Are “boy moms” really not teaching their sons any life skills?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My stepsons are in college and like this. Their mom is MIA and their dad has not taught them many basic life skills - he just does everything for them. I think it is divorced dad guilt. It drives me crazy - first, because I have to put up with the mess and lack of hygiene and second, because I think it is bad for them to not have basic life skills.

You are married to this loser?

[Anonymous]

Op, there is way more than fixing a dinner and cleaning up a plate and utensils! Does your DD know how to use hedge-cutters? Can she replace the light bulbs in a lantern in the front yard? Can she use an air compressor to fill up the tires of the car? Does she know how to access and read the dipstick in the car to check all fluids? Can she use a caulk gun? Can she replace the water filters? Many, many life skills need to be taught to both sons and daughters.

[Anonymous]

Why does a 20yr old boy need to make a lot of dr appointments? It’s probably not his insurance and he is unlikely to have chronic health issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, there is way more than fixing a dinner and cleaning up a plate and utensils! Does your DD know how to use hedge-cutters? Can she replace the light bulbs in a lantern in the front yard? Can she use an air compressor to fill up the tires of the car? Does she know how to access and read the dipstick in the car to check all fluids? Can she use a caulk gun? Can she replace the water filters? Many, many life skills need to be taught to both sons and daughters.

DP. First, they’re not comparable skills. Everyone needs to feed themselves and clean up after themselves. Not everyone is going to own a house or a car. Those tasks are also much easier to outsource than daily meal prep and laundry. Second, LOTS of women do all of those things all the time. As a lesbian, I always find the commentary like “yeah, well, sure the woman cooks, cleans, and occupies the children all day everyday, but who cuts the grass and changes the oil” to be hilarious. Lots of women manage to keep house without the assistance men. Somehow my wife and I manage to maintain an older (ie needing lots of maintenance) home with two really stressful jobs all without the help of a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does a 20yr old boy need to make a lot of dr appointments? It’s probably not his insurance and he is unlikely to have chronic health issues.

Eye doctor, annual physical, vaccines, dentist, dermatologist. Those are pretty basic ones for a healthy young adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My stepsons are in college and like this. Their mom is MIA and their dad has not taught them many basic life skills - he just does everything for them. I think it is divorced dad guilt. It drives me crazy - first, because I have to put up with the mess and lack of hygiene and second, because I think it is bad for them to not have basic life skills.

You are married to this loser?

This. I'll never understand people who are attracted to someone like that.

[Anonymous]

My 30-year-old son makes $1.2 million per year in tech AI. His fiancée is an accountant, and she earns $80,000 per year. When he was dating her, he was very clear about not cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, or handling other household chores. She wants him to focus on making money rather than doing housework.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does a 20yr old boy need to make a lot of dr appointments? It’s probably not his insurance and he is unlikely to have chronic health issues.

Why not?
Usually for
- annual physical,
- sports clearance or educational institution clearance,
- vaccines (and especially if travelling abroad),
- eye exam,
- dental cleaning,
- dermatologist.

[Anonymous]

What a stupid post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does a 20yr old boy need to make a lot of dr appointments? It’s probably not his insurance and he is unlikely to have chronic health issues.

Why not?
Usually for
- annual physical,
- sports clearance or educational institution clearance,
- vaccines (and especially if travelling abroad),
- eye exam,
- dental cleaning,
- dermatologist.

No 20 yr old is doing all this. Sorry. Their bodies aren't breaking down like yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does a 20yr old boy need to make a lot of dr appointments? It’s probably not his insurance and he is unlikely to have chronic health issues.

Why not?
Usually for
- annual physical,
- sports clearance or educational institution clearance,
- vaccines (and especially if travelling abroad),
- eye exam,
- dental cleaning,
- dermatologist.

You can walk into any urgent care and take care of almost all of this without an appointment. Try harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, there is way more than fixing a dinner and cleaning up a plate and utensils! Does your DD know how to use hedge-cutters? Can she replace the light bulbs in a lantern in the front yard? Can she use an air compressor to fill up the tires of the car? Does she know how to access and read the dipstick in the car to check all fluids? Can she use a caulk gun? Can she replace the water filters? Many, many life skills need to be taught to both sons and daughters.

Yes or alternatively you can help them get good education and build lucrative careers so they can spread their income by hiring others.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why being able to make a decent meal is such a thing these days. We've only been doing this for 300,000 years. If your college aged kids can't make a good meal, you failed. That's both for boys and girls.

There is a lot of culture that goes into food. It's what creates communities. Teach your kids how to cook. Every 18 year old should know how to make a basic omelette. Very cheap. Pretty simple. It's not rocket science.

And if they can't, that just bad parenting or laziness. Would judge accordingly if a 20-something can't do the basics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, there is way more than fixing a dinner and cleaning up a plate and utensils! Does your DD know how to use hedge-cutters? Can she replace the light bulbs in a lantern in the front yard? Can she use an air compressor to fill up the tires of the car? Does she know how to access and read the dipstick in the car to check all fluids? Can she use a caulk gun? Can she replace the water filters? Many, many life skills need to be taught to both sons and daughters.

Of my daughter knows all of this, because what woman doesn't know how to do all the above? These are all basic things.

[Anonymous]

Anyone these days can download a YouTube video and learn stuff in 5 min. They don't need to know everything before leaving home.