Employee at the grocery store.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

If people are assholes to you every.single.day than it's not because you are black!

Why are YOU being an asshole to a stranger? How the hell do you know what anyone else goes through? How can you even speak to something you have no concept of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

If people are assholes to you every.single.day than it's not because you are black!

You are either clueless or in denial.

And you find a reason to blame everyone else but yourself and possibly YOUR attitude. Poor you, it's always someone else mistreating you, while you stand there smiling and being pleasant.

You are another example of an asshole who can't consider what someone else may go through in life, and just reflects it back on the speaker instead of considering something outside of their own world view. No only is what you've said completely untrue, but it is not what I said. Who has the attitude problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it.

Is she making errors in adding up your groceries on the cash register? Is she mis-bagging your food so that the groceries break or are damaged? Is she in any other way actively harming your groceries, holding you up, costing you time, or as another poster put it "costing the company money"? Because it seems to me your complaint is that she's not stroking your ego and giving you a homey, good-time experience at the grocery store. Is that her job? Really? REALLY?

Actually, a rude attitude will cost the company money because it will turn off customers. I go out of my way to go to the Harris Teeter in DC because the staff there are so friendly and helpful. I go out of my way to avoid the nearby Giant because the staff there are so rude and unhelpful.

If I were the manager, I would definitely want to know. Especially as you're a long-term customer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

Perhaps its your attitude which is negatuve and can clearly be seen through your post. If you are treated that wasy every day there is something wrong with YOU not your skin color. Ger over yourself and your "persecution."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

If people are assholes to you every.single.day than it's not because you are black!

You are either clueless or in denial.

And you find a reason to blame everyone else but yourself and possibly YOUR attitude. Poor you, it's always someone else mistreating you, while you stand there smiling and being pleasant.

You are another example of an asshole who can't consider what someone else may go through in life, and just reflects it back on the speaker instead of considering something outside of their own world view. No only is what you've said completely untrue, but it is not what I said. Who has the attitude problem?

Um take your own advice. Look outside YOURSELF because it seems that you are the one with the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

Perhaps its your attitude which is negatuve and can clearly be seen through your post. If you are treated that wasy every day there is something wrong with YOU not your skin color. Ger over yourself and your "persecution."

Who said I'm being "persecuted"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

If people are assholes to you every.single.day than it's not because you are black!

You are either clueless or in denial.

And you find a reason to blame everyone else but yourself and possibly YOUR attitude. Poor you, it's always someone else mistreating you, while you stand there smiling and being pleasant.

You are another example of an asshole who can't consider what someone else may go through in life, and just reflects it back on the speaker instead of considering something outside of their own world view. No only is what you've said completely untrue, but it is not what I said. Who has the attitude problem?

Um take your own advice. Look outside YOURSELF because it seems that you are the one with the problem.

Um whatever. Try walking around in DC as a black person and get back to me.

I WILL SURVIVE

[Anonymous]

It's funny but what the OP describes happens all the time in PG county where I live, I am white and when it happens it drives me crazy but I don't say anything. I just chalk it up to rudeness. Or it just seems that people are angry all the time, have you noticed that or is that just in PG county? I say that because when I go to the Safeway in neighboring Anne A'rundel county, everyone is so nice and friendly. I don't think I'm generalizing but that's been my experience in 8 years here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

If people are assholes to you every.single.day than it's not because you are black!

You are either clueless or in denial.

And you find a reason to blame everyone else but yourself and possibly YOUR attitude. Poor you, it's always someone else mistreating you, while you stand there smiling and being pleasant.

You are another example of an asshole who can't consider what someone else may go through in life, and just reflects it back on the speaker instead of considering something outside of their own world view. No only is what you've said completely untrue, but it is not what I said. Who has the attitude problem?

Um take your own advice. Look outside YOURSELF because it seems that you are the one with the problem.

Um whatever. Try walking around in DC as a black person and get back to me.

I WILL SURVIVE

Great....oh and ummm here is a piece of that giant chip that just fell off your shoulder. You would not wwant to miss that would you.

[Anonymous]

Any chance this is at Safeway???

When I was 7 months pregnant, I was loading groceries onto the conveyor belt at the Safeway in Bethesda and the AA check out guy told me I was doing it "wrong". He said I could not stack anything, everything had to be in one level, and in one single file line. Huh?!? I asked him where I could see the written policies about this and he rolled his eyes at me and told me I was pretty stupid if I didn't know how to load the conveyor belt. I almost walked out, but I was so tired because I was PREGNANT and I needed the groceries, I just put up with it. He continued to tell me who did I think I was for stacking up my groceries, and so on. I should have just walked out, but again, I didn't have the energy to go get groceries later.

Well, then a customer who was Asian came up behind me and started stacking her groceries and loading them all up on top of each other on the conveyor belt (the same way I did before I got yelled at) and the check out guy didn't do anything or tell her to stop. So I asked him why it was okay for the lady behind me to stack her groceries, but not me. He said that her groceries looked better to him. So I flat out accused him of being racist. He almost lost it!

When I got home, I called the store and let the manager know and also wrote corporate. They said they were sorry my shopping experience was less than pleasant but did nothing else. I will NEVER shop there again.

So I would absolutely confront this lady at your grocery store and tell her you realize that she's probably tired, grumpy, etc. but that she doesn't have to be so unpleasant to you. And if that doesn't work, tell the manager.

[Anonymous]

OP, that would bug me too, and I disagree with the posters saying 'well, this is being Black in America, get over it, blah, blah, blah...' It's not right no matter what race.

I'd just go in a line that she isn't in and I would mention it to the manager.

[Anonymous]

If she just isn't being pleasant, I'd let her go. It's not like she is some high-paying customer service job, she's probably making close to minimum wage. But if she outright said something mean to you, well then I would tell management. They would want to know, because that would drive customers away. But if i stopped going to stores where clerks didn't smile -well - I wouldn't know where to shop.

[Anonymous]

The woman who was rude to you is in a service position. It's not your problem if she hates it...it's her job to be polite at a minimum. If you were the store owner would you want her treating your customers that way? If you choose not to complain then she has not only insulted you, she has bullied and intimidated you. Chances are, you aren't the only one she has chosen to browbeat, and maybe management is just one write up away from firing her. If someone spoke to your child or your husband this way, would you let them get away with it? Stand up for yourself!

[Anonymous]

If OP was Kate Gosselin, everyone would say change your attitude. What was your first encounter like? If you went to her line complaining about the way she bagged your items it has nothing to do with race.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is just shy?
I do not talk to people at the grocery store, and if I was working at one would not talk to the customers.
Being quiet is what you are supposed to be so you can do your job