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How many partners did you have before you married?
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Anonymous
I was the one who asked about the south...sorry, not meant as criticism. I went to school in the south and there were lots of virgins, a far cry from home in NY for me, so I was just wondering. |
Anonymous
| Thanks for the explanation. That response to the flaming of your "Southern" post was very mature and refreshing. |
Anonymous
| 22:08 here: I didn't wait until marriage. I just happened to marry my high school sweetheart (six years after we graduated from high school). |
Anonymous
Everybody now: Awwww.... (and I mean that sincerely!) |
Anonymous
21:37 here: Born and raised here in the DC area, so if you consider this area the south, then I guess I am. And not a born again virgin...DH is my one and only. Why is that so hard to believe? |
Anonymous
| Lurking Hubby here. In case noone has heard of 'the formula' before...whatever # a woman gives you to this question, you should multiply by two. (especially when talking to other female friends or a husband prospect). Whatever # a man gives you, you should divide by two. (especially if talking to other males). However this only works when you are having an actual, live conversation. |
Anonymous
That is hilarious. And probably true. As for the Southern comment---as a Southerner, I can tell you that I knew a large number of Southern girls in college whose virginity was a mere technicality----they did absolutely "everything but". That's why I found Bill Clinton's "I did not have sex with that woman" very understandable in the Southern context---our former prez was applying the exact same logic used by countless generations of southern sorority girls. 
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Anonymous
If you multiplied my number before my husband by 2, it would only be 2. No use lying about that. If anything I get weird looks that I didn't sleep with more people. Now people think my husband and I will get divorced because we didn't sew our oats enough. |
Anonymous
Yeah, obviously it doesn't work if the number is one. |
Anonymous
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It is a shame that people feel better the lower the number is.
I was VERY careful about health and hearts, and really enjoyed wonderful boyfriends (and sex with them) before I met my husband. I married late, so I have some experience.  No one night stands, but I did go to bed with people I only dated about four months in my 30s.
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Anonymous
I don't know about that. First, not all people feel that way, obviously, and second, I think the only shame would be if someone, individually, felt that their own number was too high or too low. If someone feels better that their number is low, good for them. If someone feels better that their number is higher, great. The only shame is if someone has real regrets. For the record, I am a new poster, and I had one partner before my husband. I'm very glad that I had sex with that person as I loved him a great deal, but I have no regrets about not sleeping with more people. (And I am from the south, and I met my husband when I was 23.) |
Anonymous
I am not from the South and got married at 26 and my DH is my 2nd. My first was a long term end of high school/college boyfriend and that was after 2 years of dating (we were together for a total of 4 1/2 years.) I certainly "hooked up" some in college after breaking up with a long term boyfriend (and plenty in high school, too) but didn't sleep with anyone again until after things got serious with my now DH. We met when I was 23 and working in DC. I was not a prude or religious, etc. I just had more respect than that for myself. I had a lot of fun without taking my clothes off. Believe it or not, it's possible. |
Anonymous
| i don't see why the women with lower numbers have to justify or defend themselves. is it really so great to have had such a high number? i think not. woopdeedoo for your raging sexual history. AND woopdeedoo for your calm sexual history. it just is what it is... and also, by the way, gives no indication of how good you might be in bed now. |
Anonymous
| Low, High, it probably doesn't really matter now, as long as you are happy & at peace with yourself...but if you find yourself "on the market" again for some reason, the lower number folks will be more desirable and/or 'marketable'...IN GENERAL, of course. |
Anonymous
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I was not a prude or religious, etc. I just had more respect than that for myself. I had a lot of fun without taking my clothes off. Believe it or not, it's possible. Hummm. . .so if you did have sex with more people than you don't have respect for yourself? I don't buy this. and the "had a lot of fun without taking your clothes off. . ." spare me. I am with the others. If some people choose to have fun taking their clothes off, what is the big deal? Why so sanctimonous and judgemental? |