Are Boys Bullied for being Uncircumcised?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here...anyone here have an older son that can share some insight? I know, kids are in school now so you can't ask him, but if you ever heard him talking about it, or maybe you can remember to ask him sometime and report back. I am really curious. TIA

I have one circ'd son and one uncirc'd son. They really don't seem to care and have never mentioned anyone else caring either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was young the reverse was true in this area, and seeing someone uncircumcised was unusual. However, there was one guy on several teams with me who was uncircumcised, and he was not bullied for it.

The reason for this is that to bully another boy for something related to his penis means you were looking at his penis, which opens you up to the accusation of being gay.

Boys notice, but that's not something that they're likely to bully over.

Was his family from Europe? No one does it in Europe unless it's their religion. They think we're crazy here for doing it to our baby boys.

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Anonymous wrote:No, this will not happen, and neither will the no sex thing. In no situation can I imagine a couple getting all hot and heavy and naked, and then saying, "Oops, look at that. Never mind."

Guys do not spend that much time starting at each other's penises in the locker room, they just don't.

I don't really care how you feel about circumcision one way or the other, but I wish people could actually have a conversation about it without resulting to myths, stereotypes, and unfounded conjecture.

Have you spent much time in boys locker rooms?

Who cares? You?

I just want to know if you know what you're talking about. I suspect you're a woman, which would mean you do not.

I am the first PP, not the "Who cares" responder, but I do have the same question. Have you spent time in a locker room? If not, what makes you the authority? Are you saying you are a male?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here...anyone here have an older son that can share some insight? I know, kids are in school now so you can't ask him, but if you ever heard him talking about it, or maybe you can remember to ask him sometime and report back. I am really curious. TIA

I have one circ'd son and one uncirc'd son. They really don't seem to care and have never mentioned anyone else caring either.

Smart family, 10:21. Body parts are (should be) a non-issue for intellegent people.

[Anonymous]

My husband is uncircumcised, and grew up in New York, and says he was (a) not 100% sure if he was the only one who was not circ'ed but he thinks maybe so and (b) no one ever mentioned it to him or made fun of him in his high school locker room.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is uncircumcised, and grew up in New York, and says he was (a) not 100% sure if he was the only one who was not circ'ed but he thinks maybe so and (b) no one ever mentioned it to him or made fun of him in his high school locker room.

My DH had the opposite experience. He's from central america - they don't circ there as much. He was always self-conscious of his uncirc'ed penis. We have two boys now, and both are circ'ed. DH thought it would be easier for cleaning purposes and to fit in. I would think it would be less of an issue now that more boys are uncirc'ed. I know many of my female friends of my generation think an uncirc'ed penis is gross. I still married DH, so it doesn't really bother me.

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Anonymous wrote:More likely to be mocked if his dick is small than if he's cut or not.

How ignorant. So sad boys can be that shallow. If that was the case, I'd look for a better enviornment for my kid.

No such thing. Boys compare the sizes of their dicks. It's innate and universal.

No, we never did. I think some of the posters here have quite a strange attitude to what goes out in a locker room. I mean, maybe if you are in a fraternity filled with repressed homosexuality this is a big thing, but normal boys don't know or care whether other boys are circumcised or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mostly educated parents aren't doing it unless they're Jewish. So no, to your question.

+1. OP's question would have made sense 40 years ago, not now. Circ rates in the US have been going down for decades, and no developed country except the US has ever done mass circ, so in highly educated areas you can expect more boys to be intact than cut.

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I think being uncut will become more and more common. Wouldn't worry about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Mostly educated parents aren't doing it unless they're Jewish. So no, to your question.

+1. OP's question would have made sense 40 years ago, not now. Circ rates in the US have been going down for decades, and no developed country except the US has ever done mass circ, so in highly educated areas you can expect more boys to be intact than cut.

This is a medical crisis of ignorance and the AAP stepped in to make sure people know that there are medical benifits.

http://healthland.time.com/2013/08/22/explaining-the-drop-in-circumcision-rates/

he American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) finds that circumcision has potential medical benefits and advantages, as well as risks. A recent analysis by the AAP concluded that the medical benefits of circumcision outweigh the risks. We recommend that the decision to circumcise is one best made by parents in consultation with their pediatrician, taking into account what is in the best interests of the child, including medical, religious, cultural, and ethnic traditions and personal beliefs.

Your pediatrician (or your obstetrician if he or she would be performing the circumcision) should discuss the benefits and risks of circumcision with you and the forms of analgesia that are available.

Last Updated 9/5/2013

[Anonymous]

The locker room stereotypes are getting a workout in this thread. Although boys are aware of each other's penises and know who's got a large one and who doesn't, they don't stand there and compare. No one whips out the ruler.

But if you want to keep imagining that boys compare that way, I'll keep imagining that girls wear slinky lingerie and have tickle fights at sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here...anyone here have an older son that can share some insight? I know, kids are in school now so you can't ask him, but if you ever heard him talking about it, or maybe you can remember to ask him sometime and report back. I am really curious. TIA

I have an older son. Girls/women think it is unsanitary and smells.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here...anyone here have an older son that can share some insight? I know, kids are in school now so you can't ask him, but if you ever heard him talking about it, or maybe you can remember to ask him sometime and report back. I am really curious. TIA

I have an older son. Girls/women think it is unsanitary and smells.

It is not something that boys talk about. Or care. Like, do you walk up to someone who smells and tell them?

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Not necessarily...

My first real sexual relationship was with my college boyfriend who was not American and not circ'd. He was not smelly or gross-he was awesome and so was the sex. I knew that he was not circ'd but I really had no other penis experience so I didn't think much about it.
Second serious boyfriend was while living abroad after college. Also non-American and also non-circ'd. Definitely not smelly or gross. Sex was not as great as college boyfriend but that had nothing to do with the penis. Actually, if I told you the nationalities-you would assume the opposite about the quality of the sex based on country of origin-but that is another thread entirely.
Third relationship was with the man I married. American and circ'd. Great relationship, great sex-but that may have more to do with size...again, another thread entirely.

Thank you dcum-I am really enjoying this crazy thread!

[Anonymous]

According to this study, more educated parents are MORE likely to circ.

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/432441_3