SO, husband suddently transitioning to Executive role, income tripling, becoming SAH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

Definite troll.

No one triples their income with one promotion.

Executive is not capitalized in everyday conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

doubt it, the situations are too similar. I think she is attempting to explore the issue/decision, but is not the best writer/not familiar with DCUM style, where someone who was a better writer or more used to getting advice from DCUM would just explain the situation from the beginning.

[Anonymous]

You do whatever you want to do. You can now afford to outsource anything you feel is beneath you.

Your primary job is to look nice and entertain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Didn't you post yesterday, OP? Who capitalizes Executive? Are you considering whether to make this move or have you already made it?

Yes, both posts she writes Executive with a capital E. Troll?

doubt it, the situations are too similar. I think she is attempting to explore the issue/decision, but is not the best writer/not familiar with DCUM style, where someone who was a better writer or more used to getting advice from DCUM would just explain the situation from the beginning.

You're not supposed to let them know how they are IDing themselves!

[Anonymous]

On topic, I would really like a cook. I have no idea at what salary that happens, but I don't know anyone who has one.

[Anonymous]

I ended up SAH once DH's salary got to a certain level. It can make a lot of sense logistically but make sure it's something you're comfortable with. Even thought I was only making 1/10th of his salary, I would still have worked if I felt strongly that I would be happier and more fulfilled doing so. And yes, you can outsource anything you need to outsource.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On topic, I would really like a cook. I have no idea at what salary that happens, but I don't know anyone who has one.

You can get one of those prepared meal services (where they make all the food and you pick it up or they deliver) for a fraction of the cost.
Some of them even do multiple meals at once so you can freeze/refrigerate.

[Anonymous]

You'll need to get a cook, a housekeeper, and a household manager. It's going to be awful!

[Anonymous]

Outsource everything!

Driver, tutor, landscaper, gardener, personal shopper, house manager, maid, party planner, floral arranger, decorator, cook, pastry chef, maintenance/janitor, errand runner...

You'll never be alone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Outsource everything!

Driver, tutor, landscaper, gardener, personal shopper, house manager, maid, party planner, floral arranger, decorator, cook, pastry chef, maintenance/janitor, errand runner...

You'll never be alone!

SAHM is usually manager of the home to coordinate all these things. The question is does she have a budget on spending? If something breaks or you need a new bathroom or kitchen is there a monthly budget for that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Outsource everything!

Driver, tutor, landscaper, gardener, personal shopper, house manager, maid, party planner, floral arranger, decorator, cook, pastry chef, maintenance/janitor, errand runner...

You'll never be alone!

SAHM is usually manager of the home to coordinate all these things. The question is does she have a budget on spending? If something breaks or you need a new bathroom or kitchen is there a monthly budget for that?

With the large 8000SF houses on multi-acre lots in Great Falls and McLean I could see the need for a home manager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have this happen?

How do you go from being 2 parents working to 1.

Does the SAH handle everything except for cleaning?

Do you have a cook?

Why wouldn't the SAH handle the cleaning? like..what else is there if you're going to have a cook? I don't think sitting on your ass all day qualifies as SAHM in the sense that is used on these forums.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Outsource everything!

Driver, tutor, landscaper, gardener, personal shopper, house manager, maid, party planner, floral arranger, decorator, cook, pastry chef, maintenance/janitor, errand runner...

You'll never be alone!

SAHM is usually manager of the home to coordinate all these things. The question is does she have a budget on spending? If something breaks or you need a new bathroom or kitchen is there a monthly budget for that?

CEO, Smith Household. LinkedIn gold!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On topic, I would really like a cook. I have no idea at what salary that happens, but I don't know anyone who has one.

You can get one of those prepared meal services (where they make all the food and you pick it up or they deliver) for a fraction of the cost.
Some of them even do multiple meals at once so you can freeze/refrigerate.

Pfffft. Any old person can have that! What of I change my mind at the last minute, hmmmmm? I definitely think a cook -- no, a chef -- needs to be at my disposal. I do have an Executive husband, after all.

I'm not the OP. But I am a SAHM who could do with some staff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not know how to cook OP?

Is it worth the transition? I agree with other PPs that it can create a inequality in your relationship. I would recommend talking through the transition with a therapist.

Therapy, really?

context matters. Are we talking going from $90K as a government schlub to $270K as an association or non-profit "executive?" But still living in Gainesville and riding the MARC train 2.5 hours per day?
Or are we talking private sector near-executive to executive and comp near $1M???

Totally different lifestyles and intra-family dynamics.

-- pp 10:32

You sound sad and mad. Sorry