What's the worst thing someone you date/d or are married to has ever said to you?

[Anonymous]

My mother told me that I was flat chested with no hips in front of my cousins when I was 13. She then went on to say that a bra would be a waste of money, and that they probably didn't make them in my size. I spent many years doing gymnastics because that was the only place that my size was a non issue. I needed that refuge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are we talking about this? The last thing I want to think about now is all the horrible things that people have said to me in my lifetime. We are living new lives, let the old one go. Those people don't matter anymore. Cut them out of your life like a cancer, since that is what they are.

It is not masochistic, it is therapeutic.

[Anonymous]

These posts make me really angry. I can't believe people are so intentionally hurtful. I hope you all realize that it takes a real asshole to say such things.

[Anonymous]

My stepfather hit on me when I was a young adult (10 years ago). I have not gone to visit my mother ever since then (we live in different parts of the country). I travel to see her when she visits the area where my sister and other family members live.

When my stepfather hit on me, I told my mother immediately and she didn't really believe me, but he sort of fessed up.

Recently she asked me why I don't visit her anymore so I told her. She said, "Well, I know you were both drinking that night..." (Not true, I hadn't had a drop to drink.) She followed that up with, "Well, you shouldn't worry about that now because he can't get it up anymore anyway. We haven't had sex in 4 years."

I wish I knew what it was like to have a parent who "had my back".

[Anonymous]

When my first son was about weeks old and I was majorly post-partum, and we were at work picnic, I put our new backpack diaper bag on the ground and it got dirty, for some reason, this set him off and when we got home and I tried to clean the bag, he said, "you never take care of anything, look at how fat you used to be, you can't even take care of yourself." Prior to him knowing me I weighed about 60 pounds more than when we met and started dating. I can't believe that I still remember this after 5 years. . .it makes me very sad to think about. . .I'm crying right now. We're still together and have another beautiful son, but I sometimes think about what he must think about me deep down. . .does he really think that? I'm the glue that holds this family together.

[Anonymous]

I'm 15:23, I meant to say that my first son was 6 weeks old.

[Anonymous]

Hi, I am the OP of this thread. I really didn't know what to expect when I posted this topic. But its been quite revealing and helpful in some ways. I live in Dubai now, and felt maybe with the distant, I would forget that horrible statement and him. I guess what also bothered me was after he passed that statement, I stayed there and let him finish having s*x with me, and then I put on my clothes and walked out. That has also bothered me immensely. How could my self esteem have been so low at that time in my life, to actually have stayed. I think of the woman I am today and literally shudder, because I know I would never stand for it now.

He was an important part of my life then, and I guess that's why it still hurts. Who says words don't hurt? I am going to take one of the PP's advice and completely avoid him. I don't think I could ever forgive him, even if he apologised, so there's no point in carrying on.

[Anonymous]

This didn't happen to me, but my sister dated a guy off and on for a couple of years. They kept breaking up and getting back together. During one of their break-ups, he told her he loved her very much--but as a sister, and that he couldn't imagine himself loving her as more than that. It broke her heart. She came running home (a two-hour drive) in the middle of the night to my parents. So of course, our entire family rallied around her and told her she was better off without him, etc. Next thing we knew, they were engaged. They've now been married 3 years. For a variety of reasons, my other sister and I secretly think he is gay and either doesn't realize it or won't admit it.

Also, prior to her dating him, my sister's first boyfriend ever cheated on her with her roommate and it totally devastated her. It took her many months to get over that, and her self-esteem took a real hit. This first boyfriend happened to be friends with her current husband, and he now insists on bringing cheating boyfriend #1 over to their house to hang out--frequently. It is so hurtful to my sister, and I wish she would refuse to allow it. Plus, what kind of guy really wants to be friends with someone who cheated on his wife and left her severely depressed for almost a year?

I still think she has never gotten over his comment that he loved her like a sister, and she's afraid if he doesn't get his way he will leave her.

[Anonymous]

I never dated in high school, so when I had my first boyfriend over Valentine's day in college, I was ecstatic.

When I gave him his present (cologne) he said:

Oh Sorry. I dont have anything for you. I thought the blow job was my valentine's day gift.

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend, drunk, told me that I wasn't worth the ground that his old girlfriend spit on. She was dead. Suicide.

It was among the worst moments of my entire life and the mere mention of "the worst thing anyone has ever said to you" brings it back like a slap.

I've never told anyone this. So maybe this is therapeutic.

[Anonymous]

I am touched by these comments. I can feel for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Maybe we should also have a thread about the worst thing we've ever said? Mine was on the second date with someone: we went to a restaurant and she spent the whole dinner bad-mouthing the wait staff, the other patrons, and everything about me. After we left the restaurant, she asked if we'd go out again. I replied, "I'm sorry, but your breasts are way too small for me to put up with this much crap."

She slapped me and walked off. I went back into the restaurant, had a drink, and laughed about it with the bartender.

[Anonymous]

A male's perspective- you sound like someone who is trying to forget about you! anyway- no hijacking this thread.

[Anonymous]

PP here- in the event another male wants to blast me- I am just saying you should have been direct rather than bring up an insecurity- regardless if her attitude warranted some comment. Being direct with you're a bitch would have been better received..

[Anonymous]

How do you know 23:19 is a man?