What do you think of this!?

[Anonymous]

WTF is wrong with you people that you can think this is even remotely OK?

[Anonymous]

how can you lock a runnin car? does she owe a 1990 Honda civic?

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Anonymous wrote:Would you be willing to print out information on carbon m. poisoning in cars and put it on her windshield, OP?

Now that's just fucking obnoxious.

Why? She's doing something that is dangerous but that a lot of people don't know is dangerous.

You don't think she'd prefer the paper on her windshield to a second visit from the cops?

How many times do people sit in running cars in traffic? And how many of those people die from carbon monoxide poisoning by just sitting there in a running car?

I'm guessing not that many die because they get out of the car when they start to feel faint and throw up. So no problem, the babies will just get out of the car too.

Exactly! Let the babies save themselves! They have legs.

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Anonymous wrote:how can you lock a runnin car? does she owe a 1990 Honda civic?

how could she owe somebody a honda civic? did she lose a bet?

[Anonymous]

I really feel OP is crossing a line. Do I think that this lady is doing something smart? No, of course not. Do I think, if this were me, I'd prefer a different solution, like staying at home with two napping boys or like asking someone in the dance class to take my DD while I stay home with the two boys? Yes, I personally would not do what this mom is doing.

But... OP is clearly a real busy-body, talking with her friend to "get" this mom. A mom of three has a tough life. She's doing the best she can. I (personally) cannot win the sancti-mommi prize, being one who routinely relies on frozen entrees and prepared foods for my DS and me, and who has been known to feed my DS applesauce and hope it meets his "fruit and veggies" RDA. I pity people who cannot have basic empathy and realize that many moms (and dads) take shortcuts to keep their lives functioning.

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Anonymous wrote:I really feel OP is crossing a line. Do I think that this lady is doing something smart? No, of course not. Do I think, if this were me, I'd prefer a different solution, like staying at home with two napping boys or like asking someone in the dance class to take my DD while I stay home with the two boys? Yes, I personally would not do what this mom is doing.

But... OP is clearly a real busy-body, talking with her friend to "get" this mom. A mom of three has a tough life. She's doing the best she can. I (personally) cannot win the sancti-mommi prize, being one who routinely relies on frozen entrees and prepared foods for my DS and me, and who has been known to feed my DS applesauce and hope it meets his "fruit and veggies" RDA. I pity people who cannot have basic empathy and realize that many moms (and dads) take shortcuts to keep their lives functioning.

Frozen entrees and prepared foods will not kill your DS. Applesauce DOES count towards the fruit RDA (especially if its 100% apples and not sweetened). And she could, at the very least, sit in the car WITH her boys instead of (not) watching from the studio. I get that life is hard. But this is just wrong and scary on so many levels. I don't think OP is a busybody, just concerned about the LIFE of a CHILD.

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Anonymous wrote:I really feel OP is crossing a line. Do I think that this lady is doing something smart? No, of course not. Do I think, if this were me, I'd prefer a different solution, like staying at home with two napping boys or like asking someone in the dance class to take my DD while I stay home with the two boys? Yes, I personally would not do what this mom is doing.

But... OP is clearly a real busy-body, talking with her friend to "get" this mom. A mom of three has a tough life. She's doing the best she can. I (personally) cannot win the sancti-mommi prize, being one who routinely relies on frozen entrees and prepared foods for my DS and me, and who has been known to feed my DS applesauce and hope it meets his "fruit and veggies" RDA. I pity people who cannot have basic empathy and realize that many moms (and dads) take shortcuts to keep their lives functioning.

Frozen entrees and prepared foods will not kill your DS. Applesauce DOES count towards the fruit RDA (especially if its 100% apples and not sweetened). And she could, at the very least, sit in the car WITH her boys instead of (not) watching from the studio. I get that life is hard. But this is just wrong and scary on so many levels. I don't think OP is a busybody, just concerned about the LIFE of a CHILD.

