How long does the man pick up the check?

[Anonymous]

My husband paid on dates until we married and now we have a joint bank account. He still pays the check at a restaurant but it is from a joint account. If my husband would have insisted on me paying for dates when dating then he would have to be okay without me having hot clothes, manicures, bikini waxes etc.

[Anonymous]

I'm 38, for perspective. I have never paid for a date in my life. Not a single one. Men have always paid for everything --coffee, drinks, food, trips, international travel --you name it.

Now married 10yrs, dated DH for 5yrs before marriage (so, 15yrs total). Dated a fair bit before DH, three serious boyfriends (2+yrs each)--what can I say serial monogamist since age 16 and met my match early (my DH is wonderful).

And I'm no slouch - I was biglaw for 6 years, SAH mom for 5 years and now a high ranking political appointee. I work hard and play hard.

I'm a hard-core feminist. Still can't imagine a world where a man would ask me to pay for a date. Sounds like a Beta that would never get a second date from me. But, luckily, my DH is awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 38, for perspective. I have never paid for a date in my life. Not a single one. Men have always paid for everything --coffee, drinks, food, trips, international travel --you name it.

Now married 10yrs, dated DH for 5yrs before marriage (so, 15yrs total). Dated a fair bit before DH, three serious boyfriends (2+yrs each)--what can I say serial monogamist since age 16 and met my match early (my DH is wonderful).

And I'm no slouch - I was biglaw for 6 years, SAH mom for 5 years and now a high ranking political appointee. I work hard and play hard.

I'm a hard-core feminist. Still can't imagine a world where a man would ask me to pay for a date. Sounds like a Beta that would never get a second date from me. But, luckily, my DH is awesome.

+1. Same here. I also never paid on a date. My husband is also an alpha. I'd be turned off by a man who wanted me to pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men, if you are a pick-up-tje-check kind of guy how long do you do this?

Women, do you expect men to keep picking up the check?

Every time we go out, I offer to split the check, but he always says he'll get it. I'm starting to feel awkward and I definitely don't want him to think I'm taking advantage of him. What are the rules here?

1. Is he inviting you?
2. Is he earning more or less than you are?

[Anonymous]

DH was like this when we started dating 9 years ago and to this day the only time he lets me pay is on his birthday.

[Anonymous]

By 4th date I would give my card to the waiter on my way to bathroom. I like my date, he is a nice guy and has paid enough. I wouldn't go on those dates if I didn't like him and why not pay if I like him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 38, for perspective. I have never paid for a date in my life. Not a single one. Men have always paid for everything --coffee, drinks, food, trips, international travel --you name it.

Now married 10yrs, dated DH for 5yrs before marriage (so, 15yrs total). Dated a fair bit before DH, three serious boyfriends (2+yrs each)--what can I say serial monogamist since age 16 and met my match early (my DH is wonderful).

And I'm no slouch - I was biglaw for 6 years, SAH mom for 5 years and now a high ranking political appointee. I work hard and play hard.

I'm a hard-core feminist. Still can't imagine a world where a man would ask me to pay for a date. Sounds like a Beta that would never get a second date from me. But, luckily, my DH is awesome.

You're a hard core feminist and never paid a bill ?
Just boggles my beta mind

[Anonymous]

Until about 1978.