Looking for encouragement, BFN again ;(

[Anonymous]

Dude, what? OP, I think you posting about frustration after your third cycle is a bit insensitive here. And totally ignorant and unrealistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, what? OP, I think you posting about frustration after your third cycle is a bit insensitive here. And totally ignorant and unrealistic.

I agree that it is unrealistic, but not really insensitive since this is the TTC board instead of the IF board (I'm an IFer, so I "get it").

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, what? OP, I think you posting about frustration after your third cycle is a bit insensitive here. And totally ignorant and unrealistic.

Op here. I guess I don't see that bc this forum and others are often inundated with "most people are preg within three months" crap tho statistics don't work that way truly, the tries are not additive. So I'm not seeing the unrealistic part based on a lot of responses here, and insensitive? I thought we were al. TTC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude, what? OP, I think you posting about frustration after your third cycle is a bit insensitive here. And totally ignorant and unrealistic.

Op here. I guess I don't see that bc this forum and others are often inundated with "most people are preg within three months" crap tho statistics don't work that way truly, the tries are not additive. So I'm not seeing the unrealistic part based on a lot of responses here, and insensitive? I thought we were al. TTC.

Ok, as someone who has been TTC for over 2 years who technically "should" be offended by OP's post, I am just not seeing PP's point about insensitivity. We are all in this awful predicament together and should support one another. I feel so alone and can imagine feeling the same way even AFTER having 2 kids. At least right now lots of people sympathize with me because I don't have any. But once you try for your third, you are suddenly selfish and insensitive for talking about it? Sorry, I think it's frustrating and hard no matter what. Granted, many of us have it "worse" than others, but the hurt is still there.

Like her original post said, she's looking for encouragement! Can we please just encourage one another for once?? Ok, rant over.

[Anonymous]

Op here, another failed month. And on my bday.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear that, OP. It is disappointing but hang in there - you're still well within average timeline for TTC. Hope that you had a fun drink to celebrate your birthday!

[Anonymous]

I kind of agree OP with those who said your expectations are a bit unrealistic. I wouldn't get yourself so worked up - it's not going to help you conceive. It's completely normal for someone of your age to take a year to get pregnant. It's going to be a long haul for all of us if you spend the next seven months obsessing every time you get a BFN.

[Anonymous]

OP, your expectations aren't set right. At age 36, you need to try for 6-12 months. Are you charting? Temping? Your cycles can change; for all you know, you might not even be having sex at the right time of the month. DH and I lost 3 cycles that way because I was *sure* I knew when I ovulated. Once I started temping, my window was 2-3 days earlier than I had imagined. So what are you doing besides crossing your fingers??? I am 33 btw and it took us 13 cycles (I am a PP from the first page) when it was so easy and simple the first time around 6 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your expectations aren't set right. At age 36, you need to try for 6-12 months. Are you charting? Temping? Your cycles can change; for all you know, you might not even be having sex at the right time of the month. DH and I lost 3 cycles that way because I was *sure* I knew when I ovulated. Once I started temping, my window was 2-3 days earlier than I had imagined. So what are you doing besides crossing your fingers??? I am 33 btw and it took us 13 cycles (I am a PP from the first page) when it was so easy and simple the first time around 6 years ago.

Op here. I'm using a monitor, pre-seed lady month. Not sure what else to do. Where are you getting your 6-12 month figure?

[Anonymous]

*last

[Anonymous]

Stop trying so hard. It's hard to feel sorry for you with two kids. Take this as a sign and move on. What's meant to be will be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop trying so hard. It's hard to feel sorry for you with two kids. Take this as a sign and move on. What's meant to be will be.

You're nasty. Tis the season!

[Anonymous]

OP -- everyone has a right to want a specific size family. I think try to just be patient -- things don't always happen so fast. I'm also trying for my 3rd, and though I got pregnant on the first try, I lost the baby at 3 months. I've now tried for 2 more months and no dice -- I'm trying to look at the children I have as blessings, and a 3rd would be a bonus but not a necessity. I hope it works out for you.