Single women of dcum: how'd you end up here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A combination of bad luck and bad choices, combined with a preference for being alone over forcing a relationship that didn't feel right. It's not ideal and I still hope to meet someone ... but I also dislike the way the question is phrased, suggesting that married folks have it all together and singles do not. We're all on our own journey ... we all have struggles, and so on.

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[Anonymous]

Why single or why on dcum as a single?
Found dcum while googling something about costco, and find many interesting and relevant posts about career, family, neighborhoods, and even dealing with the children of others.

Why single? Have met many interesting guys, but none who were actually capable of taking care of themselves on a daily basis. Not interested in being the primary parent and runner of a household. See thread on why women wouldn't remarry...

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a working class family. My parents didn't attend college. The boys in my neighborhood didn't attend college. I spent my twenties and early thirties working, putting myself through school, avoiding sex to avoid entrapment of pregnancy and marriage, racking up graduate degrees, and building a career and eventually my own business.

I have paid off student loans, bought and sold cars and a very nice house. I have excellent credit and savings.

I have no regrets, and I would never trade my life choices just to say I was married. Even when I was comfortable at 30, I couldn't stand the thought of being married and tied down and living in a suburb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a working class family. My parents didn't attend college. The boys in my neighborhood didn't attend college. I spent my twenties and early thirties working, putting myself through school, avoiding sex to avoid entrapment of pregnancy and marriage, racking up graduate degrees, and building a career and eventually my own business.

I have paid off student loans, bought and sold cars and a very nice house. I have excellent credit and savings.

I have no regrets, and I would never trade my life choices just to say I was married. Even when I was comfortable at 30, I couldn't stand the thought of being married and tied down and living in a suburb.

Didn't realize being married required living in a "suburb." Must have missed that memo.

[Anonymous]

I found the site googling alternative places to see the fireworks several years ago. I've stayed for the wealth of information, through with some of the raging assholes on this site I often question why.

[Anonymous]

I was single until i was 37. Unlike most women i never bought into the myth that marriage was the be all and end all. I always thought it would be a lot of hard work and valued my flexibility and freedom more than being tied to a man.

I always maintained that the only reason i would get married is to have kids. That is what i did.

Now that i am married - i love it. But if for any reason i were to be single again i would not get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was single until i was 37. Unlike most women i never bought into the myth that marriage was the be all and end all. I always thought it would be a lot of hard work and valued my flexibility and freedom more than being tied to a man.

I always maintained that the only reason i would get married is to have kids. That is what i did.

Now that i am married - i love it. But if for any reason i were to be single again i would not get married.

If you only got married to have kids, does your husband also "lover it"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask?

I'm not a trained seal, just here for your entertainment.

Why don't you tell YOUR story?

Case in point why you are single

[Anonymous]

I came to the site 9 years ago when I was married and trying to start a family (we were doing IVF). Was looking for information about daycares. Am divorced now (kids didn't happen after several failed IVF cycles) and popped back in recently to find out about something neighborhood related, found all these conversations happening and joined in. Was dating until recently, but got tired of it. I want to connect with someone not just be out of the house with a random.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a working class family. My parents didn't attend college. The boys in my neighborhood didn't attend college. I spent my twenties and early thirties working, putting myself through school, avoiding sex to avoid entrapment of pregnancy and marriage, racking up graduate degrees, and building a career and eventually my own business.

I have paid off student loans, bought and sold cars and a very nice house. I have excellent credit and savings.

I have no regrets, and I would never trade my life choices just to say I was married. Even when I was comfortable at 30, I couldn't stand the thought of being married and tied down and living in a suburb.

do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tutor kids as a side job. I am almost 40 and don't date because I'm not desirable to men.

How do you know? Do you ask them on dates? Do they reject you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My friends say I'm beautiful (I think I'm ugly) and men are just shy.

This, fellas, is why a woman is NEVER out of your league.

[Anonymous]

I assume it's because I'm fat. That's what you're looking for here, right? Even online, I don't get dates. And yes, I've asked men out. One laughed at me. Another had this look of sheer and utter panic come over his face (OMG the fat girl asked him out!) so I laughed it off and told him I was just joking. From 30-32 I was really sad and depressed about it as all my friends got married, had babies, and moved to the burbs dropping me from their lives. So I went out and found new hobbies, and at 35 I am pretty content being single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a working class family. My parents didn't attend college. The boys in my neighborhood didn't attend college. I spent my twenties and early thirties working, putting myself through school, avoiding sex to avoid entrapment of pregnancy and marriage, racking up graduate degrees, and building a career and eventually my own business.

I have paid off student loans, bought and sold cars and a very nice house. I have excellent credit and savings.

I have no regrets, and I would never trade my life choices just to say I was married. Even when I was comfortable at 30, I couldn't stand the thought of being married and tied down and living in a suburb.

do you have kids?

No, I do not have kids. I am the fun Auntie in my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask?

I'm not a trained seal, just here for your entertainment.

Why don't you tell YOUR story?

Case in point why you are single

I am not.