Would you be ok with your child not getting married/having kids?

[Anonymous]

My oldest daughter is so much like my sister it's unreal. Said sister we speak of is 42 years old, single, never been married, never had kids. She's happy and has a fulfilling life with that being said. Back to my daughter though, everything she does is almost exactly like my sister even the little things. It gives me some little hunch that she may end up just like my sister. There is nothing wrong with that. I just want my daughter to be happy. If she is single and happy then that's fine with me or if she is married with 10 kids, that's ok too! I just have a feeling that's how her life could turn. I may be wrong.

So hypothetically speaking, are you ok with the fact that one of your children may not get married and give you grandchildren? I am especially interested to hear from moms who have just 1 kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My oldest daughter is so much like my sister it's unreal. Said sister we speak of is 42 years old, single, never been married, never had kids. She's happy and has a fulfilling life with that being said. Back to my daughter though, everything she does is almost exactly like my sister even the little things. It gives me some little hunch that she may end up just like my sister. There is nothing wrong with that. I just want my daughter to be happy. If she is single and happy then that's fine with me or if she is married with 10 kids, that's ok too! I just have a feeling that's how her life could turn. I may be wrong.

So hypothetically speaking, are you ok with the fact that one of your children may not get married and give you grandchildren? I am especially interested to hear from moms who have just 1 kid.

I'd be very sad. I'd keep it to myself and be supportive of my kid. But deep down, I'd be devastated.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe you.

[Anonymous]

29 year old DD appears to be headed this way. Perfectly fine with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe you.

Uhhh...okay? I don't see what's unbelievable about this but whatever makes you feel better.

[Anonymous]

I would be perfectly fine with it if she was. I was absolutely not, not, not going to get married. Under no circumstances. All of my friends were married or engaged. It was me and me alone at the single table and I was perfectly happy. My husband is the *only* person who could have ever convinced me to get married -- it is such a raw deal to get married for a woman these days. So it is totally possible to be very happy without a spouse and children.

[Anonymous]

I would be thrilled so they could stay with me.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't be a big deal to me. I never thought I'd get married or have kids and I was fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Of course.

[Anonymous]

I want my kids to be happy. If being Marie would make them happy, then I very much want them to get married. I bring single makes them happy then I want them to be single. My kids are 3 and 5, so it's too early to tell.

[Anonymous]

I would be sad but keep up a happy face. I know it's selfish but I want grandkids and not ashamed to say it. I otherwise really am hands off parent. It's just something I look forward to. On some level I also want them to have the se parenting joy (and pain)! I had with them. I know this will be perceived as selfish etc. but it's the truth.

[Anonymous]

Dad here with a 3 yr old, sorry i know you wanted to hear from moms but i wanted to chime in on my experience. I didn't get married til i was 41 and my parents were sick over me not getting married, i resented my parents for nagging me to death to get married and if was huge a relief for them when i finally got married.

You know what, only after having a kid did i really understand their stance on not getting married. I thought i was not a marrying type and diss it off as such, but marriage and having kids really changed my outlook and made me complete. So if my son went down that road or wouldn't get married i would be supportive whatever he decides to do but deepdown i would not be ok with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dad here with a 3 yr old, sorry i know you wanted to hear from moms but i wanted to chime in on my experience. I didn't get married til i was 41 and my parents were sick over me not getting married, i resented my parents for nagging me to death to get married and if was huge a relief for them when i finally got married.

You know what, only after having a kid did i really understand their stance on not getting married. I thought i was not a marrying type and diss it off as such, but marriage and having kids really changed my outlook and made me complete. So if my son went down that road or wouldn't get married i would be supportive whatever he decides to do but deepdown i would not be ok with it.

My brother! I am the person above who said he wanted grandkids. I was single so long I think it spawned clooney like whispers I must be gay! Finally settled down with two dc's and honestly understand what my folks were talking about. Of course I will be supportive whatever their decision. I just hope they settle down and marry. My serial relationships didn't really add much for me.

[Anonymous]

I might be a little sad b/c I have an only child so that would mean no grandkids. But if he is happy, I am happy.

[Anonymous]

I also married "late" but as an older mom, I'd like to see my kids settled before I'm gone. In a career, with a solid set of good friends, passions they follow, and the ability to love and allow for love in their lives.

Married may be what some of that looks like, but it very well may not.

I want them independent and thriving at a much younger age than I was. But, I don't see myself pushing romantic relationships.