Leaving Kids for Bachelorette/Wedding

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Anonymous wrote:With the five month old, I would also be tempted to skip the bachelorette party but be there in full for the wedding

Between pumping and being recently back to work...that would be hard.

I would be, too, believe me, but I think when you are IN the wedding party, you really have to make the effort.

Disagree strongly. It's just a bachelorette. Bride gets priority on her wedding, not for every made up present grab.

+1. And, when she decided to have a mother of 2 in the wedding party (with one of the kids being an infant) she must have realized that it may be a different situation compared to the rest of the bridesmaids if they are her single sorority friends.

OP, do what you're comfortable with.

Not necessarily. I didn't really get this at all before I had kids. When I was pregnant, we got two save the dates for weddings that would occur while my son was an infant and I had every intention of going and leaving the baby with grandparents. These were both DH's friends, so not a wedding I needed to go to but nonetheless, assumed I would. Well, fast forward, baby born, and no, I certainly was not going to leave my infant with grandparents but I was shocked by that. Truly shocked.

[Anonymous]

Go! I just got back from a 2 night bachelorette party for one of my best friends. I am currently pregnant and have 2 at home. DH was fine managing the other 2 and I was able to get some much needed girl time for what may be the last time in a while. It was absolutely worth it and my friend was super appreciative that I made the effort. We will also be attending the wedding in Europe as a couple, with grandparents watching both DCs. These opportunities are what make or break friendships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go! I just got back from a 2 night bachelorette party for one of my best friends. I am currently pregnant and have 2 at home. DH was fine managing the other 2 and I was able to get some much needed girl time for what may be the last time in a while. It was absolutely worth it and my friend was super appreciative that I made the effort. We will also be attending the wedding in Europe as a couple, with grandparents watching both DCs. These opportunities are what make or break friendships.

If this can make or break your friendship then it's the kind of friendship it is. Real friends stick together even if one can't show up somewhere, heck, if I kill someone my besties will help me hide the body. One of them didn't make it to my destination wedding, so what.

[Anonymous]

I think skipping the bachelorette is fine. You still have a really young baby. I only have one kid and barely went anywhere the first 6 months. I'm not a mommy martyr, I was just tired.

Plan on being fully present at the wedding.

It's ok, I promise.