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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Holy crap.  If you Grandma is not hosting then you don't have Thanksgiving plans?  How about celebrate with your family whenever your Grandma wants to HOST, and then host your own Thanksgiving on the day itself. [/quote]
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We do not make plans. We celebrate every year  
I normally spend Thanksgiving with my wife and kids and after we eat we go to my wifes family house.  Why do I need to celebrate whenever Grandma wants to HOST.  To make her feel like she is a great person. She is a greedy person who loves cooking so if I am cooking a whole Turkey on Thursday I need to play nice with Grandma on the day that is not the holiday after every year of we must get together on the first night of the Jewish holidays.  While my kids are Catholics.

lol. people. I hope someone sees my point.  But I appreciate the criticism as well.

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Sorry, but you still come off with a sense of over-entitlement.  Think of it this way.  Your mother would like to celebrate the Jewish holidays with her whole family together, her children and grandchildren.  But it isn't convenient for you.  You would like to celebrate Thanksgiving with your whole family together, your kids, your sibling(s) and your mother, but it isn't convenient for her.  Why is it okay for you to be aggrieved, but not your mother?  Because you work?

You do seem to harbor a lot of expectations and resentment of your mother.  Yes, your mother has money and doesn't spend it on her grandkids.  Be glad.  Like another PP posted, some of us are taking care of some of our aging parents with money out of our own pocket.  You should be grateful that she is self-sufficient and doesn't need you to take care of her either physically or economically.  You do realize that $2M isn't that much for a 60 year old woman, right?  At 60 years old, her average life expectancy is about 24 more years.  $2M to cover not only her living expenses, but any "life happens" issues including home maintenance and health issues.  Does she own her own home outright, or is she still paying mortgage?  It's comfortable, but not exceedingly rich.  Most seniors I know are exceedingly stressed and worried about finances especially as SS payouts are decreasing against the COL.

If not convenient for you, decline your mother's invitation and just celebrate as you already have.  Stop expecting things from your mother and accept her for who she is and what she does.  You've already harped on how much you dislike her holiday plans.  So, just decline and stop expecting her to do Thanksgiving just for you.  Go or don't go to her Jewish holiday celebrations.  But stop expecting her to host you for Thanksgiving.[/quote]

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