Adults only baby shower?

[Anonymous]

Is this normal? I always assumed baby showers, especially ones held on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon, would be pretty kid/baby friendly. I mean, it's a BABY shower. What do you think? Under what circumstances would you assume that is/is not kid/baby friendly?

[Anonymous]

Circumstances would be if the hostesses or guest of honor want it kid-free. Sometimes people love having other kids around. Sometimes people feel that the kids divert focus from the guest of honor. Thought being that you should be oohing over the cute little outfit that she just received, not the cute thing that someone else's child just did.

[Anonymous]

I'm actually the opposite - unless I know otherwise, I assume that it is NOT an event for kids. These are thrown for FTMs, and are generally a chance to celebrate the woman, so I see them as baby themed but adult focused.

That said, I think infants are an exception, as it can be difficult for a Mom to be away from a small baby, especially if she's breastfeeding.

But personally, I'd much rather leave my kids at home, as I wouldn't be able to enjoy the shower activities nearly as much if I had to be entertaining the preschooler while making sure the toddler didn't knock over all the desserts / open all the presents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Circumstances would be if the hostesses or guest of honor want it kid-free. Sometimes people love having other kids around. Sometimes people feel that the kids divert focus from the guest of honor. Thought being that you should be oohing over the cute little outfit that she just received, not the cute thing that someone else's child just did.

OP again, let me clarify. I meant, how would you know based on the invite that it is/is not a kid friendly shower?

[Anonymous]

20:28, I see what you mean, but I have 4 month that I'm expected to leave at home?

[Anonymous]

20:28 again. If your baby is 4 months old, just call up the hostess and ask for clarification. If the answer is no and you're not comfortable with that, then just politely decline.

[Anonymous]

i would just ask the hostess...

for my shower, we invited all the kids and babies and it was a NIGHTMARE. the house the party was held at was not kid friendly and everyone just let their kids go wild. i spent more time apologizing to my lovely hosts than enjoying my party.

[Anonymous]

In both circumstances (OP and PP), I'd simply ask the hostess. I wouldn't make it a big deal - "Thanks for the invite, I'd love to come. Wanted to double check whether I should bring Junior or if you preferred for it to be daddy-daycare for the afternoon.". The 4mo old shouldn't be an issue if you are BF'ing, and if so, just politely decline.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you call the hostess and ask? If they say that they would prefer not to have babies (which they probably won't because you are not asking to bring a screaming three year old and probably have enough sense to step outside if the baby starts fussing) either leave your baby at home or stay home and send a gift with your regrets. YOU are not essential to another mother's shower.

[Anonymous]

I always assumed that baby showers were for the adults, and not children. I would never take my children to a baby shower and for the parents that did take their kids, it was very chaotic. It is a time to welcome that one child, and have the center of attention on the mom and child, not other little children running around or babies crying.

[Anonymous]

Unless the baby's name is on the invite, I would assume that she's not invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:20:28, I see what you mean, but I have 4 month that I'm expected to leave at home?

Why is it hard to leave an infant at home for a few hours?

[Anonymous]

who was the invitation addressed to? I always look at that for guidance...if addressed to mr. and mrs. Jones (or by our first names) I know it is adult only...addressed to The Jones Family means kids too.

[Anonymous]

Every single one I've attended has been kid-free AND I've been to a hell of a lot in my 41 years.

Focus is on the yet to be born child not your screaming kids running around. Most have had cocktAils for the non-z
Preggos and great food.

[Anonymous]

Please Don't ask the hostess!$! Your little rockers aren't wanted (unless specifically specified on the invite). You are only making it difficulT for her for badgering. The focus is on mom-to-be and unborn child not your kids. Kids at bab y showers are annoying. Were there to relax, enjoy drinks, food, etc not to hear screaming kids or make chicken nuggets.