One of my best friends is cutting me off

[Anonymous]

Being financially successful is different than being financially smart. Stupid people get rich and smart people go poor. It's a person's character that helps them get through life.

Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.

If you don't pick yourself up at least as many times as you've fallen then everyone will look like they are higher on the ladder.

The pie in the sky turned out to be miles too high!

You can always hide behind Paranoid Eyes!

[Anonymous]

With something like this, you will most likely not be able to address it directly.

It's not like you can both sit down + discuss the reason your friendship has changed. Because it would be like super awkward to talk about the differences in how you both ended up spending your money and how those differences ended up affecting your lives now.

It will always be that "Elephant in the Room" for as long as you remain friends. Can you live w/that?

It seems your friend is very materialistic and she defines her own self-worth on what she owns and what she can afford to buy for herself.

You on the other hand, sound more down to earth and not so concerned w/material items.

Just that fact alone may make you both incompatible as friends.

Something to think over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound quite judgmental. Did she tell you she was "disappointed and stressed" by her life or are you inferring it? Either way, it sounds like you two are too different to be good friends anymore. You would both be better off ending the friendship- you don't like her values and she probably doesn't need your judgment. She might be better off finding more sympathetic friends who don't pat themselves on the back for making 6 figures.

Not trying to be judgmental at all. Yes, every conversation we have she tells me how destitute she is and how scared she is for her future. It's most of our conversations. In fact, if I was judgmental I would have called her out on some of her decisions but I have never opened my mouth. Those are her decisions to make not mine. I have been very sympathetic. In fact, when her husband was let go from his job and needed an employment attorney I called my friend and asked him for the favor (he didn't want money but I did a big favor for him to essentially pay for his service).

Wasn't trying to pat my back for six figures. I was trying to merely explain the vast financial difference. I don't know any better way to illustrate that.

You're not fooling anyone, OP.

Your first post was brimming with smugness about how your friend had it good when she was young, but, by golly, you worked hard and sacrificed, and she didn't, and now you're doing way better and now she is distant.

Get some self-awareness, please.

[Anonymous]

Confront her about what OP? What are you mad because she has the audacity to place the problems in her life above you on her list of priorities and (GASP!!) doesn't take time to talk to you everyday like she used to? What do you want to bomb her out for being a bad friend and set up an intervention or something? Newsflash: you are not the center of the universe OP and her life doesn't revolve around you - especially not now what with so much stress she's dealing with so get a grip and show some empathy or go buy yourself a new purse or something but for crying out loud drop the dramatics because you're not getting her attention anymore its childish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound quite judgmental. Did she tell you she was "disappointed and stressed" by her life or are you inferring it? Either way, it sounds like you two are too different to be good friends anymore. You would both be better off ending the friendship- you don't like her values and she probably doesn't need your judgment. She might be better off finding more sympathetic friends who don't pat themselves on the back for making 6 figures.

Not trying to be judgmental at all. Yes, every conversation we have she tells me how destitute she is and how scared she is for her future. It's most of our conversations. In fact, if I was judgmental I would have called her out on some of her decisions but I have never opened my mouth. Those are her decisions to make not mine. I have been very sympathetic. In fact, when her husband was let go from his job and needed an employment attorney I called my friend and asked him for the favor (he didn't want money but I did a big favor for him to essentially pay for his service).

Wasn't trying to pat my back for six figures. I was trying to merely explain the vast financial difference. I don't know any better way to illustrate that.

Don't worry OP, those without chips on our shoulders get what you were saying.
If she wants to drift away there is not much you can do to stop her. You can tell her it hurts you, maybe she doesn't realize how much she means to you and how much you need her friendship and support, but outside of that, there is sadly nothing you can do.

[Anonymous]

Your "friend" will probably end up fucking your husband for revenge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your "friend" will probably end up fucking your husband for revenge.

Was that necessary? I hate the small minds.