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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dad here with a 3 yr old, sorry i know you wanted to hear from moms but i wanted to chime in on my experience.  I didn't get married til i was 41 and my parents were sick over me not getting married, i resented my parents for nagging me to death to get married and if was huge a relief for them when i finally got married.

You know what, only after having a kid did i really understand their stance on not getting married.  I thought i was not a marrying type and diss it off as such, but marriage and having kids really changed my outlook and made me complete.  So if my son went down that road or wouldn't get married i would be supportive whatever he decides to do but deepdown i would not be ok with it.  [/quote]

Another Dad here.  I didn't meet my wife to be until I was 34, married at 37 and then my wife had health issues that took us several years.  I always knew I wanted children and they complete me, but we had our twins when I was 46 and it's been hard.  It is absolutely fulfilling for me, but only because my desire for children was so strong and compelling.  If I didn't feel this strongly, the last couple of years may have been even more difficult for me.  I know now that you really need to want children to have them, especially later in life.  It's far too difficult and easy to resent them if you don't really want them.  So, therefore, I want what my children really want.  If they don't want children, I really wouldn't want them to go through the long and difficult task of raising children because it's a one-way commitment and there's no backing out.  I would definitely be supportive whatever they did.  I want them to be able to live fulfilling lives without regrets over what they could have done if they hadn't had children.  I would like grandchildren, but my children's future and happiness is more important to me than grandchildren.[/quote]

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