How do you politely ask friends to crate their dogs when your kids are there?!?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm bringing my dog to a friends house. How do I ask them to lock their kids in the room while I'm over there? Thanks!

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Their house, their rules. If you accept an invitation to their house, you accept the way they live in their house.

I thought there was only one slowpoke who equated dogs with kids. It's disheartening to realize that it's more widespread than I thought.

Then don't go over their house.

I hate that my brother is a slob. Should I tell him to clean up before I bring my kids over? Do MY kids take priority in other peoples house?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, you want to go to a friends house and ask them to put their dog in a crate? The dog that lives there has to go to doggie jail because "you don't trust the dog"

You probably should just agree to meet out until your kids are older.

Well if they have a crate they are probably the kind of people who don't mind leaving their dog in a crate.

I had a crate for my dogs when they were puppies to train them and now they go in every night to sleep and the crate isn't locked.

It is understandable how you feel about Pit Bulls because of their reputation and I would feel more than uneasy. Ordinarily, I would not ask someone to put their dog out of sight but I would discuss this with her and tell her how you feel. Any dog can become aggravated and bite, particularly small dogs and I have had people come over and they are afraid of my dogs, both of which love everyone they meet. However, I respect the feelings of these guests and put dogs in basement where they have a ton of room and do not feel that they are in doggy jail or being punished.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm bringing my dog to a friends house. How do I ask them to lock their kids in the room while I'm over there? Thanks!

Like.

Their house, their rules. If you accept an invitation to their house, you accept the way they live in their house.

I thought there was only one slowpoke who equated dogs with kids. It's disheartening to realize that it's more widespread than I thought.

Then don't go over their house.

I hate that my brother is a slob. Should I tell him to clean up before I bring my kids over? Do MY kids take priority in other peoples house?

Will your brother's dirty sock harm your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm bringing my dog to a friends house. How do I ask them to lock their kids in the room while I'm over there? Thanks!

Oh God
one of those

Have you purchased winter clothing for your dog yet?

[Anonymous]

I like my dog better than your children and she is quite probably better behaved. No, I don't crate my dog for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am obviously in the minority here. I don't have a dog. I don't care about them one way or the other, really, but let's think about this. It's his house. I don't mean this to be ride or snarky (I swear!) but I'd be pretty irritated if someone came into my house and made my animal be banished to a room or a crate because she didn't like him. I'm TERRIFIED of cats. When I was little one jumped at me and nearly got my eye. (I still have a scar across my face today.) I don't tell people to lock up their cats. I don't go to their houses. I'm honest about it. Some have offered (on occasion) to put their cats or rambunctious kittens in other rooms when I come over, but we will usually make plans not to be at their house so their pet doesn't need to be jailed on my account. I just think that's fair.

I agree 100%. I think you can politely say why you'd rather not meet at their house. "Why don't we meet at our place? Having the dog around the kids makes me nervous." They either say "Oh, we can put the gate up and keep him out of the living room" or "okay, let's meet at your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm bringing my dog to a friends house. How do I ask them to lock their kids in the room while I'm over there? Thanks!

Oh God
one of those

Have you purchased winter clothing for your dog yet?

What's trendy for pit bulls this fall?

[Anonymous]

I put my pets away when we gave guests who are allergic or afraid. I also put the dog away because she's very excited around guests.

That said, I wouldn't go over to someone's house and ask them to put their pets away unless I were very allergic (DH is, so kids probably will be too). It's their house or I brought my kids over without knowing there was a dog there.

Also, it's interesting that you mentioned the totally irrelevant detail that the couple is unmarried. Methinks you don't like them very much. Maybe you should just drop them altogether.

[Anonymous]

Don't go over there anymore. I have kids and a dog, and if anyone asked me to put my dog away in my own house, I would tell them we should make plans to meet up elsewhere.

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Ahem. How about you keep the little brat from poking, pinching, and hitting my dog? How about you spend some time teaching your child to obey the word no as well as my dog?

My pooch works as a therapy dog and is amazingly tolerant, but I remain surprised at the things people expect dogs to put up with from illmannered children. These kids have never heard the word no in their lives.

Seriously, if I can teach my dog to open up the fridge and bring me a beer, you can teach your kid that "no" means stop it right now. I didn't even raise my voice to teach the pup that one.....

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I agree with those who have said you should tell your friends that you are nervous mixing the dog and the kids and ask if they wouldn't mind coming over to your house. They may offer to put their dog in a room while you are over and then problem solved. Or they may just come to your house. I do not think it is right to tell someone what to do with their pet in their own home. Make it about you and let them come to their own solution for managing their dog.

[Anonymous]

Just don't go. Say you're concerned about the dog around kids and invite the couple over to your house instead. Besides if they don't have kids (or toys then) you're kids will be happier at home.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound ike you know nothing about dogs. Please stay home. l

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ahem. How about you keep the little brat from poking, pinching, and hitting my dog? How about you spend some time teaching your child to obey the word no as well as my dog?

My pooch works as a therapy dog and is amazingly tolerant, but I remain surprised at the things people expect dogs to put up with from illmannered children. These kids have never heard the word no in their lives.

Seriously, if I can teach my dog to open up the fridge and bring me a beer, you can teach your kid that "no" means stop it right now. I didn't even raise my voice to teach the pup that one.....

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OP - you need to work on getting your children (whose ages you don't state; it is somewhat relevant). Here's a place to start:
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=teach+your+kids+to+be+dog+safe

You are teaching them to look both ways before crossing the street, not to play with electric sockets, and not to eat wild berries or mushrooms without checking with a knowledgeable source, right? This is just another survival skill that they need to learn.

If you are working on your kids, you can then honestly say, "Since we don't have a dog, my kids don't really know how to behave safely around them. We are working on teaching them, but until I'm more comfortable with their dog-savvy, would you mind either coming to our home or keeping the dog and kids separate?"

As a parent and dog-owner, it is really stressful for me to have dog-ignorant children in our house. Our dogs are incredibly tolerant (and one might be a pit-mix, we don't really know as she was a rescue), but all dogs have their limits. And crating my dog for extended periods of time can lead to very vocally unhappy dogs. And children have a tendency to go down to the "dogs' room" and tease the crated dogs. Not nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like my dog better than your children and she is quite probably better behaved. No, I don't crate my dog for your children.

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