You are just a much better and smarter person than all of the rest of us poor slobs. You are so brilliant and self-assured that I am humbled to be in the company of such greatness. I hate to think of you wasting your time here so please fell free to stay off this site. I am ashamed to have wasted your time like this when you should be off curing cancer and enjoying your perfect children and husband. Please - for your sake - don't come back to DCUM. |
Her. Can you not see the obvious difference?! |
Maybe she's actually self-conscious about how large her own child is... |
Not a boy. Never. Our society worships big boys and tiny, thin girls. |
uhhh, i'm pretty sure you're the one being obtuse if you think calling your little baby little is an insult. my nearly 2.5yo just broke 20lbs. i call her little all the time! she's little! |
SHE. Can you NOT see the difference in our society? Calling a boy "little" is an insult. Just like calling a girl "huge" is an insult. Please - accept the term obtuse as the alternate term I have for you is much less polite. |
He is not a baby and the insult is directed at his mother. And calling a girl "little" is very different than calling a boy "little". |
The genetics of that get pretty complicated -- like the tiny woman with the big DH -- sometimes you get tiny boys and big girls -- oops! |
Getting a little off topic here... OP, I would tell her nicely that you don't need the clothes and ignore the rest - if she says something that offends you in person, address it, but he can't read the notes and it's not worth the drama. |
Are you sure her comments are meant to be insulting? My cousin gets a lot of hand me downs from me, my kid is tall, hers are on the shorter said. I give her stuff and say that it may not fit now... As for the "little" such and such...are you talking about "Little Joe" on Bonanaza from the 60's...played by Michael Landon You consider that a dig? You know your SIL so you are a better judge of her intentions...but you seem a bit sensitive to me I say this as a person who tops out at 5 feet even. |
Using the term little is a definite insult? That is stupid |
If the clothes do not work just tell her 'thanks, but no thanks, they just never seem to fit, don't waste her time and postage'.
Stop looking for insults where some may not be intended. |
+1 That being said, the next time she does this IN PERSON, I think you should say something to her about it. Or maybe over the phone. I would not put anything in writing. Also, if she's petty and competitive, nothing will piss her off more than you smiling and ignoring the comments. I think if you react, you're giving her exactly what she wants. |
+1 |
Your kid is 1.5 and hers is 2.5 years old. You never know what size they will be is 5 years. You are barely ever going to see her. Just because your brothers were teased doesn't mean your son will, especially because he is in the 50th percentile rank. Just let it go. |