Appalled at husband reaction to nannys life circumstances

[Anonymous]

Op here: thanks for the insight, I agree that someone who works despite a large HHI probably loves her job. She defiantly works as if she loves it. To the pp who suggested she was lying, I highly doubt it. The last name, while not completely unheard of, is on the rare side, plus I just don't think she is the type to lie. Plus she is married to him on Facebook!

[Anonymous]

OP

How much does the nanny's husband make?

[Anonymous]

sorry, but this just doesn't make any sense to me. it's normal for women who married rich to continue working, but not as nannies. nannies are household servants. it blows mind that somebody rich would do it. she could work with children/spend time with them or whatever it is that makes work pleasurable in 10 different, more appealing ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, your husband is full of shit. Tell him to get over it and be happy that you found a wonderful PERSON doing a wonderful job for your family. It is none of his business what her personal situation is, unless it negatively impacts her job performance or your child's safety.

If DH hired a hot nanny, I'm sure you would give the same advice, right? That she's a wonderful PERSON?

actually, all of the nannies we have hired were quite hot. I am young myself, so it isn't as much of a thread to me. So yes, I would give the same advice.

[Anonymous]

Being a nanny is a career for some people. They love children but may not like being confined to the school system or classroom. They may love babysitting. People enjoy different things, there are career janitors and people who are in the trash collection field because they love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sorry, but this just doesn't make any sense to me. it's normal for women who married rich to continue working, but not as nannies. nannies are household servants. it blows mind that somebody rich would do it. she could work with children/spend time with them or whatever it is that makes work pleasurable in 10 different, more appealing ways.

I thought nannies could make as much as or more than teachers in some cases? Maybe she likes being a nanny and wants the security of her own income (a reason for continuing to work that plenty of women cite.) Why is that so crazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:sorry, but this just doesn't make any sense to me. it's normal for women who married rich to continue working, but not as nannies. nannies are household servants. it blows mind that somebody rich would do it. she could work with children/spend time with them or whatever it is that makes work pleasurable in 10 different, more appealing ways.

I thought nannies could make as much as or more than teachers in some cases? Maybe she likes being a nanny and wants the security of her own income (a reason for continuing to work that plenty of women cite.) Why is that so crazy?

because you are a servant. it's not just about working with children - it's about taking orders of people who, in this case, are supposedly 10 layers of status below you. so, in the evening you go to some white tie event with the president and the next morning you are driving traffic the suburbs from your $5 million georgetown house because some 100K making family's dog went missing so they need you to show up early. it's just too much for me to believe - i think some important info here is missing. to top it all - the OP's english also sounds very bad, like from someone with a HS diploma. nothing wrong with that, but just adds to the implausibility of it all.

[Anonymous]

omg...nobody can answer in numbers what this guy might make? $$$$

[Anonymous]

Op here: Husbands published salary is over 500k (before bonus). I am sort of friends with one of her previous employers and I decided to call her about the discovery. She laughed and said they found out in a similar sort of way. Her take is that he works almost 70 hours a week and now that her children are older, the nanny likes having a job to keep her busy. Makes sense to me! And for what it's worth I find her career choice very honorable.

[Anonymous]

Op here: And yes my spelling and grammar are awful, I apologize. Thank god I'm in IT!

[Anonymous]

The job gives her autonomy, and cash in her pocket she doesn't have to explain. Everyone's marriage is at least partially a secret. She clearly has her reasons.

If she's a good nanny, then don't worry about it. You will be spares a whole lot of trouble if you know you can trust your nany's home and car.

[Anonymous]

Ask your husband if he considers someone's spouse's salary when he's hiring at his office. I don't think that's legal, but if it is, it certainly is unprofessional. You hire the person who is the best for the position and her family life is her business, not your husband's.

[Anonymous]

Sorry you're dealing with this, OP. Your husband's really insecure and irrational. I hope he calms down soon and doesn't take his insecurity out on the nanny.

[Anonymous]

I was a nanny in a similar situation. I loved kids and was no where near ready to start my own family, so nannying was perfect. I gave 3 months notice when I was going to quit and helped them find a new nanny. Chances are your nanny jus enjoys being a nanny. People who tend to quit suddenly are ones who need money and find a higher paying opportunity.

[Anonymous]

She probably disliked being SAHM with older kids who were outside of the home all day. Thus, she turned to being a nanny/SAHM for another family.