Would you bring your kids to grandmas house

[Anonymous]

On the off chance this post is real, WOW.

Grandma has $2M and gives nothing to her grandkids? I think we all know you're really saying "Mommy got rich and she didn't buy me a Porsche."

Be grateful she has money. Most of my friends are dealing with aging parents who have no savings and increasing medical issues.

My mother is also selfish and demands that every holiday be arranged around her schedule/preferences. Fortunately, there are not that many holidays.

Suck. It. Up.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are a whiny twat. Why don't you get the truth out on the table and tell your mom that you hate eating dinner with her because she doesn't give you gifts and babysit for free?

If your kids are anything like you, it is very obvious why mommy does not volunteer to babysit them.

[Anonymous]

I can't even believe that OP's post is for real. What kind of an immature loser would that be? Not to mention that he can barely string together coherent sentences?

Can't imagine why is mother would want him around. What a brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:she wants us to have a Thanksgiving dinner 4 days prior to the holiday. She will be away. She used to host Thanksgiving yearly and the 5 years ago stopped. THis year she and her significant other will be away for the weekend. Granted she does not even work so it is not like her schedule is busy. My feeling is it would great for the kids to spend Thanksgiving with their family members but grandma is asking what size turkey she should buy. I am of the feeling that if grandma wants to celebrate thanksgiving then do it on the holiday. SO what do I do? Do I just give in and bring kids and wife or do I stand firm and say we would love to celebrate Thanksgiving Day with you. Grandma has a keen way of making me feel guilty lol by saying something like "I thought it would be nice if we all got together for the holiday." Then she slides in that she will be away Thanksgiving day and I tell her that we are celebrating the holiday on Thanksgiving Day so we cannot make it. So she says,"if you change your mind let her know." And I say ok if you change your mind about Thanksgiving Day let me know.

Do I need to eat turkey and everything else 4 days prior to the holiday and then on the holiday again so it is convenient for grannys schedule.

You are some piece of work and it isn't good. Frankly, with your personality as shines forth from your post, you are indeed fortunate that anyone wants to invite you to their house ever.

[Anonymous]

Holy crap. If you Grandma is not hosting then you don't have Thanksgiving plans? How about celebrate with your family whenever your Grandma wants to HOST, and then host your own Thanksgiving on the day itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy crap. If you Grandma is not hosting then you don't have Thanksgiving plans? How about celebrate with your family whenever your Grandma wants to HOST, and then host your own Thanksgiving on the day itself.

OP here
We do not make plans. We celebrate every year
I normally spend Thanksgiving with my wife and kids and after we eat we go to my wifes family house. Why do I need to celebrate whenever Grandma wants to HOST. To make her feel like she is a great person. She is a greedy person who loves cooking so if I am cooking a whole Turkey on Thursday I need to play nice with Grandma on the day that is not the holiday after every year of we must get together on the first night of the Jewish holidays. While my kids are Catholics.

lol. people. I hope someone sees my point. But I appreciate the criticism as well.

[Anonymous]

OP not only writes like a teenager, but has the attitude of a bratty one as well.

[Anonymous]

"OP not only writes like a teenager, but has the attitude of a bratty one as well. "

Is English his first language? What does his father do on Thanksgiving?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy crap. If you Grandma is not hosting then you don't have Thanksgiving plans? How about celebrate with your family whenever your Grandma wants to HOST, and then host your own Thanksgiving on the day itself.

OP here
We do not make plans. We celebrate every year
I normally spend Thanksgiving with my wife and kids and after we eat we go to my wifes family house. Why do I need to celebrate whenever Grandma wants to HOST. To make her feel like she is a great person. She is a greedy person who loves cooking so if I am cooking a whole Turkey on Thursday I need to play nice with Grandma on the day that is not the holiday after every year of we must get together on the first night of the Jewish holidays. While my kids are Catholics.

lol. people. I hope someone sees my point. But I appreciate the criticism as well.

