone from a very "humble" background who's overly thrilled at the idea of joining the upper middle class.

And who's in for a hard dose of reality when she realizes her husband's new $300k salary doesn't go that far. People who already were making $500k and then move up to $1.5 million already have an inkling of what's involved and don't need to ask questions like OP's.

[Anonymous]

I am in the exact same situation. DH's income is tripling but his hours are increasing by about 50%. I quit my job when DH started his new job. It has been a few months and we are still adjusting. I have kept all our domestic help. We outsourced landscaping, some cooking, laundry and cleaning. I quit my job to spend more time with the kids, not to be doing housework.

I will admit that I don't appreciate comments about the house being a mess. We are home more and the house is more messy. DH also seems to think he gets a free pass when he is tired. I'm tired being with the kids all day. I feel annoyed at times but it is fine. I get a break when kids are in various camps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know someone this happened too. Next, husbands ego got huge, he started cheating with several younger women, they are now divorcing. Be careful what you wish for because you might get it.

Jealousy is a mofo.

I don't think it's that, this poster is telling the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not know how to cook OP?

Is it worth the transition? I agree with other PPs that it can create a inequality in your relationship. I would recommend talking through the transition with a therapist.

Therapy, really?

context matters. Are we talking going from $90K as a government schlub to $270K as an association or non-profit "executive?" But still living in Gainesville and riding the MARC train 2.5 hours per day?
Or are we talking private sector near-executive to executive and comp near $1M???

Totally different lifestyles and intra-family dynamics.

-- pp 10:32

Exactly. I think, in general, if you couldn't afford to SAHM before, tripling your income is not going to mean living like a king. At all. At least not in this area

I'm not the OP but DH went from a salary of $200-300k to $800-900k. I was only making $125-150k and quit my job. We don't live like kings at all. Our lives have not changed much except I stay home now.