Why are people on DCUM so rude and snarky?

[Anonymous]

20:25, I don't think it's that complicated. Some (all?) people need to feel superior. It's human nature and the same pecking order routine we've gone through since we were kids. It's part of life.

I don't get bitchy often and it's typically because I'm provoked, but from outright rudeness, not just stupidity. The people who are posting single line responses with the sole purpose of being rude have issues and are usually trying to do nothing more than rile people up.

Your comments relating men are rude and mean spirited. And, no, it did not strike a nerve. I'm a lesbian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:20:25, I don't think it's that complicated. Some (all?) people need to feel superior. It's human nature and the same pecking order routine we've gone through since we were kids. It's part of life.

I don't get bitchy often and it's typically because I'm provoked, but from outright rudeness, not just stupidity. The people who are posting single line responses with the sole purpose of being rude have issues and are usually trying to do nothing more than rile people up. Your comments relating men are rude and mean spirited. And, no, it did not strike a nerve. I'm a lesbian.

I think that the posters who post mean, snarky comments frequently (although we won't know who they are) probably act in similar fashion away from this forum--the true personality is just "shining through."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With your sanctimony, what kind of responses do you think you're going to get?

You've got the order wrong. The OP asked why there's so much bitchiness. A bunch of self-proclaimed bitches gave their answers. THEN came my sanctimony. The bitchiness came first.

In other threads, the bitchiness it usually comes in response to something completely innocent, often the OP. I've seen a lot of this kind of thing:
OP: What is the best kind of formula?
Bitch: I can't believe you would use formula. Wake up.

The typical sequence is: 1) innocent statement; 2) bitch attack; 3) (sometimes) calling out of the bitch, usually followed by flame war.

I'll accept the label of sanctimonious from a bitch, certainly a self-proclaimed one. I'll keep on being intolerant of intolerance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that the posters who post mean, snarky comments frequently (although we won't know who they are) probably act in similar fashion away from this forum--the true personality is just "shining through."

I'm skeptical. Maybe, in the case of female posters, since they're less in danger of getting punched out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With your sanctimony, what kind of responses do you think you're going to get?

You've got the order wrong. The OP asked why there's so much bitchiness. A bunch of self-proclaimed bitches gave their answers. THEN came my sanctimony. The bitchiness came first.

In other threads, the bitchiness it usually comes in response to something completely innocent, often the OP. I've seen a lot of this kind of thing:
OP: What is the best kind of formula?
Bitch: I can't believe you would use formula. Wake up.

The typical sequence is: 1) innocent statement; 2) bitch attack; 3) (sometimes) calling out of the bitch, usually followed by flame war.

I'll accept the label of sanctimonious from a bitch, certainly a self-proclaimed one. I'll keep on being intolerant of intolerance.

Rock on with your Pollyanna self. You're awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think a small handful have serious personality disorders. Firing your nanny because she fed your kid canned soup? Hurt and confused as to why your entire circle of friends has shunned you, saying you frighten their children? Those are just two threads I can think of . . . but there are some real nutsos.

And then there are the people who simply refuse to get the point of the thread, no matter how. many. times. it. is. spelled. out. for. them. (It wasn't about the canned soup, you dolt.)

[Anonymous]

because we're a bunch of cowards who would never say such things face to face.

[Anonymous]

"Some people are strangely annoyed by others' niceness, innocent questions, positive thoughts or humor."

This. Look around. There are people who can not wait for an excuse to roll their eyes. This is the rude and snarky bunch. Trying to mask their issues (deflect) when really. all they are doing is announcing their issues. They are not all that smart.

[Anonymous]

From another thread, why are people so hostile here? I don't buy the excuses I have heard. I do think they have huge deficits in their lives, and they really do seem to need help. Personality disorders would be putting it very generously.

[Anonymous]

The armchair psychology here (20:25 and 22:43, you know who you are!) is laughable. The reason for the snarkiness is because it's anonymous and well... you know... IT'S THE INTERNET! Hello! I hate that phrase "love it or leave it," but in this case it's entirely apt.

[Anonymous]

its a woman thing. I frequent tons of male dominated message boards. and they are nothing like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The reason for the snarkiness is because it's anonymous and well... you know... IT'S THE INTERNET! Hello! I hate that phrase "love it or leave it," but in this case it's entirely apt.

This thread is actually pretty educational because of the repeated statements like this one. It seems that there are a bunch of people here (though still a minority, I think) who are inherently mean, and think that everyone else is as well, and that we're only kept in check by social pressures. They think it's just human nature to abuse others as much as we can get away with it, and that that's OK.

Anonymous wrote:its a woman thing. I frequent tons of male dominated message boards. and they are nothing like this.

I'm PC enough (even internally) that I hate thinking that way, but the other boards I've frequented were mostly men, and while there were certainly jerks, they weren't as casually and pointlessly mean as some here.

Not all of the internet is like this at all, contrary to the apparent beliefs of some here. Lots of people on the internet are polite and helpful to strangers, just like on the street. Could you imagine asking someone for directions and having them say, "What? Who would want to go there? What's the matter with you?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reason for the snarkiness is because it's anonymous and well... you know... IT'S THE INTERNET! Hello! I hate that phrase "love it or leave it," but in this case it's entirely apt.

This thread is actually pretty educational because of the repeated statements like this one. It seems that there are a bunch of people here (though still a minority, I think) who are inherently mean, and think that everyone else is as well, and that we're only kept in check by social pressures. They think it's just human nature to abuse others as much as we can get away with it, and that that's OK.

Anonymous wrote:its a woman thing. I frequent tons of male dominated message boards. and they are nothing like this.

I'm PC enough (even internally) that I hate thinking that way, but the other boards I've frequented were mostly men, and while there were certainly jerks, they weren't as casually and pointlessly mean as some here.

Not all of the internet is like this at all, contrary to the apparent beliefs of some here. Lots of people on the internet are polite and helpful to strangers, just like on the street. Could you imagine asking someone for directions and having them say, "What? Who would want to go there? What's the matter with you?"

I think you're right on all points. It's also interesting to me that many of these posters who respond with sharp comments and seemingly little patience for viewpoints or parenting ideas other than their own likely consider themselves to be extremely tolerant and liberal in their thinking. . . but they're not.

[Anonymous]

Fuck you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IT'S THE INTERNET! Hello! I hate that phrase "love it or leave it," but in this case it's entirely apt.

That's interesting, because I was just saying something similar to this rape "victim." She was like, "I can't believe this happened to me," and I was all like, "Hellooo!! They're men! Sometimes they rape you!"