Holiday drama already starting

[Anonymous]

Classy family.

[Anonymous]

I can't post a screenshot for obvious reasons. I am so damn happy the famiy is calling toxicSIL on her crap. They even called my brother out for putting his head in the sand where she is concerned.

So now the family is comparing notes now. toxicSIL is notorious for talking shit behind your back and being nice to your face. Several convos are now going on diff fb pages. She loves to be the center of attention but I don't think she is enjoying this. All her shit is coming to light. God I am loving this. I've had to bite my tongue so many times that I can't believe parts of my tounge are not missing.

That bitch is probably crying her eyes out. Playing the role of victim and she did this all to herself.

My good SIL and I danced around the living room like kids singing ding dong the witch is dead the witch is dead. We can barely pry ourselves away from fb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Classy family.

We are not usually like this. We're quite civilized usually. EIGHT years of pent up frustration are coming out. That is how long we've had to deal with this woman and her shit. I cannot believe we put up with it for so long. Just to keep the peace with my brother?? What makes him so damn special. He's not. This bitch should have been confronted 7 years and 11 months ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't say anything about posting on facebook. It sounds like OP did the right thing by making family plans with those she wants to spend time with - nothing wrong with that.

You're so right. Exclusion is a beautiful thing.

Sister in law was terrible to post on Facebook. Wow.
However....excluding them for your holiday planning is really, really mean. Wow. You are in the wrong, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Classy family.

We are not usually like this. We're quite civilized usually. EIGHT years of pent up frustration are coming out. That is how long we've had to deal with this woman and her shit. I cannot believe we put up with it for so long. Just to keep the peace with my brother?? What makes him so damn special. He's not. This bitch should have been confronted 7 years and 11 months ago.

We need some of the backstory, OP! What has she been doing for the last 8 years??

But - good for you. Spend holidays with people you like. Amen and Mazel Tov.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Classy family.

We are not usually like this. We're quite civilized usually. EIGHT years of pent up frustration are coming out. That is how long we've had to deal with this woman and her shit. I cannot believe we put up with it for so long. Just to keep the peace with my brother?? What makes him so damn special. He's not. This bitch should have been confronted 7 years and 11 months ago.

Not to rain on your parade, but...yeah, she should've been confronted 7 years and 11 months ago. Not so you could have the pleasure of cutting her dead, but so that 1) she would've had the opportunity to build a better relationship with your family; 2) you would've avoided 8 years of frustration; 3) it wouldn't have blown up in such a painful and ugly way; and 4) there wouldn't be such serious damage to the relationships within your family. She was toxic, but she didn't hold a gun to anyone's head (as far as I know). You guys could've been adults about this much earlier and done the difficult work of drawing boundaries way back before this got all out of hand.

I get the instinct to celebrate that someone who has caused you pain is now hurting, and I think you're making the right decision now to celebrate the holidays without her, but please try to keep in mind that members of your family are hurting. They contributed to this situation, but so did everyone who didn't do the right thing 8 years ago, including you. So maybe tone down all the glee, ok?

[Anonymous]

Enjoy it OP. The people who are criticizing you haven't been in your shoes. I am waiting patiently for my batshit crazy Aunt to get what she deserves (and my Uncle (blood)) who has also stuck his head in the sand and let his wife abuse his family and be horrible to them. The rest of the family is close and kind, but I've had enough of pretending that the Aunt isn't horrible, and the last few holidays without her have been FABULOUS.

[Anonymous]

I feel for you OP. DH's family has similar drama and holiday drama is on the brink of starting with us too. I hope you get to enjoy the holidays!

[Anonymous]

Extended family Thanksgiving=generational gastronomical gangbang.
Pass on the drumsticks and the drama.
Celebrate with the people who bring you peace.

[Anonymous]

Pix or it didn't happen.

[Anonymous]

I found a video of the wedding

[Anonymous]

^^^Um, WOW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous



I can't post a screenshot for obvious reasons. I am so damn happy the famiy is calling toxicSIL on her crap. They even called my brother out for putting his head in the sand where she is concerned.

So now the family is comparing notes now. toxicSIL is notorious for talking shit behind your back and being nice to your face. Several convos are now going on diff fb pages. She loves to be the center of attention but I don't think she is enjoying this. All her shit is coming to light. God I am loving this. I've had to bite my tongue so many times that I can't believe parts of my tounge are not missing.

That bitch is probably crying her eyes out. Playing the role of victim and she did this all to herself.

My good SIL and I danced around the living room like kids singing ding dong the witch is dead the witch is dead. We can barely pry ourselves away from fb.

You sound like a real peach yourself.

[Anonymous]

Wow, what a nasty family -- OP included. Celebrate with your immediate family inly if you dont want to join the gathering but don't divide the family by inviting only some. "Toxic SIL" had the decency to invite the whole family. You sound pretty toxic yourself taking such joy in your brother's family's pain.

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Wow, what a nasty family -- OP included. Celebrate with your immediate family inly if you dont want to join the gathering but don't divide the family by inviting only some. "Toxic SIL" had the decency to invite the whole family. You sound pretty toxic yourself taking such joy in your brother's family's pain.

Exactly