Employee at the grocery store.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

Do you truly believe this? How so? Every day?? For that reason only??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Although I don't condone her behavior... now you know what it is like to be "Black in America".

I am sure she thinks that every time she is being mean to OP!

[Anonymous]

What about just asking her straight out. Something like "Have I done something to offend or upset you? It seems you aren't happy with me, and if there's something I need to apologize to you for, I'd like to be given the opportunity to do so."

I've used this tactic before, and it disarmed the other person(s) completely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about just asking her straight out. Something like "Have I done something to offend or upset you? It seems you aren't happy with me, and if there's something I need to apologize to you for, I'd like to be given the opportunity to do so."

I've used this tactic before, and it disarmed the other person(s) completely.

Or they just say no. And then make fun of you behind your back with their co-workers.

[Anonymous]

She is costing her company money. Tell the supervisor. For every one of you, there are two or three people who avoid going there because of the rudeness.

Keeping quiet isn't helping anyone except maybe this problem employee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about just asking her straight out. Something like "Have I done something to offend or upset you? It seems you aren't happy with me, and if there's something I need to apologize to you for, I'd like to be given the opportunity to do so."

I've used this tactic before, and it disarmed the other person(s) completely.

Or they just say no. And then make fun of you behind your back with their co-workers.

So what if they make fun of you with their co-workers? At least you give them the chance to clear the air. If they choose not to, then it's truly their problem and no longer a concern of yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is costing her company money. Tell the supervisor. For every one of you, there are two or three people who avoid going there because of the rudeness.

Keeping quiet isn't helping anyone except maybe this problem employee.

Too bad USPS couldn't learn this lesson early on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

If people are assholes to you every.single.day than it's not because you are black!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

If people are assholes to you every.single.day than it's not because you are black!

You are either clueless or in denial.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it.

Is she making errors in adding up your groceries on the cash register? Is she mis-bagging your food so that the groceries break or are damaged? Is she in any other way actively harming your groceries, holding you up, costing you time, or as another poster put it "costing the company money"? Because it seems to me your complaint is that she's not stroking your ego and giving you a homey, good-time experience at the grocery store. Is that her job? Really? REALLY?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it.

Is she making errors in adding up your groceries on the cash register? Is she mis-bagging your food so that the groceries break or are damaged? Is she in any other way actively harming your groceries, holding you up, costing you time, or as another poster put it "costing the company money"? Because it seems to me your complaint is that she's not stroking your ego and giving you a homey, good-time experience at the grocery store. Is that her job? Really? REALLY?

From the initial post: "Anyway, this past weekend she really got nasty with me with a comment". _IF_ true, this seems to cross a line in my book. I don't care if people are cold/distant and/or ignore me, but I wouldn't tolerate people being actively nasty. That behavior could drive people away and cost the business money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

If people are assholes to you every.single.day than it's not because you are black!

You are either clueless or in denial.

And you find a reason to blame everyone else but yourself and possibly YOUR attitude. Poor you, it's always someone else mistreating you, while you stand there smiling and being pleasant.

[Anonymous]

You should shop at the Safeway in Tenleytown, near GDS. They are rude to everybody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she do?

People are assholes to me everyday because I'm Black. If this is all that you've had to deal with because you are White, consider yourself lucky. It sucks, doesn't it?

Do you truly believe this? How so? Every day?? For that reason only??

Many Africans look down on AA, as do many Hispanics, Asians, etc. You see how they greet the customer in front of you and then you, and then the one after you. I haven't spoken a word, and I get attitude. So what is it? It's the only think different about me...what am I to infer? Or when I'm in a store and I'm being followed around? What would you think?

All of you who summarily dismiss this, why don't you look at what is going on around you? Since you can't actually walk a mile in my shoes. I lived in another country for two years and had reverse culture shock dealing with all of the latent and overt racism in this (my) country. I have always been treated better by strangers in Asia and Europe than here in my own country.

[Anonymous]

Leave race out of it. Complain to management. Avoid her lines.