Children stigma

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Eh, I'm sure the danger is minimal, and you'd have to be careful to protect your kid from abusers in any event. Keeping it out of your profile is not a surefire way to prevent abuse.

Do you have children?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

When was the last time you dated online?

You are ridiculous. Most dating sites have a box to check that says, have children, want children, don't want children etc... If you check yes to the have children box it doesn't attract predators. It doesn't give any information about age, gender, number - just that you have kids. You could have a 16 year old son, a 3 year old daughter or 2 adult children for all the readers know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Please. Don't be so stupid. The kids profile is not posted. Its a simple check box. If a predator wants to molest a child and their MO is to date someone with kids, they don't need to go online to find someone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Eh, I'm sure the danger is minimal, and you'd have to be careful to protect your kid from abusers in any event. Keeping it out of your profile is not a surefire way to prevent abuse.

Do you have children?

Yes, I have children, and if I were to date online I would prominently discuss how my child was my #1 priority. I also put pictures of my kid all over Facebook, ZOMG!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Eh, I'm sure the danger is minimal, and you'd have to be careful to protect your kid from abusers in any event. Keeping it out of your profile is not a surefire way to prevent abuse.

Do you have children?

Yes, I have children, and if I were to date online I would prominently discuss how my child was my #1 priority. I also put pictures of my kid all over Facebook, ZOMG!!!

Same here. AND I even live in a cul-de-sac FULL of kids in each house. I bet predators patrol my street. Better move.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Eh, I'm sure the danger is minimal, and you'd have to be careful to protect your kid from abusers in any event. Keeping it out of your profile is not a surefire way to prevent abuse.

Do you have children?

Yes, I have children, and if I were to date online I would prominently discuss how my child was my #1 priority. I also put pictures of my kid all over Facebook, ZOMG!!!

Facebook is friends & family. Online dating is strangers. In particular, strange men. Apples and oranges.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Eh, I'm sure the danger is minimal, and you'd have to be careful to protect your kid from abusers in any event. Keeping it out of your profile is not a surefire way to prevent abuse.

Do you have children?

Yes, I have children, and if I were to date online I would prominently discuss how my child was my #1 priority. I also put pictures of my kid all over Facebook, ZOMG!!!

Facebook is friends & family. Online dating is strangers. In particular, strange men. Apples and oranges.

How dense are you? Nobody is posting pics of children on dating profiles, just checking a box indicating a person has children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Eh, I'm sure the danger is minimal, and you'd have to be careful to protect your kid from abusers in any event. Keeping it out of your profile is not a surefire way to prevent abuse.

Do you have children?

Yes, I have children, and if I were to date online I would prominently discuss how my child was my #1 priority. I also put pictures of my kid all over Facebook, ZOMG!!!

Facebook is friends & family. Online dating is strangers. In particular, strange men. Apples and oranges.

How dense are you? Nobody is posting pics of children on dating profiles, just checking a box indicating a person has children.

Not that dense since the above PP said exactly that. BTW checking the box is so people can search for other people with kids. That's an invitation compared to a non-searchable photo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Eh, I'm sure the danger is minimal, and you'd have to be careful to protect your kid from abusers in any event. Keeping it out of your profile is not a surefire way to prevent abuse.

Do you have children?

Yes, I have children, and if I were to date online I would prominently discuss how my child was my #1 priority. I also put pictures of my kid all over Facebook, ZOMG!!!

Facebook is friends & family. Online dating is strangers. In particular, strange men. Apples and oranges.

How dense are you? Nobody is posting pics of children on dating profiles, just checking a box indicating a person has children.

Not that dense since the above PP said exactly that. BTW checking the box is so people can search for other people with kids. That's an invitation compared to a non-searchable photo.

you are an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you in DC? Most late 20s/early 30s guys in DC are freaked out by the idea of kids of their own, much less being a step-parent. You are wasting your time if you don't disclose the kid upfront. It should be in your profile if you are online dating. If you don't want to disclose it for privacy or safety reasons, then you should be proactively looking for guys in their late thirties or single fathers.

That is dangerous advice. Putting kids in an online dating profile can attract predators for women.

Eh, I'm sure the danger is minimal, and you'd have to be careful to protect your kid from abusers in any event. Keeping it out of your profile is not a surefire way to prevent abuse.

Right. Nobody is saying post pics of your kids, but as a single mom, I'm totally turned off by guys who don't mention that they are fathers in their profiles. And yes, this has happened before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Dad with kids and love them; but if I were single, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to put all this time and effort into some other guy's kid. So, I understand the reluctance. It's not necessarily anti-kid; but may be anti-someone-else's-kid.

I've heard this from many men. Even the ones that want to have a family someday don't want to deal with another guy's kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a Dad with kids and love them; but if I were single, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to put all this time and effort into some other guy's kid. So, I understand the reluctance. It's not necessarily anti-kid; but may be anti-someone-else's-kid.

I've heard this from many men. Even the ones that want to have a family someday don't want to deal with another guy's kid.

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[Anonymous]

You are foolish - and frankly wasting their time - if you don't mention your child before going out on a first date. Get real.

[Anonymous]

You have baggage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's potential deal-breaker info, OP. I'm a single mom as well and I feel your frustration, but pre-kid I dated a guy who didn't disclose that he had a child before our first date and I was pissed. Let people know in advance. Will keep both of you from wasting your time. Besides, anyone who runs after the first date after finding out that you're a mom isn't a keeper (for you) anyway. Best of luck.

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People are entitled to relevant information and to reject potential partners based on that information.