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Nanny with child not dressed for cold weather
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Anonymous
I opened the door, you walked in-get ready for serious flames. |
Anonymous
| OP, I would have assumed the same thing. |
Anonymous
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You go, OP!
Honestly, if it were me, I like to think that I would have said something to the nanny. For whatever reason, I think it's easier to speak to someone whom I presume to be a nanny, as opposed to a parent. (Sort of like saying something to nannies at the park who are clearly ignoring their crying charges... and yes, I've done that a couple of times.) Just say, "Gosh, that child really looks cold. Do you need some help buttoning her coat?" Based on my experience (see above), the worst you will get is an embarrassed-looking glare before she scrambles into action. |
Anonymous
| Where's my popcorn? |
Anonymous
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You can post on Isawyournanny.com.
Include details such as where -- for example, not just "Silver Spring" but "corner of Wayne and Fenton" not just "today" but Tuesday, March 3 at 3:15 p.m. -- not just a nanny but "I surmised she was a nanny due to a clear difference in race." Describe both the nanny and child in terms of physical features, height weight and clothing. Describe the incident clearly and succinctly without a lot of drama. |
Anonymous
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Remember that a baby in a stroller is not getting exercise like you are if you are walking, so they are going to need to be more warmly dressed than the mom or nanny.
No child care situation is perfect but I was a nanny, my parents HAD nannies for my younger siblings, and now as a mom, I seriously prefer child care centers. Multiple adults around as a check on one another's behavior or on someone's "bad day". |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't do this in 20 degree weather but when it is in the 40's I always just put a sweatshirt over my son't shirt, put him in the car and carry him into stores. We go a few yards and I can't put him in the carseat in a puffy coat. Maybe the Nanny had tons of layers on the baby. Like onsies and sleepers and shirts. Maybe it was warm despite the jacket being open. |
Anonymous
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OP again. My intent was not to start a war about nannies, bi-racial families, etc. Maybe it wasn't the nanny! Maybe it was just a crappy mother! The point is, that the child was improperly dressed and I was wondering whether I should say something.
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maynie
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No, I don't think you should have. I'm sure the nanny or mother was fully aware of what the child was wearing and you saying something wouldn't do anything but tick her off. My daughter hates lots of layers. She tries to go outside in shorts and skirts all the time. I don't let her, but I don't force her to wear lots of layers either. The only time I make her wear a hat and gloves is if we go play in the snow. She's just not a kid that gets cold easily. She doesn't like a blanket on at night, even though her room is the coldest. It's just the way she is. When she was younger if someone said something, I would just go, "uh huh. Sure" Also, I am Black. My daughter has very white skin, red hair, and blue eyes. When she was a baby, people were always asking me where her mother was. But, for what it's worth, I would still assume the same thing you did. |
Anonymous
| My DH doesn't ever put hats or gloves on the kids. Sometimes he doesn't even put their coats on! If they are just going to/from the car or even for short walks down the street, the kids will be totally fine. Even in this weather. Playing at the playground or spending extended periods of time outdoors - yeah, they should be properly dressed. But honestly, I am "that mom" that people are always tsk'ing at because the kids are underdressed. Oh well. |
Anonymous
this is not limited to nannies. We were out after it snowed and my neighbor's 2 yo kid was out in a sweater, no gloves/mittens. She was just with her mom, so it's not like her mom hadn't seen her. Parents can also be neglectful. |
Anonymous
funny, funny. Ha ha ha. Hoo hoo hoo. |
Anonymous
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So the real question is ... what do you do if you see SOMEONE with a child under-dressed?
Like a PP, that could have been my DH & I would be glad if you said something to him!! If it was me ... well, probably wouldn't have been! If it was my nanny - yes, please make a comment. Would I comment myself - no. But I don't see how this issue has anything to do with who the person was. |
Anonymous
I won't call you crazy. I'll call you IGNORANT. have you heard the word ADOPTION before? Did you know that some parents ask IN LAWs or FRIENDS to watch their children? You're ridiculous and sick to assume that just because the hair texture is different and the skin color seems different their relationship is employer-employee. YOU'RE PATHETIC! |
Anonymous
if the intent of your nice, gentle and kind heart was to help the poor freezing child why didn't you say anything to the "nanny"? posting it online won't make the child warmer. you're sick, full of prejudice and a LIAR! if you really was worried about the child you should had done something right there. saving it for later to post on the internet is not the attitude of someone who wants to help |