I want to go to a hotel tonight, ALONE.

[Anonymous]

Not selfish at all OP.

Even Mommies deserve a respite + it sounds to me like yours is long overdue.

But considering tonight is a Saturday night, it may not be easy to actually make yours a reality.

If your spouse is on board, I say, ------> DO IT!!

[Anonymous]

Re: Saturday Night

Meaning most hotels are usually booked on Saturdays, I think.

[Anonymous]

Hampton Inn , DC by WHite HOuse - 240 per night

https://secure3.hilton.com/en_US/hp/reservation/book.htm?execution=e2s2

[Anonymous]

This is my life, every night (minus the hotel). I'm single, with no kids.

I don't know how you all (parents, mostly, not just married people) do it, and the hardest part to imagine is that you just dive into it headfirst. There's no 'easing into' life with kids. You go into the hospital without one (for the first one) and come home with one, and then it's 24/7, for years. If I ever get to being in your situation, I can guarantee I will feel the same way.

It it helps, when it gets tough, remember that there are those of us living your 'fantasy' for tonight, every night. I'm not complaining, I like my life, and thus far haven't met anyone I was willing to change it for. It is what it is because of the choices I've made, and I don't regret them.

However, there are nights when it would be amazing to come home to someone (a kid, a partner, both). Tonight, I came home from a big social event with a girlfriend after a few drinks - her husband picked us up and dropped us off - which is super sweet - but they went home to have sex with each other (I imagine) and I came home and logged on to the internet, checked DCUM and my online dating messages. Again - not complaining, diminishing, or implying you should feel guilty - I'm lucky, and I'm happy, but there are definitely advantages to both situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend's husband makes her do this three times a year, doesn't ask for reciprocal because after all she is (and we all are) the default caregiver. My husband never did this. We are divorcing; coincidence?

Now you'll get plenty of kid and spouse free time!

[Anonymous]

Reasonable. Of course you need to plan it and not just take off alone on a Saturday night. Do you have the financial wherewithal? Make a plan and do it.

Most women don't want a hotel room to have extramarital sex. They just want time and space alone, with staff to wait on them for a change. And they want to sleep alone and in silence.

[Anonymous]

I'm going next week too - Bday gift from DH. Can't wait.

[Anonymous]

Do it OP And enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Your husband needs to do a sleep study and probably a C-PAP machine. If he's unwilling to see a Dr about it he should sleep on couch or guest bed until he is. Impact of loud noise all night is devastating on your health and probably his too.

[Anonymous]

Do it! I did that last Mothers Day. It was awesome!

[Anonymous]

Sleep in a different room, every night. You will feel like a completely different person once you are no longer constantly sleep deprived. Seriously. Cuddle and have sex and talk in bed together, then leave and sleep in a different room.

[Anonymous]

DH and I have different sleep routines and found our marriage is just better when we dont sleep in the same room. We cuddle on the couch watching our favorite shows and make sure to hug and be affectionate in other ways around the house.

I don't think sleeping in the same bed makes a stronger marriage--especially if you cant get any sleep!

[Anonymous]

Longer term, could you and your spouse sleep in separate bedrooms? I know married couples who don't sleep in the same room because of snoring/sleep issues, and they seem pretty happy.

[Anonymous]

I'm a 37 yr old mom of a 16 month old fussy toddler. I just went to Florida alone for 3 days and I slept in and sat at the pool. It was glooooooorious. Dh stayed home with the kiddo.

[Anonymous]

Hi! I'm a toddler mom. I do this 4x a year. I get a hotel room- alone. The most recent trip was a few weeks ago during that saturday snow storm. It was heavenly! I checked into the hotel and watched the snow come down while I browsed the internet and watched TV. For me- that's bliss!!
I stay in nice- but not fancy hotels. I have always needed more personal space than most folks- so it's not surprising that I need to check out every once in a while.