I kind of like "home maker" in lieu of SAHM. Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I smell trouble ahead. Popcorn anyone?

Yes please. And some Twizzlers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just reading the thread on taxes and I wish that term would come back. It's like being a SAHM is so offensive for some reason that every term used to describe it eventually becomes derogatory.

Home maker seems more positive and accurate then SAHM. Not to be cheesy, but I feel like I make my house a really nice place to be by virtue of having the extra time to do things that I couldn't do if I worked. I guess the only drawback is some working moms thinking that it infers that they don't make their house a home with the things they do for their family (not what I think btw). Such is life I guess.

That is precisely what you are implying, not what I am inferring.

[Anonymous]

I work 40-45 hours a week, and my house is a wreck. I eat out 2-3 nights a week because I'm too exhausted, after work and helping with the excrutiating amounts of homework given to kids today. I have no problems with a SAHM telling me she makes her house nicer. I have no doubt she does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work 40-45 hours a week, and my house is a wreck. I eat out 2-3 nights a week because I'm too exhausted, after work and helping with the excrutiating amounts of homework given to kids today. I have no problems with a SAHM telling me she makes her house nicer. I have no doubt she does.

I find eating out exhausting...interesting that someone would do that if they were exhausted. Is your husband not able to help with cooking and house stuff? We have a housekeeper and my husband does about half the cooking. The rest I either make ahead on the weekends or it's omelette night, baked chicken with steamed veggie night, or grilled cheese and salads.

Sorry...I know you didn't ask for tips but I couldn't resist. Good luck and sorry you are exhausted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work 40-45 hours a week, and my house is a wreck. I eat out 2-3 nights a week because I'm too exhausted, after work and helping with the excrutiating amounts of homework given to kids today. I have no problems with a SAHM telling me she makes her house nicer. I have no doubt she does.

I find eating out exhausting...interesting that someone would do that if they were exhausted. Is your husband not able to help with cooking and house stuff? We have a housekeeper and my husband does about half the cooking. The rest I either make ahead on the weekends or it's omelette night, baked chicken with steamed veggie night, or grilled cheese and salads.

Sorry...I know you didn't ask for tips but I couldn't resist. Good luck and sorry you are exhausted

Thanks. I'm a single mom, and I live a block's walk for 4-5 restaurants. So that helps. As for housecleaning, I do use someone once every 2 weeks, but by a week in, we're looking at a lost of dust balls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work 40-45 hours a week, and my house is a wreck. I eat out 2-3 nights a week because I'm too exhausted, after work and helping with the excrutiating amounts of homework given to kids today. I have no problems with a SAHM telling me she makes her house nicer. I have no doubt she does.

I like your honesty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work 40-45 hours a week, and my house is a wreck. I eat out 2-3 nights a week because I'm too exhausted, after work and helping with the excrutiating amounts of homework given to kids today. I have no problems with a SAHM telling me she makes her house nicer. I have no doubt she does.

I like your honesty.

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Me, too. And, for what it's worth, I make my home nicer when I'm not working: nicer than it was before, not nicer than yours (or whoever's).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work 40-45 hours a week, and my house is a wreck. I eat out 2-3 nights a week because I'm too exhausted, after work and helping with the excrutiating amounts of homework given to kids today. I have no problems with a SAHM telling me she makes her house nicer. I have no doubt she does.

I find eating out exhausting...interesting that someone would do that if they were exhausted. Is your husband not able to help with cooking and house stuff? We have a housekeeper and my husband does about half the cooking. The rest I either make ahead on the weekends or it's omelette night, baked chicken with steamed veggie night, or grilled cheese and salads.

Sorry...I know you didn't ask for tips but I couldn't resist. Good luck and sorry you are exhausted

Thanks. I'm a single mom, and I live a block's walk for 4-5 restaurants. So that helps. As for housecleaning, I do use someone once every 2 weeks, but by a week in, we're looking at a lost of dust balls.

Whoa boy. I find it tiring and I have a husband that does A LOT (though we still bicker so I am sure that drains me too!) so yeah, I'd probably be eating out too.

[Anonymous]

We both work but DH is totally the homemaker between the two of us. He has much better taste than me and has done some great things with the house. He is really good at making a room seem twice as big, and he is the one that changes the decor from season to season (and no, he's not gay. He's just a good dresser and has an eye for that sort of thing. I would be more suspicious if he went to the gym, his feet didn't smell, and wasn't so into watching sports )

He also is a better cook than me and enjoys it much more, and is great at picking up the house whereas I tend to say I'll get around to it and he gets annoyed and does it. Otherwise we tend to divide the rest pretty stereotypically - he does all things yard/trash/car/home repair, I do more of the laundry and things like bedtime routines, kid baths, etc. We both tackle different aspects of the finances and we outsource much of the cleaning.

[Anonymous]

Just write "unemployed."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work 40-45 hours a week, and my house is a wreck. I eat out 2-3 nights a week because I'm too exhausted, after work and helping with the excrutiating amounts of homework given to kids today. I have no problems with a SAHM telling me she makes her house nicer. I have no doubt she does.

Why doesn't your DH cook? Or why don't you cook the night before? I work 45 -50 hours a week and my house is not a wreck.

[Anonymous]

House wife is more accurate.

[Anonymous]

I refer to myself as a haus frau. Somehow the German words better capture the frumpadoo nature of my typical day lately.

I'd love to be one of those Ladies Who Lunch, but we don't have enough money for that. Plus it would get boring. I use whatever free time I have to read or work on rehabbing my 100 year old house.

[Anonymous]

The thing is, I don't have any problem with anything someone else wants to be called. We can all create our own titles in this world. I know a Mom-Who-Does-Not-Collect-A-Paycheck who says she's self-employed or works for her family. I know another who calls herself "one of those ladies who lunch" even though she's not. I work full time, but at home. But I don't see much difference between me (WaHM)? And any other mom who is working (at home or otherwise).

I don't think the question should be about what is our title. I think the question should be why the F do we care?

I know I don't. When I hear that someone is "at home" with the kids, I'm a little bit envious. I have to work. Of course, I get a lot of value from my job so even if I didn't "have to," I still probably would. There are others who work 80 hours a week. Yes, I sometimes wonder why they do that. But I also wonder why any man would choose to spend that much time away from his family. But of course, that family has their own answer and probably wonders why I'm slugging away at a 100K a year job when I could work harder, make more, and live a totally different life. One that seems better to them, but not to me.

Isn't it okay to be different? (cue the after school special music, please).

[Anonymous]

As someone who chooses to WAH (could SAH but it wasn't for me, was offered WAH and took it), can I call myself the Empress of the Home? Since I do the housework and work 45 hrs a week for my job?

Done. Everyone, I'm the Empress of the Home