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Husband Concerned About My Boss
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Anonymous
| This could be delusional disorder, jealous subtype. It's a mental illness where people cling to false beliefs, in this case that a partner is cheating. They can read the littlest, insignificant thing as an indication of an affair, such as your email hoping that your boss feels better soon. You can never prove that you're not having an affair to someone with jealous delusional disorder. I would look for a psychiatrist and try to talk your husband into getting a psychiatric evaluation, but most people with delusional disorders are very resistant to seeking treatment. Low doses of anti-psychotic drugs are the typical treatment. If marriage counseling helped reduce the jealosy before, that may be useful. |
Anonymous
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I missed 1st time that he's had history of this in other relationships. With it being a lifelong issue, you can't help him & he doesn't want help. He's right & the world is wrong. Do you still get any joy or satisfaction from being married to him? It will only get worse.
Cut him loose & go on with your life. If you have any thoughts of him getting dangerous, get a pistol & learn to use it. You may need it one day. If you are in DC proper, move where you can keep & carry. I worked with a young redneck years ago whose father was even crazier than he was. His drinking buddies joked over beer that his wife might be "screwing the boss". He believed it & decapitated the boss a few days later with a shotgun. The kid himself said "Daddy would believe anything he hears anyway". |
Anonymous
| What if your wife's desk is in her office and she never said a word about it?? |
Anonymous
| Sorry, what if her desk in in her male employers office, and I didn't find out about it for 10 yrs, would you be upset? |
Anonymous
Seriously. This. I’m surprised by all these other posters saying more marriage counseling! Prove to him you aren’t cheating! No, eff that. Your husband is a deeply troubled man and it is not your job to fix that and make him feel better. You did the right thing with going to counseling with him. But you should not be expected to move your life having to account for your every footstep in the office so he feels better. This is NOT normal behavior for any man, and you should not live your life this way. I agree about the boundary suggestion above. I’d give him one last chance to get his insecurities under control before seriously thinking about the future of this relationship. And for God’s sakes, do not leave your job to make your husband feel better. This is what weak, controlling men do: make you financially dependent on him and unable to support yourself. Sorry if this comes across as harsh. I just find whiny insecure men to be such a turn off and you really deserve better. |
Anonymous
You pulled up a 11 year old post to post this?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!? |
Anonymous
Seriously!! But as an aside, who cares where your wife's desk is? What business of it is yours, how your wife's workplace is set up? |
Anonymous
| THIS POST IS ELEVEN YEARS OLD |
Anonymous
| Sounds like you cheated in the past |
Anonymous
Bro, this post is 11 years old. OP is probably dead by now. |
Anonymous
| Your husband is projecting. Sorry, but you need to find out who he cheated/is cheating with. |
Anonymous
What??? People have cubicles next to people of the opposite sex, there are shared offices as well, etc. You have a sick mind if you think your wife is having sex on her desk with a male coworker just because they happen to sit next to each other. I fear for your wife’s safety if you are this insecure and jealous. |
Anonymous
Huh? Of course not. Because it’s a non-issue. |
Anonymous
| WTF, 11 years old? Start a new post, FFS |
Anonymous
New *thread |