How to cut off parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she didn't ask anyone what she should do then she wouldn't have posted the thread. What she should do is get therapy. She sounds crazy because she hasn't explained what is so bad about her parents to punish them by cutting them off from their grandchild. Lotd of delusional people post in forums when they need professional help.

She doesn't need to give us her reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: The answer depends on how your husband feels about it, which you conveniently left out. Given that your therapist didn't advocate cutting off your parents, and you haven't actually said what they did that is so bad, why should anyone here assume your decision is rational? You could be depressed or BPD and in a phase in which you are irrationally blaming your parents for all your problems. Maybe you are not taking your meds. Since a child is involved and you may be vindictively depriving him of his grandparents, it would really help if you coukd give some confirmation that you are not as batshit crazy as you appear to be.

Did your children - who you blame for everything that's gone wrong - cut off contact with you? Is that why you're so angry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she didn't ask anyone what she should do then she wouldn't have posted the thread. What she should do is get therapy. She sounds crazy because she hasn't explained what is so bad about her parents to punish them by cutting them off from their grandchild. Lotd of delusional people post in forums when they need professional help.

She doesn't need to give us her reasons.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

As someone else said it is specific to your relationship.

In my case I had to move and change my phone number. My father said he would literally ruin my life if I didn't let him be in at whenever and however he wanted. The declaration definitely escalated things, but ignoring them just meant they ignored my ignoring them and showed up, took my kid out of school without my permission, etc.

So it depends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she didn't ask anyone what she should do then she wouldn't have posted the thread. What she should do is get therapy. She sounds crazy because she hasn't explained what is so bad about her parents to punish them by cutting them off from their grandchild. Lotd of delusional people post in forums when they need professional help.

She doesn't need to give us her reasons.

Agree entirely with you PP. Why would the actual facts matter when giving strangers advice on a forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone else said it is specific to your relationship.

In my case I had to move and change my phone number. My father said he would literally ruin my life if I didn't let him be in at whenever and however he wanted. The declaration definitely escalated things, but ignoring them just meant they ignored my ignoring them and showed up, took my kid out of school without my permission, etc.

So it depends.

Yes. Very relationship-specific. Since OP chose not to tell us anything at all about the whys and wherefores, it's difficult, no, impossible, to give her any decent advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: The answer depends on how your husband feels about it, which you conveniently left out. Given that your therapist didn't advocate cutting off your parents, and you haven't actually said what they did that is so bad, why should anyone here assume your decision is rational? You could be depressed or BPD and in a phase in which you are irrationally blaming your parents for all your problems. Maybe you are not taking your meds. Since a child is involved and you may be vindictively depriving him of his grandparents, it would really help if you coukd give some confirmation that you are not as batshit crazy as you appear to be.

The answer to how she relates to her own parents does NOT depend on how her husband feels about it. You are both crazy and stupid, a lethal combination that disqualifies you from giving advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: The answer depends on how your husband feels about it, which you conveniently left out. Given that your therapist didn't advocate cutting off your parents, and you haven't actually said what they did that is so bad, why should anyone here assume your decision is rational? You could be depressed or BPD and in a phase in which you are irrationally blaming your parents for all your problems. Maybe you are not taking your meds. Since a child is involved and you may be vindictively depriving him of his grandparents, it would really help if you coukd give some confirmation that you are not as batshit crazy as you appear to be.

The answer to how she relates to her own parents does NOT depend on how her husband feels about it. You are both crazy and stupid, a lethal combination that disqualifies you from giving advice.

I'll bet you're either divorced, unhappily married, or single. You can't possibly be a good.mom. OP's husband has a say because there is a child involved and maybe the father of that.child woukdn't agree to permanently depriving that child of its maternal grandparents if he knew what OP was up to. So, moron, even thouh you think fathers shouldn't have a say in raising children, every woman in the world isn't as stupid and selfish as you are.

[Anonymous]

There is only one delusional person in this thread and it's not OP!

[Anonymous]

Op, when you talk of extremes, you are (likely) no better than your parents. Rational and healthy individuals do not rely on extremes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, when you talk of extremes, you are (likely) no better than your parents. Rational and healthy individuals do not rely on extremes.

+1

But I bet her therapists and husband have told her this already so she turned to DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, when you talk of extremes, you are (likely) no better than your parents. Rational and healthy individuals do not rely on extremes.

+1

But I bet her therapists and husband have told her this already so she turned to DCUM.

easy for people who have never been in a toxic or abusive relationship to say.

OP, not exactly the same, but i cut my sister out of my life, with my DH's blessing. and since my sister hates children generally cutting her out of my kids' lives was a non-issue. i won't bore you with the details, but i just stopped communicating after the final, massive blowout against me of which nobody (DH, my parents, nor I) could make sense. after 30 years of this kind of relationship, i had just had it and have my own life to lead without indulging in her drama. now, she really didn't reach out to me much, either. so in essence we both cut each other off

it has been 3 years since we have had any contact outside of when we gather at my parents (which is 1x a year when we come to town). i get sad from time to time that i have chosen this path...but honestly? my life is much better without her being an actively destructive part in it.

i wish you the best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: The answer depends on how your husband feels about it, which you conveniently left out. Given that your therapist didn't advocate cutting off your parents, and you haven't actually said what they did that is so bad, why should anyone here assume your decision is rational? You could be depressed or BPD and in a phase in which you are irrationally blaming your parents for all your problems. Maybe you are not taking your meds. Since a child is involved and you may be vindictively depriving him of his grandparents, it would really help if you coukd give some confirmation that you are not as batshit crazy as you appear to be.

The answer to how she relates to her own parents does NOT depend on how her husband feels about it. You are both crazy and stupid, a lethal combination that disqualifies you from giving advice.

I'll bet you're either divorced, unhappily married, or single. You can't possibly be a good.mom. OP's husband has a say because there is a child involved and maybe the father of that.child woukdn't agree to permanently depriving that child of its maternal grandparents if he knew what OP was up to. So, moron, even thouh you think fathers shouldn't have a say in raising children, every woman in the world isn't as stupid and selfish as you are.

I am none of the above, but you have confirmed that you are presumptuous on top of being crazy and stupid. Your issues are very apparent and I'm sure OP knows not to pay any attention to your nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: The answer depends on how your husband feels about it, which you conveniently left out. Given that your therapist didn't advocate cutting off your parents, and you haven't actually said what they did that is so bad, why should anyone here assume your decision is rational? You could be depressed or BPD and in a phase in which you are irrationally blaming your parents for all your problems. Maybe you are not taking your meds. Since a child is involved and you may be vindictively depriving him of his grandparents, it would really help if you coukd give some confirmation that you are not as batshit crazy as you appear to be.

The answer to how she relates to her own parents does NOT depend on how her husband feels about it. You are both crazy and stupid, a lethal combination that disqualifies you from giving advice.

I'll bet you're either divorced, unhappily married, or single. You can't possibly be a good.mom. OP's husband has a say because there is a child involved and maybe the father of that.child woukdn't agree to permanently depriving that child of its maternal grandparents if he knew what OP was up to. So, moron, even thouh you think fathers shouldn't have a say in raising children, every woman in the world isn't as stupid and selfish as you are.

Np. You have so many issues.

BTW, you need to rethink the idea of child being "deprived" of grandparents or aunts or cousins. If the relationshpis between those people and the chils's nuclear family are relatively healthy that's one thing, but if the relationships are dysfunctional then it is not the case that those interactions should be preserved no matter what.

Op, do what you feel is best for your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is only one delusional person in this thread and it's not OP!

Amen. Good luck op. There will always be people around who probably would never tolerate what you've been dealt but still expect you to.