Sorry, but you still come off with a sense of over-entitlement. Think of it this way. Your mother would like to celebrate the Jewish holidays with her whole family together, her children and grandchildren. But it isn't convenient for you. You would like to celebrate Thanksgiving with your whole family together, your kids, your sibling(s) and your mother, but it isn't convenient for her. Why is it okay for you to be aggrieved, but not your mother? Because you work?

You do seem to harbor a lot of expectations and resentment of your mother. Yes, your mother has money and doesn't spend it on her grandkids. Be glad. Like another PP posted, some of us are taking care of some of our aging parents with money out of our own pocket. You should be grateful that she is self-sufficient and doesn't need you to take care of her either physically or economically. You do realize that $2M isn't that much for a 60 year old woman, right? At 60 years old, her average life expectancy is about 24 more years. $2M to cover not only her living expenses, but any "life happens" issues including home maintenance and health issues. Does she own her own home outright, or is she still paying mortgage? It's comfortable, but not exceedingly rich. Most seniors I know are exceedingly stressed and worried about finances especially as SS payouts are decreasing against the COL.

If not convenient for you, decline your mother's invitation and just celebrate as you already have. Stop expecting things from your mother and accept her for who she is and what she does. You've already harped on how much you dislike her holiday plans. So, just decline and stop expecting her to do Thanksgiving just for you. Go or don't go to her Jewish holiday celebrations. But stop expecting her to host you for Thanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

OK, now you've got me wondering, OP. Where does your wife fit into all this? And what about her family on Thanksgiving? Are you that attached to your mom that your own family (wife, kids, maybe her parents too) don't really factor into the equation?

[Anonymous]

OP here

My kids, wife and of course are together wherever we are.

[Anonymous]

Go to Gramma's and eat the delicious food you did not have to prepare.
Take the day off if it is too hard for you to rush around after work, or have your wife take them and meet everybody there.
Be grateful she is still alive and that you do not have to worry about how she is going to pay her rent in her golden years. My MIL quit working too early after she married a rich man, her second husband, who turned into kinda of a crusty old asshole as he got older and now she loves him and takes care of him and gets very little affection in return.

[Anonymous]

What's the issue here? You'll celebrate Thanksgiving with your immediate family (wife and children) with friends ON Thanksgiving, then go to your mom's house a few days later to celebrate with them? I'm still not seeing the problem, it's just a meal at her house. You're acting like she's trying to make you celebrate Hanukkah instead of Christmas. She wants her family together on a day that's important to her.

Again you are an adult (I'm making a huge assumption here) - if you don't want to go then don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wants her family together on a day that's important to her.

OP here

My point is the day that is important to me is Thanksgiving Day. It has always been one of my favorite holidays. Since when is 4 days prior to Thanksgivng an important day.
When we are invited for the Jewish holiday I kindly tell her the day is not good but she insists it is nice to be together on the first day of the Jewish holiday. So for years I dragged my kids there despite her knowing it was not at all pleasant for us (as my sibling would always arrive an hour late). She could not care less about that situation.I politely told her this year that we appreciate her offer and we would love to celebrate together but would need to do so on the weekend. But this women insisted on the actual day of the holiday as it was IMPORTANT to her. So now mom is making 4 days prior to Thanksgiving a new holiday or what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She wants her family together on a day that's important to her.

OP here

My point is the day that is important to me is Thanksgiving Day. It has always been one of my favorite holidays. Since when is 4 days prior to Thanksgivng an important day.
When we are invited for the Jewish holiday I kindly tell her the day is not good but she insists it is nice to be together on the first day of the Jewish holiday. So for years I dragged my kids there despite her knowing it was not at all pleasant for us (as my sibling would always arrive an hour late). She could not care less about that situation.I politely told her this year that we appreciate her offer and we would love to celebrate together but would need to do so on the weekend. But this women insisted on the actual day of the holiday as it was IMPORTANT to her. So now mom is making 4 days prior to Thanksgiving a new holiday or what?

Are you serious? You need to take a good long look in the mirror. I am shocked that your mother even wants you around, you sound horrible.