Adults only baby shower?

[Anonymous]

I've been to lots of baby showers in my life and only one of them had children there...and that was mine. My friend that was hosting the party didn't have anyone else to watch her 8 month old since her mom was coming to the shower and her husband was out of town. She apologized over and over about it. I didn't care, but no one else brought their children. The poster that said she's been to 2 and they've had children there: those are probably in the minority.

[Anonymous]

Holy cr*p OP! Are you the same person who insists on taking junior to weddings when the invite clearly specifies adults only? Do you have to act like you are from a trailer park? [Not that that is a bad thing, of course. Just ask Tanya Harding. She's a good example.] WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are all these kid-less showers? The showers I've attended had children present, which was nice. Also, I've never seen alcohol served at a baby shower... sounds strange to me.

OP again. That's what I thought. Maybe it's this area? The showers I've been to were in the midwest so maybe more informal and family oriented?

I completely agree. In the midwest it would be strange to not bring your kids to showers, weddings, etc. Only in DC, and particularly on this site have I found people to be so snotty and unwelcoming to kids in social situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:20:28, I see what you mean, but I have 4 month that I'm expected to leave at home?

Why is it hard to leave an infant at home for a few hours?

I had a four month old infant I couldn't leave home for a few hours. She still was nursing every couple of hours during the day.

The only children I have seen at baby showers were other babies. My showers were planned by other people and I didn't care if they had kids there or not but it seemed like the moms planning the parties wanted them to be child free so they could drink.

[Anonymous]

I've never been to a shower where kids/babies were present and I'm in my 40ties and been to too many to count. Strictly adults only.

[Anonymous]

I had quite a few kids at my baby shower and I didn't care at all. Most of my friends had kids before me so I am used to kids being around all of the time.

Having said that, the hostesses did ask me if that was ok and most of my friends did clarify that it was ok before they just went ahead and brought them. I also told those with kids that it was fine to bring them along, just so they didn't have to ask. And, we had my shower in the party room of a community center where there was an indoor pool and a playground so there was someplace to take the kids so they were not bored the entire time (my dad, husband and uncle were there to take the kids out to play).

I think it depends on where you are having it (someone's house is more acceptable for bringing kids than a nice restaurant or tea room), the number of people attending who have kids and what the mom-to-be wants. Regardless, I think its always a good idea to ask or not bring the child if you have not been told it is ok to bring children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are all these kid-less showers? The showers I've attended had children present, which was nice. Also, I've never seen alcohol served at a baby shower... sounds strange to me.

OP again. That's what I thought. Maybe it's this area? The showers I've been to were in the midwest so maybe more informal and family oriented?

I completely agree. In the midwest it would be strange to not bring your kids to showers, weddings, etc. Only in DC, and particularly on this site have I found people to be so snotty and unwelcoming to kids in social situations.

Because there are certain situations where your special little snowflake isn't supposed to be the center of attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are all these kid-less showers? The showers I've attended had children present, which was nice. Also, I've never seen alcohol served at a baby shower... sounds strange to me.

OP again. That's what I thought. Maybe it's this area? The showers I've been to were in the midwest so maybe more informal and family oriented?

I completely agree. In the midwest it would be strange to not bring your kids to showers, weddings, etc. Only in DC, and particularly on this site have I found people to be so snotty and unwelcoming to kids in social situations.

Because there are certain situations where your special little snowflake isn't supposed to be the center of attention.[/quote]

Ha- love this! All showers for babies and weddings have been adult only events. All the baby shower ones had alcohol too. I think in this area, it goes without saying, NO CHILDREN!

[Anonymous]

I think bringing a 4 month old baby is fine, but not a toddler or preschooler. I Would just call and ask. I was recently in a similar situation and called the host to ask if she minded if I bring my young BF infant along, but was sure to make it very clear my rambunctious three year old would stay home with dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


Holy cr*p OP! Are you the same person who insists on taking junior to weddings when the invite clearly specifies adults only? Do you have to act like you are from a trailer park? [Not that that is a bad thing, of course. Just ask Tanya Harding. She's a good example.] WTF?

Um, no. I'm only asking about baby showers, and if you have read my posts, you would know that I've only been to TWO, and BOTH of them had kids present, which is why I'm asking. I also think within *MY* circle of friends, kids are expected at these types of functions, weddings included. Again, which is why I'm asking you all. I just moved here from the Midwest and social culture is clearly different in this area.

[Anonymous]

OP again, and no, I did NOT move here from some hick Midwestern town, I moved here from Chicago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think bringing a 4 month old baby is fine, but not a toddler or preschooler. I Would just call and ask. I was recently in a similar situation and called the host to ask if she minded if I bring my young BF infant along, but was sure to make it very clear my rambunctious three year old would stay home with dad.

No its not ok if children are not wanted. Baby or older. Some people do not think kids need to be included everywhere at all times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm actually the opposite - unless I know otherwise, I assume that it is NOT an event for kids. These are thrown for FTMs, and are generally a chance to celebrate the woman, so I see them as baby themed but adult focused.

That said, I think infants are an exception, as it can be difficult for a Mom to be away from a small baby, especially if she's breastfeeding.

But personally, I'd much rather leave my kids at home, as I wouldn't be able to enjoy the shower activities nearly as much if I had to be entertaining the preschooler while making sure the toddler didn't knock over all the desserts / open all the presents.

ITA. Moms with young infants (like 4 mo old) being the exception. The focus should be on the mom and baby-to-be, not a play date.

[Anonymous]

DC people are ridiculous. and i'm a native.
all the people i know (who are also natives) allow babies and kids at their baby showers. but i'm fairly certain the people i know are not the people everyone else on dcum knows. i am not white and i am not a lawyer and i don't make over 100k. so there you go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC people are ridiculous. and i'm a native.
all the people i know (who are also natives) allow babies and kids at their baby showers. but i'm fairly certain the people i know are not the people everyone else on dcum knows. i am not white and i am not a lawyer and i don't make over 100k. so there you go.

OP here, I'm also not white, not a lawyer and don't make over 100K so maybe that has something to do with it