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What's the worst thing someone you date/d or are married to has ever said to you?
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Anonymous
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I will start this off. I used to date a guy a couple of years ago and really adored him to bits, but due to some emotional insecurities I was going through at that moment I became absolutely a nightmare and told him he was smothering me and he should see other women, blah, blah. Anyway, to cut a long story short, we made up, and then one night during s*x, I had passed a comment and he looked me, dead in the eye and he said " I am f*cking other girls and I don't want to stop".
Now, fast forward a couple of years later, I live abroad, and he comes to visit occassionally, and he seems to have matured and I know he wants something more, but I can't seem to get that mean statement out of my head. Everytime, I look at him, I just want to scream. Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? |
Anonymous
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Wow.
I don't really know what to say, but wanted to chime in and let you know someone was listening. |
Anonymous
| Op here: Thanks PP. |
Anonymous
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Guy #1-"Have your calves always been big?" I weighed 128 lbs at the time.
Guy #2-When I found out he was cheating on my he told me that it was my fault because I wanted to be in a monogamous relationship. I didn't marry either one of these losers! |
Anonymous
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Let's see...
1. That he slept with a hooker and it was all my fault bc I didn't want to have a 3some.(huh?) 2. I was a gold digger. (SO far from the truth). There are more but just thought those two were the worst of the bunch. The absolute worse part of it ..is they were both from the same person. Unfortunately I will not be free due to a lease until Jan but cannot wait!!! |
Anonymous
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I dated a guy for around 6 months in College and he was the first person I slept with when I was nearly 21, so you can imagine that sex wasn't something that was just casual to me. Anyway, we were broken up technically, but still "dating" (I'm sure some of you know how that goes!).
Anyway, we were in the car one night and I was driving. He was talking about something or another and he referred to me as "The girl I'm f**king". I stopped the car and told him that if he ever referred to me that way again he could get out of the car now and stop calling me. He apologized. I never got over it though and honestly, I should have just kicked him out and driven off....which is what I stopped the car to do but didn't get the guts to do it. That guy is still miserable and treating other girls like crap. He's one of those geeky guys that seems harmless but really he's a jerk! |
Anonymous
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OP here: PP I know what you mean by " He's one of those geeky guys that seems harmless but really he's a jerk! ". Talk about being super shocked when he said that to me in bed.
Its hard for me to take him seriously now, because when I lived in the US, I was okay financially while he was the successful one. I never took anything from him or asked him for anything. Now that I have picked myself up dealt with my emotional drama and doing well financially. He won't leave me alone. I don't even know how we remained friends. And another thing, that has annoyed me is the fact, that he hasn''t brough it up and apologised. WTF? |
Anonymous
| I am disappointed to hear these things. Um, I will try to raise my son to be a gentleman. |
Anonymous
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it wasn't the worst thing ever, and it wasn't someone I dated, but it was my dad. My cousins were visiting and I sat down on the couch next to him and he said "whew! simple, chronic halitosis" to me in front of them, I think just to get a laugh. I was about 11. Well it got a laugh, but I thought it was mean. And I did not just wake up or have chronic bad breath, he was just repeating a commercial or something.
My dad doesn't have the best social skills. I've known that for a long time but it took me a while to correct my OWN social skills because of him. 
i think I've done ok. I wouldn't say that about my kids in front of others.
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Anonymous
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In college he was my first love and also lost my virginity to him. We dated for a long time and eventually we broke up. Afterwards he called me a slut which was so untrue (and he knew this) and it really, really hurt.
I still have a lot of emotional baggage from that relationship. I was a freshman in college and he was a junior. I had never had a real relationship before and he really did a head job on me. Not to mention I'm still very resentful on how I lost my virginity. We never discussed having sex and losing my virginity, but one night when we were fooling around he just did it. Never asked before he started if it was okay or if I wanted to, he just did it. Looking back on it I felt really violated. I've never actually told anyone how I felt about this. But I still think about it and it will be 20 years ago this coming January. |
Anonymous
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"I can see why you would consider getting breast implants, because your body is perfect other than that."
And this from a guy who was unbearably skinny and terrible in bed!! I never went out with him again. Again, one of those guys who is geeky and seems harmless but at least at this one moment was a jerk. Post script: I did end up getting the implants, and the rest of my body is no longer perfect since I had my son. And fortunately, my husband has never said anything to me that would qualify for this thread. |
Anonymous
I'm the "geeky guy" poster. OP -- I am wondering what result you were hoping for from this post? Are you considering getting back together with this guy or do you feel guilty that you can't get the statement out of your head? The thing is -- it doesn't matter what he said or how long ago he said it. The fact is that when he made that statement it was over for you and your hesitation is telling you that. He is basically the same person, even if he has matured. I had a very good friend in College and he and I were practically "together" for years, although we never hooked up and it wasn't romantic. My platonic boyfriend really. When I ended up with aforementioned obnoxious geek, this friend decided he wanted to be with me. I couldn't be with him for a multitude of reasons that we just wouldn't have worked out, but the thing that really got me was that once he had told me that he couldn't take me to this wedding of a family member because he didn't know how his family would handle him taking a "nice Jewish" girl to a family member's wedding. How could I have ever had a relationship with a guy who didn't want to take me to a wedding because I'm Jewish?! We remained friends because that's something I can get over with a friend, but not with a guy I'd be dating. The funny thing is that later his Parents got divorced and his Mom's boyfriend was a Jewish guy! Clearly, it wasn't them who would have cared. Sometimes someone says ONE thing that just hits the wrong chord and even if they are great otherwise, they're just not for you! |
Anonymous
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I think I've blocked it all out.
Seriously. |
Anonymous
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British boyfriend right before I started dating and soon after married my husband. Out of the blue, he says,
"I've gone off the boil. I am just not attracted to you." My husband calls him my "Personal 'Nam." I grieved that relationship longer than the actual relationship! Now sooo glad I married the right man.
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Anonymous
| OP here: Its not that I am considering getting back with him. Its just that, that statement has been in my head for the last couple of years. And sometimes I feel like I am grieving. I know it sounds stupid. I just felt a sudden surge of anger, because I received an email from him telling me he would be coming into town for a couple of weeks. |