Nanny with child not dressed for cold weather

[Anonymous]

I will agree with you and sky write my apology the very first time I ever meet an African-born woman who either gives birth to or adopts a pale-skinned, blonde child with fine straight hair and light eyes. I promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will agree with you and sky write my apology the very first time I ever meet an African-born woman who either gives birth to or adopts a pale-skinned, blonde child with fine straight hair and light eyes. I promise.

My husband is (North) African, born and raised, and our child is very pale and blond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will agree with you and sky write my apology the very first time I ever meet an African-born woman who either gives birth to or adopts a pale-skinned, blonde child with fine straight hair and light eyes. I promise.

Ahhh ... you just heard from one in 10:26 (you don't get much 'paler' or 'whiter' than a redhead - I know, my family is full of them).

[Anonymous]

My guess is that OP is right and it was a nanny. I think it is completely ridiculous to call her an ignorant liar just because she assumed someone was a nanny -- if she was wrong, so what? The point wasn't that it was a nanny, or that all nannies were bad, or that adults of one race shouldn't have or look after a child from a different race. It just so happened she thought it was a nanny in this particular instance.

OP, ignore the "you're ignorant" poster. She or someone with similar style and synatax posts frequently and almost exclusively to be contrary -- it's probably the same (or one of the same) frequent poster who loves to call moms on this board stupid and uneducated.

[Anonymous]

Not the PP, but honestly, enough already with the "you must be evil and pathetic because you assumed someone was a nanny"! Yes, occasionally there are exceptions, but the vast majority of the time, if you see a woman with a different-race child in the middle of the day (especially if they are walking with another similar pair), the woman is indeed the nanny. It is absurd to pretend otherwise, and one doesn't need to apologize for such assumptions--the exception is by definition, the exception.

[Anonymous]

you americans think like this because you think the world revolves around your belly button.

you have no idea of what goes on a couple miles away from your home.

mixed families are everywhere and even the most dark woman has 4 chances in 64 to have a white child if the father of the child is mixed race.

yes, some of you are ignorant and you should not be offended. you should go to google and instead of search for the new trend in strollers, try to read about genetics and different cultural habits.

no need to applaud.

[Anonymous]

"A couple of miles away from my home" it is more likely that OP was right and that the woman in question was a nanny. Google couldn't help us determine whether that's true, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"A couple of miles away from my home" it is more likely that OP was right and that the woman in question was a nanny. Google couldn't help us determine whether that's true, anyway.

I'll assume this is not a joke and you're really stupid.

now a days people don't know their neighbors that well.
i.e. my next door neighbor didn't know we had a single mother in our neighborhood. when I told her we had she shouted I WONDER HOW SHE CAN AFFORD LIVING HERE. no need to tell we're not friends anymore.

no. she doesn't know if it is the nanny just using google, you're right. BUUUUUUUUT, "googling" can teach you A LOT about other culture's habits in parenting and childcare.

got it or I'll have to draw it?

[Anonymous]

But, a couple of miles away from my home likely isn't a different culture. It's a couple of miles from my house. And while I don't know every single neighbor, I know that, more likely than not, the situation OP describes is probably two nannies walking their charges. And good for them! We need nannies. What's wrong with that? Are you suggesting that it's insulting to call someone a nanny? Surely not.

You do yourself and your point no favors here, Mean Uncapitalized Insulting Frequent Angry Poster!

[Anonymous]

OP, please ignore everyone who is trying to derail you from your question to get a "hot" thread going. I suspect you continue to be bothered by what you saw and took this forum to what it should be..a virtual community as a sounding board. I think in the future I would say something politely as some suggested like " I think her gloves fell off .." I know if my nanny for whatever reason was neglectful, I would appreciate someone stepping up and "politely" talking to her. She might say "yes, she hates gloves..or she actually tends to get really hot". Either way, I love my nanny but like the idea of community watching over one another with respect.

If someone said that to me politely, I would not be bothered by it depending on how it is said. If someone says "you should put a hat on her" as opppose to "Did her hat fell off". My reply would vary from "mind your own business" to "she hates hats" respectively.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will agree with you and sky write my apology the very first time I ever meet an African-born woman who either gives birth to or adopts a pale-skinned, blonde child with fine straight hair and light eyes. I promise.

I know a little boy who fits this to a T.

His mother is black with a fairly dark skin tone, his father is pale white.

The child is very pale, blonde haired(straight and fine) and blue eyed. His little sister is pretty light skinned herself but took on more of her mother's phsyical traits-a beautiful little girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But, a couple of miles away from my home likely isn't a different culture. It's a couple of miles from my house. And while I don't know every single neighbor, I know that, more likely than not, the situation OP describes is probably two nannies walking their charges. And good for them! We need nannies. What's wrong with that? Are you suggesting that it's insulting to call someone a nanny? Surely not.

You do yourself and your point no favors here, Mean Uncapitalized Insulting Frequent Angry Poster!

My house can be a couple of miles away from YOUR HOUSE.

We're a mixed color and culture family. (yes, we speak 3 languages in our house. we have citizens of 4 different countries in our household)

we have adoptive children and I HATE when people think I'm the nanny.

not because being a nanny is bad. I was a nanny for several years.
just because of the early assumptions and ignorance.

when I go out with my nanny people even asked if we are a gay couple!!!!!!!!!
no, I don't have problems with gays.

what makes me sick is the velocity in which people make assumptions and build concepts and the shallow beliefs that base such reactions.

if you don't know, USA is built of several different cultures and they're next door to your sweet home.
open your eyes or I'll assume you're xenophobic.

[Anonymous]

LOL!

[Anonymous]

13:14 - you really need to chill...

You may not want to admit it, but you are the exception. I live in a pretty diverse (culturally) area and there just aren't that many white, fair children born (or adopted) to dark skinned mothers. I'm not racist or xenophobic or anything else. The reality is that you are the exception and 99 times out of 100 (if not more), the dark skinned female with a baby around here will be a nanny (this being an area full of nannies).

Is it an assumption? Sure, but it is a pretty reasonable one and nothing to get so worked up over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:13:14 - you really need to chill...

You may not want to admit it, but you are the exception. I live in a pretty diverse (culturally) area and there just aren't that many white, fair children born (or adopted) to dark skinned mothers. I'm not racist or xenophobic or anything else. The reality is that you are the exception and 99 times out of 100 (if not more), the dark skinned female with a baby around here will be a nanny (this being an area full of nannies).

Is it an assumption? Sure, but it is a pretty reasonable one and nothing to get so worked up over.

the problem is not the assumption.
the problem is the reason for the assumption.

the cultural diversity is under our noses and we close our eyes and pretend it's not.

just because the "majority" is pale and has blue eyes they ignore the fact that even different heritages and cultural backgrounds can have people with such biological type.

there's no "pure race" anymore and who tried to did it caused one of the worse massacres in the history of humanity.
when we'll live such line of thought behind?