Single women of dcum: how'd you end up here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume it's because I'm fat. That's what you're looking for here, right? Even online, I don't get dates. And yes, I've asked men out. One laughed at me. Another had this look of sheer and utter panic come over his face (OMG the fat girl asked him out!) so I laughed it off and told him I was just joking. From 30-32 I was really sad and depressed about it as all my friends got married, had babies, and moved to the burbs dropping me from their lives. So I went out and found new hobbies, and at 35 I am pretty content being single.

I dunno. I was fat when I met my awesome husband in my early 30's.

[Anonymous]

The single most attractive thing a woman can do to improve her success with men is look more attractive.

[Anonymous]

I used to be thin and beautiful. Then I was sexually assaulted and decided to gain 140 pounds. Now I'm 40 and single. I'm okay with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The single most attractive thing a woman can do to improve her success with men is look more attractive.

Sadly, this is true. I am pretty crazy and demanding with a short temper, but I am very slim, tall, and men tell me I am beautiful. I was off the market in my mid-20s and I cannot explain it as anything except looks. Many of my saner, nicer, but heavier/less attractive girlfriends who are every bit as accomplished as me are still single and looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The single most attractive thing a woman can do to improve her success with men is look more attractive.

Sadly, this is true. I am pretty crazy and demanding with a short temper, but I am very slim, tall, and men tell me I am beautiful. I was off the market in my mid-20s and I cannot explain it as anything except looks. Many of my saner, nicer, but heavier/less attractive girlfriends who are every bit as accomplished as me are still single and looking.

Yeah, same. I'm by no means a model, but I'm above average looking and have always had men propose to me. I don't have the best personality either.

[Anonymous]

I am still single because my taste in men needs a fine tuning.

I tend to attract, and be attracted to people who have problems that I want to fix. I also am drawn to drama which makes a relationship "exciting." A good man who treats me well is just boring, I need a challenge.

And as you can see from what I just wrote, I also need a good therapist.

[Anonymous]

NP here: Curious about the nasty responses to posters who are answering the OP's question with straightforward responses. Why are you so angry/bitter at the posters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A combination of bad luck and bad choices, combined with a preference for being alone over forcing a relationship that didn't feel right. It's not ideal and I still hope to meet someone ... but I also dislike the way the question is phrased, suggesting that married folks have it all together and singles do not. We're all on our own journey ... we all have struggles, and so on.

This times ten. Being married doesn't mean you have arrived.

I totally agree.

-- a married woman who often wishes she were single!

[Anonymous]

Guy here. It seems to be a trend that women prefer to be single, as it doesn't limit their options in life. Smart if you think about it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am still single because my taste in men needs a fine tuning.

I tend to attract, and be attracted to people who have problems that I want to fix. I also am drawn to drama which makes a relationship "exciting." A good man who treats me well is just boring, I need a challenge.

And as you can see from what I just wrote, I also need a good therapist.

You're not alone, both in the need for therapy and being attracted to drama and poor mates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Yeah, same. I'm by no means a model, but I'm above average looking and have always had men propose to me. I don't have the best personality either.

How many men have proposed to you? To you and the PP, stop being terrible people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yeah, same. I'm by no means a model, but I'm above average looking and have always had men propose to me. I don't have the best personality either.

How many men have proposed to you? To you and the PP, stop being terrible people.

These were troll posts.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who's 46 and is a single parent. She's very fit and attractive and can go out on a date any night of the week. She also has an FWB who is a personal trainer, hung and very good in bed. She says she wants to be in a relationship and to be married but I honestly believe that she has too many options to make a choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yeah, same. I'm by no means a model, but I'm above average looking and have always had men propose to me. I don't have the best personality either.

How many men have proposed to you? To you and the PP, stop being terrible people.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. It seems to be a trend that women prefer to be single, as it doesn't limit their options in life. Smart if you think about it!

I'm not sure I agree it's a trend, but I think you have a good point.

I got married young and it was great for 16 years until it wasn't. So we divorced. Since then, I have chosen to remain single, mostly because it doesn't limit my options. Yes, I date, and yes, I have all the sex I want when I want it. I'm open to the idea of marrying again if the right person came along at the right time, but I'm not looking for it. My life is full, drama free, and I'm not actively seeking to change that.