Would you be ok with your child not getting married/having kids?
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Anonymous
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I would be heartbroken, they wouldn't have a partner to share their life with?
Very sad. |
Anonymous
| I married late. I don't ever even think about it. If my kids marry as late as my husband and I did, I don't think I'll even make it to the wedding, i.e. we'll both be in the ground. |
Anonymous
| Does this affect you more if DC is an only child or you are an immigrant? |
Anonymous
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Mom of an only who is unmarried. I want DC to find a life partner (marriage is changing so much so who knows what that will mean in 20 years). I do hope to have grandkids eventually. It's one of the reasons I hope to another child.
DC's happiness is by FAR most important, however. |
Anonymous
| I'd like my children to grow up and be happy, safe, and healthy...mine are so little (three years old and nine months old) that it's really hard to think too hard about grandchildren, but ultimately I'd like them to be happy and not have to worry about them too much (that second part probably isn't too realistic). |
Anonymous
| I have four kids, so odds are in my favor that somebody will wind up married with kids. However, I wouldn't mind if any or all of then didn't want to go down that road. As long as they weren't avoiding intimacy or sexual relationships it would be fine with me. |
Anonymous
Are you my MIL  ?
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Anonymous
| I want my DS to be happy and with someone who makes him happy. I don't think I really get a say in whether they have kis. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I would be ok with it. It is his choice. While grandkids would be great, how could I possibly expect my son to deal with having the responsibility and work for a child if it wasn't really what he wanted? |
Anonymous
| A very good friend is a priest. He is happy with his "single" life and while I can't say how his parents really feel, they were and are very supportive of his choice. He is comfortable with their support and has never told me of any issues in how they dealt with his decision. FWIW he does have a married brother so they will likely have grandchildren from them. |
Anonymous
Another Dad here. I didn't meet my wife to be until I was 34, married at 37 and then my wife had health issues that took us several years. I always knew I wanted children and they complete me, but we had our twins when I was 46 and it's been hard. It is absolutely fulfilling for me, but only because my desire for children was so strong and compelling. If I didn't feel this strongly, the last couple of years may have been even more difficult for me. I know now that you really need to want children to have them, especially later in life. It's far too difficult and easy to resent them if you don't really want them. So, therefore, I want what my children really want. If they don't want children, I really wouldn't want them to go through the long and difficult task of raising children because it's a one-way commitment and there's no backing out. I would definitely be supportive whatever they did. I want them to be able to live fulfilling lives without regrets over what they could have done if they hadn't had children. I would like grandchildren, but my children's future and happiness is more important to me than grandchildren. |
Anonymous
| I would be sad too b/c there is so much joy in having kids. I would not care about the married part as much as the kid part. |