My sister and I had babies within a few weeks of each other. I thought it would be fun but its not.

[Anonymous]

You know what's really not fun? My sister and I were pregnant at the same time but she had a miscarriage. That was awful.

Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I never criticize my sister or her choices. I know better. Its never gotten me anywhere and it never will. She is the older sister and would or could never tolerate me voicing any type of criticism about her. Lifetime experience on that one.

Despite all that. I love my sister and my nephew. I'm just tired of the criticism that is coming my way. My words about her are just me venting.

You might not mean to be criticizing her...but if it came out in this post that obviously that you don't agree with her choices, it is bound to be coming out in your interactions with your sister, even if you don't mean it to. Her response might be more defensive than critical.

It matters if kids are loved and cared for, and it seems like you and your sister are both doing you best on those points, so stop worrying about what she is doing (really, the minivan bothers you?) and see if that makes things better on both sides. If not have a heart to heart with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I wouldn't care really because to each their own but little miss green is turning into little miss commercialism and has decided that her way is best and criticizes me for my choices. Being mothers together is not any fun at all!

I understand you being mad because she is criticizing your choices, but you sound really annoyed by anyone who uses disposable diapers and formula feed their babies! Do you have a problem with that?

No problems with that at all. I really have no problem that she does it either. I am annoyed because as "green" as she claims to be, I would have expected her to not criticize me for cloth diapers and breast feeding but she is!

[Anonymous]

If I understand correctly, it's the reversal from former strongly-held beliefs that the OP is responding to with regard to her sister. And the fact that she (the sister) is moralizing.

Sadly, OP, instead of focusing on this posters are being provoked by your reference to the 'burbs and the minivan.

It doesn't seem like that was what you wanted, but because of the unfortunate phrasing here you are.

[Anonymous]

OP, fwiw, both you and your sister sound insufferable. I second (or third or fourth) the recommendation from other PPs: get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Her reaction to you breastfeeding is obviously her insecurity. One of my best friends ended up formula feeding both of her kids due to low supply. I think we backed off from each other a little when the kids were babies. And I don't htink either of us judged each other. I think she felt really bad about bf not working and the fact that it was working for me made her feel worse. Now we are right back where we were before and have been for a while - really, really tight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If I understand correctly, it's the reversal from former strongly-held beliefs that the OP is responding to with regard to her sister. And the fact that she (the sister) is moralizing.

Sadly, OP, instead of focusing on this posters are being provoked by your reference to the 'burbs and the minivan.

It doesn't seem like that was what you wanted, but because of the unfortunate phrasing here you are.

Yes, exactly. I have no problem with the burbs or the minivan either. That's how we grew up and I loved our childhood. But for years she was all about the small carbon foot print and living where you work. That is what DH and I are doing and how we wish to remain. I like walking to work. If she wants the burbs and the minivan, super. Just stop telling me I'm poisoning my kid with pollution and how he'll get kidnapped playing on the street!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey little sister! Your annoying older sister here! This was brought to my attention by a friend who thought she recognized YOU in the writing. Thanks for venting our issues in a public forum!

Now, please come TALK TO ME if you have a problem with me. I am not going to eat you alive.

Love ya!

Your sister is right you are a bitch.

Your "Love ya!!" is so condescending and certainly not genuine.

As an older sister to fellow older sister, let me give you some advice:

You hold a special place as an older sister, you are looked up to by your younger siblings. It is your responsibility not to be critical, judgmental and condescending. Being that way is hurtful and makes you nothing more than a bully. You need to grow up and carry yourself like a compassionate adult.

It is quite hypocritical of you to continue to use this public forum to call your sister out. What is wrong with your phone? Along with being a bitch, you sound very immature and I think your sister’s grievances are probably spot on. I can see why she did not approach you directly, you seem very confrontational.

hahahhahahah! I was wondering if someone was going to fall for this!!! Yay!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey little sister! Your annoying older sister here! This was brought to my attention by a friend who thought she recognized YOU in the writing. Thanks for venting our issues in a public forum!

Now, please come TALK TO ME if you have a problem with me. I am not going to eat you alive.

Love ya!

FAKE!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I wouldn't care really because to each their own but little miss green is turning into little miss commercialism and has decided that her way is best and criticizes me for my choices. Being mothers together is not any fun at all!

I understand you being mad because she is criticizing your choices, but you sound really annoyed by anyone who uses disposable diapers and formula feed their babies! Do you have a problem with that?


No problems with that at all. I really have no problem that she does it either. I am annoyed because as "green" as she claims to be, I would have expected her to not criticize me for cloth diapers and breast feeding but she is!

So maybe she wasn't so "green" after all. Maybe she liked the idea of being "green", but realized that it wouldn't work for her family. That is fine, but, yes, she has not right of criticizing your choices ... maybe she's jealous/frustrated that you made it work for you!

Hope you guys can see past this and enjoy raising your babies together! Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey little sister! Your annoying older sister here! This was brought to my attention by a friend who thought she recognized YOU in the writing. Thanks for venting our issues in a public forum!

Now, please come TALK TO ME if you have a problem with me. I am not going to eat you alive.

Love ya!

FAKE!

duh!

[Anonymous]

In ten years you are going to wonder how you fought over diapers and breastfeeding and how many date nights you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, fwiw, both you and your sister sound insufferable. I second (or third or fourth) the recommendation from other PPs: get over yourself.

exactly! OP, you sound so amazingly critical - just because you don't say it to your sister but keep it locked up inside doesn't mean you aren't being a judgmental bee-yotch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, fwiw, both you and your sister sound insufferable. I second (or third or fourth) the recommendation from other PPs: get over yourself.

exactly! OP, you sound so amazingly critical - just because you don't say it to your sister but keep it locked up inside doesn't mean you aren't being a judgmental bee-yotch.

oh, get off your high horse

like you've never been pissed about how you're being treated?

you never vent to your friends?

[Anonymous]

Just wait when you and your sister go on to have a second child - you'll be laughing at yourselves and how ridiculous you were as first time moms.