Would you bring your kids to grandmas house

[Anonymous]

Your mother is not your equal. She is not your sibling, nor your friend. She is your parent. If she wants to have Thanksgiving four days early, so be it. Suck it up and go, be pleasant, and count your lucky stars that the type of problems you write about here are the worst you need to deal with with her. Even if you were somehow "right" in this situation, it's irrelevant. Be a good son, and a good father, and do whatever you can to help her and your kids to enjoy time together. From your post, you seem to have no idea what people do out of respect for their parents.

[Anonymous]

My point is the day that is important to me is Thanksgiving Day. It has always been one of my favorite holidays. Since when is 4 days prior to Thanksgivng an important day.
When we are invited for the Jewish holiday I kindly tell her the day is not good but she insists it is nice to be together on the first day of the Jewish holiday. So for years I dragged my kids there despite her knowing it was not at all pleasant for us (as my sibling would always arrive an hour late). She could not care less about that situation.I politely told her this year that we appreciate her offer and we would love to celebrate together but would need to do so on the weekend. But this women insisted on the actual day of the holiday as it was IMPORTANT to her. So now mom is making 4 days prior to Thanksgiving a new holiday or what?

So, you don't care about the first day of the Jewish holiday (which you can't name, for whatever reason) but you want her to care about your favorite holiday, Thanksgiving. So, what you're saying is that your wants triumph hers? Ok. Well, yes, in fact, you are a double-talking-self-centered-potentially-spoiled fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

My point is the day that is important to me is Thanksgiving Day. It has always been one of my favorite holidays. Since when is 4 days prior to Thanksgivng an important day.
When we are invited for the Jewish holiday I kindly tell her the day is not good but she insists it is nice to be together on the first day of the Jewish holiday. So for years I dragged my kids there despite her knowing it was not at all pleasant for us (as my sibling would always arrive an hour late). She could not care less about that situation.I politely told her this year that we appreciate her offer and we would love to celebrate together but would need to do so on the weekend. But this women insisted on the actual day of the holiday as it was IMPORTANT to her. So now mom is making 4 days prior to Thanksgiving a new holiday or what?

So, you don't care about the first day of the Jewish holiday (which you can't name, for whatever reason) but you want her to care about your favorite holiday, Thanksgiving. So, what you're saying is that your wants triumph hers? Ok. Well, yes, in fact, you are a double-talking-self-centered-potentially-spoiled fool.

While I think that OP is a whiner and the important thing would be to spend the time with his family, that is NOT what I got from the text you quoted. He said he doesn't care about the Jewish holiday but because his mother cares, he goes there to celebrate even though it is inconvenient for him. And he is complaining his mother is not showing the same courtesy and respecting what he thinks is important (celebrating tkd in the actual day).

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like a spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

Some poor woman married this piece of sh... work.