Appalled at husband reaction to nannys life circumstances

[Anonymous]

And I *do* think that there are families out there that treat nannies like a valued member of the family, and think her role as childcare provider is very important. I do not think all nannies are treated like servants.

[Anonymous]

Look around. I guarantee you won't be able to tell the billionaire from the one barely affording to have a roof over their head. Very likely, you will guess the opposite. The one with money I know are the most down to earth people I know. In. Every. Way. Frankly, they don't care WHAT the little people are doing!

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one (along with the DH) that has to wonder a bit if she's a creepster? Because if I were truly rich, I would not want to be a childcare provider. No wonder how terrific your special snowflakes are.

[Anonymous]

That's crazy. If she is reliable why should it even matter.

Good for her for finding something she likes to do! Some people just love kids.

We have several loaded teachers (rich husbands) at my kids' preschool and many older ones that had careers and are working as aides now in retirement because they like being around small children. I love kids and could totally see doing this at a preschool in my older age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:sorry, but this just doesn't make any sense to me. it's normal for women who married rich to continue working, but not as nannies. nannies are household servants. it blows mind that somebody rich would do it. she could work with children/spend time with them or whatever it is that makes work pleasurable in 10 different, more appealing ways.

I thought nannies could make as much as or more than teachers in some cases? Maybe she likes being a nanny and wants the security of her own income (a reason for continuing to work that plenty of women cite.) Why is that so crazy?

because you are a servant. it's not just about working with children - it's about taking orders of people who, in this case, are supposedly 10 layers of status below you. so, in the evening you go to some white tie event with the president and the next morning you are driving traffic the suburbs from your $5 million georgetown house because some 100K making family's dog went missing so they need you to show up early. it's just too much for me to believe - i think some important info here is missing. to top it all - the OP's english also sounds very bad, like from someone with a HS diploma. nothing wrong with that, but just adds to the implausibility of it all.

You are ridiculous. I was a nanny for almost 10 years. For the last 2 I was working for a family that I really loved while my husband was making 260k. I was making $49k as a nanny and I loved my job, so had no reason to quit for that period of time. The only reason why I don't work for the same family anymore is because we decided to buy a house closer to his mom, since I have no family in the country. We did this based on wanting to have a baby (I already have a young child). I am glad we did, I love the area where we live now and love having his mom help with the kids, but I had to give up being a nanny because the market here is very different from DC, so now I work as an Admin and make $35k. By your description of what a nanny is (a servant, in your opinion) and how dismissive you are of people who take care of children for a living, I do feel bad for your nanny, if you have one (although I hope you don't.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:sorry, but this just doesn't make any sense to me. it's normal for women who married rich to continue working, but not as nannies. nannies are household servants. it blows mind that somebody rich would do it. she could work with children/spend time with them or whatever it is that makes work pleasurable in 10 different, more appealing ways.

I thought nannies could make as much as or more than teachers in some cases? Maybe she likes being a nanny and wants the security of her own income (a reason for continuing to work that plenty of women cite.) Why is that so crazy?

because you are a servant. it's not just about working with children - it's about taking orders of people who, in this case, are supposedly 10 layers of status below you. so, in the evening you go to some white tie event with the president and the next morning you are driving traffic the suburbs from your $5 million georgetown house because some 100K making family's dog went missing so they need you to show up early. it's just too much for me to believe - i think some important info here is missing. to top it all - the OP's english also sounds very bad, like from someone with a HS diploma. nothing wrong with that, but just adds to the implausibility of it all.

You are ridiculous. I was a nanny for almost 10 years. For the last 2 I was working for a family that I really loved while my husband was making 260k. I was making $49k as a nanny and I loved my job, so had no reason to quit for that period of time. The only reason why I don't work for the same family anymore is because we decided to buy a house closer to his mom, since I have no family in the country. We did this based on wanting to have a baby (I already have a young child). I am glad we did, I love the area where we live now and love having his mom help with the kids, but I had to give up being a nanny because the market here is very different from DC, so now I work as an Admin and make $35k. By your description of what a nanny is (a servant, in your opinion) and how dismissive you are of people who take care of children for a living, I do feel bad for your nanny, if you have one (although I hope you don't.)

Oh, please. There are very few people in this world who don't have to answer to or "take orders from" someone at their job.

[Anonymous]

Your DH is wasting his efforts to worry about this. It is more common than you think. My MIL works a low paying job in an unexpected industry and my FIL is highly paid. Nice to have productive people in our society!

[Anonymous]

I am stunned at how much you people disdain the people who are raising your kids.

If you SAH, you're doing God's work and we're all supposed to bow in awe at your dedication. If someone else chooses to raise children as a career, she's a lowly servant who would naturally walk out the minute she has two nickels to rub together.

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am stunned at how much you people disdain the people who are raising your kids.

If you SAH, you're doing God's work and we're all supposed to bow in awe at your dedication. If someone else chooses to raise children as a career, she's a lowly servant who would naturally walk out the minute she has two nickels to rub together.

Wow.

I'm disgusted. No wonder why the nannies complain so much on the nanny boards. There really are some horribly shitty employers out there.

We treated our nanny like family and never barked orders or treated her like a servant. Why would I want to treat the person who is with my children 8hrs a day like shit? That would be pretty stupid of me.

FWIW, my nanny, although did not have a CEO DH, was older and was a SAHM for many years. She too nannied because she liked it. Her DH had a normal white collar job and was retired government working on his second career. They probably had more money than us, especially in home equity and retirement!

[Anonymous]

Princess Diana was a nanny to an American family before she got married. Alright, so she didn't keep the job after the wedding, but the American family says she stayed in touch with them...

[Anonymous]

OP, is this thread still useful to you or do you want to "close" it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: thanks for the insight, I agree that someone who works despite a large HHI probably loves her job. She defiantly works as if she loves it. To the pp who suggested she was lying, I highly doubt it. The last name, while not completely unheard of, is on the rare side, plus I just don't think she is the type to lie. Plus she is married to him on Facebook![/quote]

Yeah, bc no one lies on FB right? If she wanted to work with kids there are plenty of volunteer jobs she could do or upscale preschools to work in.

But let's say for a moment that really her DH does have this fab job/salary, maybe they are in massive debt - bad investments? tax debt? over- mortgaged? Since working as a nanny isn't a very public job it easy for her work without being noticed by friends and people in their social circle.

[Anonymous]

Indeed, let's say for a moment that really her DH does have this fab job/salary.

Maybe aliens abducted her DC, coopted her DH into intergalactic sexual slavery (which of course his public company doesn't want to disclose), and she needs the nanny income to pay ransom for both?

[Anonymous]

OP, I love this story. My neighbor is South American, and she hires other South Americans she considers "below her", pays them little and makes them wear a uniform. Truly condescending and humiliating from someone who claims to care - BS. I love hearing about families that are truly generous and loving to work for!

[Anonymous]

PP, why are you making up scenarios of how the nanny is secretly a bankrupt liar who's it really married, or so is married but they're broke because of debt?

If you'll retread the OP, the nanny isn't bragging about being wealthy. The OP and her husband learned more about the nanny's personal life and then Googled her information to find out the nanny's husband's salary. The nanny isn't the one talking about this stuff. Is so sad when people cling to hopes that people who seem to be doing well are actually depressed/broke/whatever.