Who's right? (especially if you / your spouse is a serious athlete)

[Anonymous]

He could do his Saturday run mid morning with a sitter and his sunday run late when you get home.

Seeing a new niece or nephew is important to a woman (DH here). He needs to get his priorities straight. And unless he has a legitimate chance at a top 10 finish overall, he's a bit of a nut imo. This is going to be his 15th? Oh shit gotta go for that pr!! Can't move a run a few hours it will fuck everything!!

[Anonymous]

Are you sure he's off running?

[Anonymous]

runners are a very rigid bunch, but the truth is, by his -teenth marathon, adjusting or missing a single long run is unlikely to affect his performance. Unfortunately, that hole in his log book will probably drive him batty. Mileage matters, but missing one run does not a marathon training program break. He could serve himself well doing an extra speed session or hill repeats for this one run.

OP, you're in the right.

[Anonymous]

He should do the long run on Friday and take off an hour or two from work if necessary. you should not be held captive by his exercise schedule.

[Anonymous]

You can definitely ask a sitter to come at 6am, just make sure to tip well. We ask ours to come for morning weekend runs all the time. She loves it (I think!) because she's done with her "day" with us before her regular Saturday would usually even start.

[Anonymous]

You DH has some.sort of obsessive problem. Do your kids play sports? Wouldn't sacrifice a precious run to support his children out non the field ?

Bot DH and I have done a number of triathlons which involve swimming and cycle training. This obnoxious request would never even enter our brains.

[Anonymous]

There are lots of possible compromises. Sitter who comes at 7. Switching his training run to Fri or Mon morning and pushing his work day late one of those days. Running later in the day and either sucking up the heat and running slower or sucking up doing a long run on a treadmill.

Seriously, I get that endurance athletes can be a bit rigid in their thinking (I'm married to one) but there comes a point at which it gets out of hand and they need to bend. And this is a HOBBY. I would expect my DH to flex his job as much as possible for me to visit a new family member, damn straight I expect him to flex his hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get him a babysitter.

How about let HIM arrange a babysitter?

[Anonymous]

Any update, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is a serious runner, training for a marathon (his 13th? 14th? I've lost count) this fall. We have two young kids and he's generally very considerate about his running habit not taking family time - he runs before the kids get up on weekday mornings and does one long run per weekend, is usually home by 9am, and expects that I'll use the other weekend morning to do an extended workout (I'm into exercise too, though not to the extent he is).

I'm planning a quick weekend trip (Sat am - Sun pm) to MA to visit my brother's new baby next month. There's a flight that's much cheaper than the others - at least $150 depending on when I look - but it leaves at 830am from BWI, meaning I'd need to leave the house at 630am. He's adamant that I not take that flight because it interferes with his weekend run (which he can't do Sunday because I won't be in town). So I'd have to spend much more money and see my family for less time, all so he doesn't miss/have to cut short his run. I sympathize to a degree, but I have less than 48 hours to meet my new nephew and I feel like this is a one-time thing he should suck up (I've spent many weekends alone with the kids while he travels to races, though he's done a bunch alone as well for various reasons.)

Give me your unbiased opinions, DCUM!

Stop limiting you options set up a later play date or sitter exchange that morning . He can run then watch the kids ( yours and theirs after the long run). Otherwise missing one big run won't matter.

[Anonymous]

Get him a nice jogging stroller and tell him to take the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get him a nice jogging stroller and tell him to take the kids.

um, no that doesn't work. serious runners don't jog. They run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get him a babysitter.

This.

[Anonymous]

Can a friend of yours stay overnight on Friday night so he can do his run and still have a warm body in the house who is technically responsible for the kids?

If not, can he take the kids to the gym with him and do the long run on the treadmill? That's probably what I'd do.

Or if it's not a crucial week in his training, he could have a "recovery" week.

Or you could take a later flight but come back Monday instead. Then he'd miss his Monday morning workout, but it's probably a shorter distance than Saturday's.

[Anonymous]

Also agreeing with 22:27 - I am a pretty serious runner (sub-7:00 miles, a couple of marathons and many other races under my belt) and running with a jogging stroller is a serious workout. You can't usually manage the mileage you could without it, but it makes a shorter run even more intense. I ran with my daughter in the stroller until she went to kindergarten (she liked it) and was in great shape.