I like how you use caps to make your point. It's really effective. It makes you seem really smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I understand your angst and frustration. I once saw a parent get off his bicycle at the door of my child's daycare center with his infant strapped to his chest in a Bjorn. I was sitting in the car nursing my newborn and I was just stupefied at how dangerous that was. The dad evidently did this on a daily basis - I could only imagine what would happen to that baby if the dad hit a pothole and fell off the bike or was hit by a car. I told the daycare administrators who said they would mention safety issues to him, but who knows if they did, and he clearly didn't listen. I think in these situations there is only so much you can do. That doesn't make it any less shocking or frustrating, however.

Ugh, we must go to the same day care because I used to see a Dad do this as well. It freaked me out everytime but I never said anything about it, I'm never sure what to do in these types of situations.

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Personally, I would call CPS and report her and mention the police report. I would just never tell anyone, not even my friend, that I contacted CPS and let them deal with it.

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A car can be locked from the outside with the remote thingie that almost everyone has now. When I lock my car this way, if anyone tried to break in the alarm would go off. It can be locked and the alarm activated from the outside while the car is running.

I get that this situation isn't ideal, but as a soon to be mother of 3 I really sympathize with this mom. She's trying to do her best for her kids -- allowing the younger ones to get the sleep they need and the older one to participate in an activity she enjoys. It's hard to juggle three little ones by yourself. She brought a baby monitor. She can see the car from where she is. The car is climate-controlled and locked. The class is only 45 minutes. If it's outdoor parking I don't see the danger of carbon monoxide poisoning. I'm just not seeing what is so awful about it. And for god's sake, calling CPS?

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I'm not being snarky, but I don't understand why you would think it's OK to not say anything to her, but it is ok to call the police/CPS. I can imagine that having the police/CPS confront their mother is terrifying for kids. If the point is to help/save the children wouldn't it be safer to confront her directly rather than escalating it to CPS?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not being snarky, but I don't understand why you would think it's OK to not say anything to her, but it is ok to call the police/CPS. I can imagine that having the police/CPS confront their mother is terrifying for kids. If the point is to help/save the children wouldn't it be safer to confront her directly rather than escalating it to CPS?

Exactly. I like this. OP, maybe if you had talked to her, asked her questions, gotten to know her a little bit, maybe you would have felt comfortable enough to ask her about the car situation. It really doesn't seem like she was being this horribly neglectful mother. I wouldn't have done what she's doing, but it really sounds like her kids were not in any immediate danger... at least not enough danger that the cops or cps should get involved.

Talking to her first, I think, would have been the best option. Instead, you and your friend come off as two meddling, judgmental women, wringing your hands in the corner and whispering about what a horrible mother she is. And then calling the cops on her?

That's definitely not what I would've done.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF is wrong with you people that you can think this is even remotely OK?

I know, I cannot believe the number of people making excuses for this woman. And the whole 'it's so hard having 3 kids thing' is bs. If you can't handle it, stop popping out babies until you get the logistics down, because having 2 kids napping in the car while you're in an activity with another one is not ok.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF is wrong with you people that you can think this is even remotely OK?

I know, I cannot believe the number of people making excuses for this woman. And the whole 'it's so hard having 3 kids thing' is bs. If you can't handle it, stop popping out babies until you get the logistics down, because having 2 kids napping in the car while you're in an activity with another one is not ok.

So would you have said something to her face, or just called the cops?

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Anonymous wrote:WTF is wrong with you people that you can think this is even remotely OK?

I know, I cannot believe the number of people making excuses for this woman. And the whole 'it's so hard having 3 kids thing' is bs. If you can't handle it, stop popping out babies until you get the logistics down, because having 2 kids napping in the car while you're in an activity with another one is not ok.

At the very least this woman should drop off her DD and hang out in the car with her sleeping kids. Let her look in the window to see her DD. I am also quite surprised at how many people are trying to justify her actions.