Something is wrong with me! Female related.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:30-year-old proven mothers who don't use birth control tend to get pregnant. I understand, I can't use birth control hormones either, and I'm also allergic to latex condoms. But rhythm is not a reliable birth control method. either get your partner to get a vasectomy or use charting plus condoms. Do not have sex at all on the days you are likely to get pregnant, And use condoms on the safer days.

I am sorry. Please don't feel bad if you need to get an abortion. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm sure you don't want to be going through this, regardless.

Please don't assume I wasn't taking precautions. I was using both the calendar method and the today sponge. I'm pregnant regardless. I don't wish my feelings right now on anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:30-year-old proven mothers who don't use birth control tend to get pregnant. I understand, I can't use birth control hormones either, and I'm also allergic to latex condoms. But rhythm is not a reliable birth control method. either get your partner to get a vasectomy or use charting plus condoms. Do not have sex at all on the days you are likely to get pregnant, And use condoms on the safer days.

I am sorry. Please don't feel bad if you need to get an abortion. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm sure you don't want to be going through this, regardless.

Please don't assume I wasn't taking precautions. I was using both the calendar method and the today sponge. I'm pregnant regardless. I don't wish my feelings right now on anyone.

This happened to me several months ago, OP. Birth control failure happens, no matter how much people want to bleat about personal responsibility.

Let yourself feel what you're feeling, whatever that is.

Do you have anyone you can talk about this with?

[Anonymous]

Fyi, according to the mayo clinic, "An estimated 24 out of 100 women who've given birth will get pregnant during the first year of typical use of the contraceptive sponge."

[Anonymous]

OP here. I don't have anyone to talk to. My family is very pro-life. I'll deal with this on my own.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you have a job, you likely have an EAP (employee assistance program). Most provide about 5 FREE visits with a counselor. The data does not get reported back to the employer, just a count of employees/family members who use the service.

Seek it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't have anyone to talk to. My family is very pro-life. I'll deal with this on my own.

I'm really sorry, OP. I'm really, really sorry. There are compassionate doctors and non-judgmental providers out there; I hope you have one or find one. No matter where you land, I will be thinking of you. And whatever decision you make will be the right one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't have anyone to talk to. My family is very pro-life. I'll deal with this on my own.

I'm really sorry, OP. I'm really, really sorry. There are compassionate doctors and non-judgmental providers out there; I hope you have one or find one. No matter where you land, I will be thinking of you. And whatever decision you make will be the right one.

Ugh. Including your husband? If so, he really needs to get a vasectomy or at least wear condoms.

Sorry op.

[Anonymous]

OP here. My husband isn't to blame and we've spoken about our dilemma over the past 48 hours. I haven't used condoms in the past 11 years and get yearly exams. My birth control choice failed. I plan to terminate ASAP. I have insurance coverage if I should feel the need to see a counselor after this. My choice is complicated and not based on one or two factors. Thanks for those that have shown compassion.

[Anonymous]

I hope everything turns out ok for you op, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. It will be over soon.

[Anonymous]

I am NOT a pro lifer by any means. Just thought I'd mention the adoption option even though I know it's a tough one and not the easiest path to take.

I am an adoptive parent and my husband and I tried for years to find a sibling for our son.

This is your decision to make and I know carrying a baby - especially when you have other kids can be difficult.

Adoption is a wonderful option though and many women simply say they are a surrogate to avoid questions.

I wish you the best and I'm sorry for this unexpected stress.

[Anonymous]

Pp, with all due respect, that is bad advice. I get that you are looking at things from the bias of an adoptive parent, but people terminate for very different reasons than they place. And women who place, especially those who have kids already, usually struggle much more than women who terminate.

Good luck to you OP. I know you will make the best choice for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:30-year-old proven mothers who don't use birth control tend to get pregnant. I understand, I can't use birth control hormones either, and I'm also allergic to latex condoms. But rhythm is not a reliable birth control method. either get your partner to get a vasectomy or use charting plus condoms. Do not have sex at all on the days you are likely to get pregnant, And use condoms on the safer days.

I am sorry. Please don't feel bad if you need to get an abortion. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm sure you don't want to be going through this, regardless.

Please don't assume I wasn't taking precautions. I was using both the calendar method and the today sponge. I'm pregnant regardless. I don't wish my feelings right now on anyone.

Seriously, OP? Those are completely unreliable birth control methods. Talk to your OB. Otherwise you have 10-15 more years worth of unwanted pregnancies ahead.

[Anonymous]

Good luck to you, OP. you are not alone.

[Anonymous]

OP - can you share the factors that lead you to consider terminating your dilemma?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - can you share the factors that lead you to consider terminating your dilemma?

What an odd and completely inappropriate question. Would you care to share that factors that led to your personal sexual health decisions? How about the number of sex partners you've had? How old were you when you began your menstrual cycle?