My mom is a bad driver and we don't let her drive our kid. She wants to.

[Anonymous]

We (my DH and I) also instituted a blanket ban on anyone driving our DC. This was mainly due to the fact that we have visitors year round and if I allowed one, it would be awkward to deny the other. But when my parents stay with me for extended periods of time, of course they drive my DC around. It's just the short-term visitors. So I understand from OPs perspective.
That being said, I would just tell mom that I have instituted a blanket ban instead of making it about mom's bad driving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 16 and 14 and they have only been driven by dh and I. Its a non issue.

I was a sahm when they were younger so not an issue.
I guess if you put work first then you have to settle for others driving them.

Seems extremely overprotective. I'm a SAHM and both my kids -- much younger than yours -- have been driven by other people. They want to go for playdates directly after school, we carpool to activities, etc. That's not "settling" for other driving, that's not letting my fear deprive them of age-appropriate experiences.

What will happen when your kids get their own drivers licenses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 16 and 14 and they have only been driven by dh and I. Its a non issue.

I was a sahm when they were younger so not an issue.
I guess if you put work first then you have to settle for others driving them.

Seems extremely overprotective. I'm a SAHM and both my kids -- much younger than yours -- have been driven by other people. They want to go for playdates directly after school, we carpool to activities, etc. That's not "settling" for other driving, that's not letting my fear deprive them of age-appropriate experiences.

What will happen when your kids get their own drivers licenses?

Well, I was a SAHM and not only did I let other people drive my kid, I knew it was "DH and me" not "DH and I" and "it's" not its. Because you know, attention to detail and all.

[Anonymous]

Would she have to drive to go anywhere from your house? Can she and your child walk or take public transportation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 16 and 14 and they have only been driven by dh and I. Its a non issue.

I was a sahm when they were younger so not an issue.
I guess if you put work first then you have to settle for others driving them.

Seems extremely overprotective. I'm a SAHM and both my kids -- much younger than yours -- have been driven by other people. They want to go for playdates directly after school, we carpool to activities, etc. That's not "settling" for other driving, that's not letting my fear deprive them of age-appropriate experiences.

What will happen when your kids get their own drivers licenses?

Well, I was a SAHM and not only did I let other people drive my kid, I knew it was "DH and me" not "DH and I" and "it's" not its. Because you know, attention to detail and all.

Dh and I is correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 16 and 14 and they have only been driven by dh and I. Its a non issue.

I was a sahm when they were younger so not an issue.
I guess if you put work first then you have to settle for others driving them.

The absurdity of this literally made me LOL. I can just see you peering over your designer eyeglasses at the computer screen, in judgment of all of those awful people who put work first - like your DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 16 and 14 and they have only been driven by dh and I. Its a non issue.

I was a sahm when they were younger so not an issue.
I guess if you put work first then you have to settle for others driving them.

Seems extremely overprotective. I'm a SAHM and both my kids -- much younger than yours -- have been driven by other people. They want to go for playdates directly after school, we carpool to activities, etc. That's not "settling" for other driving, that's not letting my fear deprive them of age-appropriate experiences.

What will happen when your kids get their own drivers licenses?

Well, I was a SAHM and not only did I let other people drive my kid, I knew it was "DH and me" not "DH and I" and "it's" not its. Because you know, attention to detail and all.

Dh and I is correct.

No, it is not. Would you say "they have only been driven by I"? If so, then you should probably stay away from any grammar arguments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 16 and 14 and they have only been driven by dh and I. Its a non issue.

I was a sahm when they were younger so not an issue.
I guess if you put work first then you have to settle for others driving them.

Plenty of posters have already addressed this comment, but I'll add in a comment anyway. I live in Salt Lake City which has a very high percentage of SAHMs and I don't know any in my circle although I work both outside and inside the home who have not had their kids carpool to some things. The notion that SAHM is equated with your child never riding in a car with anyone else is absurd. At some point most siblings will have an event or practice or game at the same time and this may occur when only you or DH are available and so carpooling becomes necessary. OK, I'm done feeding the troll .

[Anonymous]

Stay calm and hold your ground. Let mom have her way about anything that isn't a safety issue, but don't relent on this and keep your emotions out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 16 and 14 and they have only been driven by dh and I. Its a non issue.

I was a sahm when they were younger so not an issue.
I guess if you put work first then you have to settle for others driving them.

Plenty of posters have already addressed this comment, but I'll add in a comment anyway. I live in Salt Lake City which has a very high percentage of SAHMs and I don't know any in my circle although I work both outside and inside the home who have not had their kids carpool to some things. The notion that SAHM is equated with your child never riding in a car with anyone else is absurd. At some point most siblings will have an event or practice or game at the same time and this may occur when only you or DH are available and so carpooling becomes necessary. OK, I'm done feeding the troll .

If both my kids need to be somewhere, that's when DH needs to step up and take one while I take the other.
It's not a frequent occurrence.

[Anonymous]

Your mother is a bad driver who will be in an unfamiliar place, with an unfamiliar vehicle, and an interactive distraction in the backseat. Hell no.

[Anonymous]

we don't let my husband's mother drive our son either. she used to, but after yet another car mishap, we said enough. she has the insurance rates of a teenage boy, yet it's never her fault. literally something every 3 months on average.
stand your ground.

[Anonymous]

Drive in to work on the days your mom is caring for your son - don't discuss it, just do it. Give her a list of all the walkable kid-friendly hang outs. Should be a non-issue.

The only reason my parents drive my kids around when they visit is because I've asked them to do the drop off & pick up for the preschooler. Otherwise, they go to the park (within walking distance), go around the corner to the cafe, or just let the kids run around outside right in front of the house while they supervise. You don't need to chauffeur the kids around to have a good time.