Women: Did you ask your significant other to be your boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just going to move on. I feel that if he's not that into me now. He never will be.

It happens to all of us, OP. I've been married 12 years but before meeting my DH was in your exact situation many times.
Hang in there, OP. You will meet the right one!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure that you're not rushing him a bit? That doesn't sound like he's relegated you to friend only status, just that he isn't ready to commit to one person, yet. That seems reasonable actually....maybe give him a little space/time to sort this all out in his own head?

I don't know, I just kind of figured that it's been almost 6 months of us dating. I guess I'm kind of pressuring things unintentionally due to my lack of experience and age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did. It had only been six weeks or so but we were seeing each other twice a week and wed already talked about going out of town together a specific weekend in a few months. I didn't want to be planning that if he was seeing other people.

I was pretty sure he wasn't. I asked him how he'd feel about us only seeing each other. He did seem a bit surprised (I brought it up out of nowhere). He asked where that came from and I said I was at a point in my life where I'm ready to care about someone, and I only want to be with that person. He said yes. Mid twenties.

I've done something similar twice, each time about 3-4 months into dating (going out multiple times a week.) The first time, it prompted a discussion which culminated in him essentially saying that he was happy right now, but didn't really see a long term future to our relationship. Not what I wanted to hear, but it was better to break up then than for me to keep seeing him, get more and more invested, and later realize he wasn't on the same page as me. The second time the guy was on the same page as I was and now we are married!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did. It had only been six weeks or so but we were seeing each other twice a week and wed already talked about going out of town together a specific weekend in a few months. I didn't want to be planning that if he was seeing other people.

I was pretty sure he wasn't. I asked him how he'd feel about us only seeing each other. He did seem a bit surprised (I brought it up out of nowhere). He asked where that came from and I said I was at a point in my life where I'm ready to care about someone, and I only want to be with that person. He said yes. Mid twenties.

I've done something similar twice, each time about 3-4 months into dating (going out multiple times a week.) The first time, it prompted a discussion which culminated in him essentially saying that he was happy right now, but didn't really see a long term future to our relationship. Not what I wanted to hear, but it was better to break up then than for me to keep seeing him, get more and more invested, and later realize he wasn't on the same page as me. The second time the guy was on the same page as I was and now we are married!

op here, that's great! This was about my 3rd or 4th time confessing my feelings, and it hasn't panned out in my favor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did. It had only been six weeks or so but we were seeing each other twice a week and wed already talked about going out of town together a specific weekend in a few months. I didn't want to be planning that if he was seeing other people.

I was pretty sure he wasn't. I asked him how he'd feel about us only seeing each other. He did seem a bit surprised (I brought it up out of nowhere). He asked where that came from and I said I was at a point in my life where I'm ready to care about someone, and I only want to be with that person. He said yes. Mid twenties.

I've done something similar twice, each time about 3-4 months into dating (going out multiple times a week.) The first time, it prompted a discussion which culminated in him essentially saying that he was happy right now, but didn't really see a long term future to our relationship. Not what I wanted to hear, but it was better to break up then than for me to keep seeing him, get more and more invested, and later realize he wasn't on the same page as me. The second time the guy was on the same page as I was and now we are married!

op here, that's great! This was about my 3rd or 4th time confessing my feelings, and it hasn't panned out in my favor.

OP, cut your losses. When a man is interested in a woman, he finds time and invests in the relationship, period, end of story. I have no doubt there is someone out there who is going to be overjoyed meeting you, and vice versa. Then you can write back and tell us how great things are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure that you're not rushing him a bit? That doesn't sound like he's relegated you to friend only status, just that he isn't ready to commit to one person, yet. That seems reasonable actually....maybe give him a little space/time to sort this all out in his own head?

Why are you giving OP false hope? Men are very logical. He said he thinks of her as a " good friend". Any man that was romantically interested in a woman, will never use the word friend to describe her. He isn't interested. Move on OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure that you're not rushing him a bit? That doesn't sound like he's relegated you to friend only status, just that he isn't ready to commit to one person, yet. That seems reasonable actually....maybe give him a little space/time to sort this all out in his own head?

Why are you giving OP false hope? Men are very logical. He said he thinks of her as a " good friend". Any man that was romantically interested in a woman, will never use the word friend to describe her. He isn't interested. Move on OP.

Maybe you two can be good Friends when you have moved on completely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did. It had only been six weeks or so but we were seeing each other twice a week and wed already talked about going out of town together a specific weekend in a few months. I didn't want to be planning that if he was seeing other people.

I was pretty sure he wasn't. I asked him how he'd feel about us only seeing each other. He did seem a bit surprised (I brought it up out of nowhere). He asked where that came from and I said I was at a point in my life where I'm ready to care about someone, and I only want to be with that person. He said yes. Mid twenties.

I've done something similar twice, each time about 3-4 months into dating (going out multiple times a week.) The first time, it prompted a discussion which culminated in him essentially saying that he was happy right now, but didn't really see a long term future to our relationship. Not what I wanted to hear, but it was better to break up then than for me to keep seeing him, get more and more invested, and later realize he wasn't on the same page as me. The second time the guy was on the same page as I was and now we are married!

op here, that's great! This was about my 3rd or 4th time confessing my feelings, and it hasn't panned out in my favor.

OP, cut your losses. When a is interested in a woman, he finds time and invests in the relationship, period, end of story. I have no doubt there is someone out there who is going to be overjoyed meeting you, and vice versa. Then you can write back and tell us how great things are.

it's hard to be optimistic about it honestly, but the good thing about the future is that you never know what it holds.