Early Onset Alzheimer's Diease

[Anonymous]

You speak with such a sense of superiority, authority and in such an abrasive fashion when in fact it's your pain over your father's actions that's your issue. You lash out at me like I'm your father, sweetheart I'm not him, nothing like him.
If you knew anything about Alzheimer's you'd know that no two victims are alike. The saying in the Alz community is: "that when you know one person with Alzheimers, you know one person with Alzheimer's, that is all.

Sweetheart if you think watching your love turn into a vegetable ove the last six years goes quickly all I can say is wow! You really are a very angry person, with a totally distorted sense of time and values. My heart goes out to you and I pray your hatred doesn't infect your children.

Six years of the agony of listening to, while she was still able to communicate, my DW wishes to die, to commit suicide, of watching the disintegration of your love, your life, your plans ... well it hasn't been a quick walk in the park .........and you bring up divorce, after 50+ years of marriage a thought that never entered my mind once.
What a cold heart coniving bitch you must be.
Asset protection?? Do I appear an idiot, upon DX I had an Eldecare attorney take care of that soley motivated from a Medicaid look back possible situation. Divorce my DW you are truly lacking in any sort of understanding of the work LOVE ! Were the situation reversed I'd want my DW to be happy.

Only a very disturbed mind could mention Hospice and party time in the same breath. (Think about that)
That is just plain perverce . Hospice care, in my home, not a hospital or facility (by my choice) is now palliative care, assurance that my DW will have no pain in passing. The Hospice MD and Nurse have repeatedly made me aware that I can speed up the process by choosing to withhold food and water and my DW won't know the difference or feel any discomfort
Oh yea speed up her passing because I'M SURE YOU THINK IT'S TIME TO PARTY YOU SICK SOB.
No I havn't been able to make that decision yet, I don't want to let her go, selfish of me? perhaps. I feed her like an infant, and she licks water from my finger tip. Too bad you can't spend 24 hrs here and see what love is all about... A word of advise, lose the hate that's consuming you life, The time we're alloted is too short to waste on hatered

[Anonymous]

Please take a mirror and look at yourself.. And I am not buying this at all.. pretty sick as I am thinking this is a troll. Very very sick.

[Anonymous]

PP awarded a -10. minus ten
sicko

[Anonymous]

Wow what a brutal bunch ... a friend's husband was just diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's at 56 yrs. old with 1 child still in college, law school. All their hopes and dreams for an early retirement after son's graduation gone. Her husband has resigned from his firm effective Dec 31. What a horror scene,

[Anonymous]

PP HERE SENT BY ERROR PRIOR TO COMPLETIOM

To the OP- I realize that this may very well be meaningless now, but to the those critical ...Judge not, lest ye be judged.. My thoghtsv and prayer for peace go out to the Op and his wife

[Anonymous]

Just letting all know my DW passed peacefully on the 26th at home

[Anonymous]

Sorry for your loss. I didn't read the entire thread, but a good friend's mom died at age 60 from early AD, so it was hard, but in ways a blessing that she went peacefully, like your DW.

[Anonymous]

I am also a conservative, and have a very pragmatic approach to life. This is not cheating. His wife is no longer his wife. In addition, he has not just dumped her, he continued to care for her. He is, however, not a martyr nor should he be.

I'm sorry for your loss OP. Now move on with your life with NO GUILT! NONE! You are a good man. You deserve your own future and your own happiness.

[Anonymous]

Why is he a good man. He should have waited until she passed.

[Anonymous]

OP, take it from a wife who will soon enough BTDT. My mother had early onset AD and I'm 90% sure I will (I'm also a professional and we are more successful than our wildest dreams). It was horrible for my father and us and we did not have the means to place her anywhere. I have begged my husband to place me and want him to go on and have a wonderful life. How he chooses to do that is up to him, but he has my blessing. I so wish I weren't putting him in this position. I am 100% sure your wife wants you to go on and be a cared for and loved man. Guilt is a useless emotion. I back you all the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just letting all know my DW passed peacefully on the 26th at home

I'm sorry, OP. I wish you and your daughters the best. If I should be in your wife's shoes someday, I would hope my DH would do as much as you have done.