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I'm so confused.
So gender roles are cool when it comes to men paying during dating, but not cool when you're married and your husband doesn't want to take care of the baby or vacuum? Ladies, you set your own precedent. |
You're not confused. I think you pretty much nailed it. On the upside, paying for the check for men is a laughably minor inconvenience when compared to the second class citizen status to which women have been relegated throughout most of recorded history. So there's that. |
Well, 11:02 here, and as a woman, I don't find it "laughably minor". You don't want to be a second class citizen? Don't act like one. Recorded history is not now. Yes, sexism is still alive and well (trust me as a woman in a male dominated workplace, I experience it every day), but until women stop wanting benefits for being women, while chastising sexist behavior, we all get nowhere. A man should no more be "expected" to pay, more than a woman be "expected" to do vaccuuming or make lunches later on. The amazing thing about life is truly, you can't have it both ways. |
| I used to think like this too, but have come to believe that willingness to pay signals a certain amount of buy-in from the guy. |
What's he buying? |
A committment to develop a relationship? |
| If I ask them out I pay and vice versa. |
And then later on, as its troafional for a woman to have sex or vacuum, isn't that her commitment to keep a relationship? Cmon folks. |
+1. Until you are an established couple, the guy not paying would send a very negative message (that he wasn't really interested). |
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Complete bullshit. |
Of course, duh. |
Nah, makes it easy on both. |
You got it. Isn't equality awesome? |
Translation: We'll be victims forever and you'll like it! |