Are “boy moms” really not teaching their sons any life skills?

[Anonymous]

Your daughter knows a handful of guys and this is now all guys? She doesn't sound like much of a catch if she only attracts low hanging fruit.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I married young and I am pretty convinced we raised each other in the first years of marriage. We were both really clueless, but clueless in very different ways that augmented each other's weaknesses. Long married now and both very successful in our careers. We are trying to teach our kids all the things we didn't know when we were growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter knows a handful of guys and this is now all guys? She doesn't sound like much of a catch if she only attracts low hanging fruit.

Ah, and here is the low hanging fruit of DCMoms, always with the attacks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your daughter knows a handful of guys and this is now all guys? She doesn't sound like much of a catch if she only attracts low hanging fruit.

Ah, and here is the low hanging fruit of DCMoms, always with the attacks.

Always with the attacks? And not the ridiculous OP whose loser daughter knows a handful of boys? I have sons and daughters and know that OP is either a troll or has a daughter who is no prize.

[Anonymous]

My stepsons are in college and like this. Their mom is MIA and their dad has not taught them many basic life skills - he just does everything for them. I think it is divorced dad guilt. It drives me crazy - first, because I have to put up with the mess and lack of hygiene and second, because I think it is bad for them to not have basic life skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What you described isn’t how my son, any of his male friends, or my daughter’s boyfriend behave.

Perhaps it is the company your daughter keeps?

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter knows a handful of guys and this is now all guys? She doesn't sound like much of a catch if she only attracts low hanging fruit.

+1. Sounds naive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your daughter knows a handful of guys and this is now all guys? She doesn't sound like much of a catch if she only attracts low hanging fruit.

Ah, and here is the low hanging fruit of DCMoms, always with the attacks.

Always with the attacks? And not the ridiculous OP whose loser daughter knows a handful of boys? I have sons and daughters and know that OP is either a troll or has a daughter who is no prize.

You attacking her for making remarks based on her daughter and the few people she knows, which your attacks are based on your own kids and who they know. Both of you are basing your assumptions on anecdotal evidence. But you are attacking her as if you have fact based evidence. You don't seem to understand your own hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a “boy mom” in the sense that I have a couple of sons. They have been doing their laundry, cleaning their bathrooms, and doing the dishes every night since elementary school. They made me an outstanding meal for Mother’s Day.

OP’s sort of over-generalization is ludicrous at best.

Yes, I agree. I have sons who are very smart. They have good jobs and did very well in college. They know how to cook, clean, make dr's appointments and so on.

[Anonymous]

OP is over analyzing an innocuous remark. I find it harder to cook for 1 than to cook for 2 or more. Separately, many young people (both men and women) who are living alone eat more takeout than they do after they are married.

[Anonymous]

My SIL has 4 boys no girls. The boys (now 19-24) all show up everywhere looking homeless. Their clothes are crumpled beyond recognition, they dont know how to get haircuts, the are a mess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your daughter knows a handful of guys and this is now all guys? She doesn't sound like much of a catch if she only attracts low hanging fruit.

Ah, and here is the low hanging fruit of DCMoms, always with the attacks.

Always with the attacks? And not the ridiculous OP whose loser daughter knows a handful of boys? I have sons and daughters and know that OP is either a troll or has a daughter who is no prize.

You attacking her for making remarks based on her daughter and the few people she knows, which your attacks are based on your own kids and who they know. Both of you are basing your assumptions on anecdotal evidence. But you are attacking her as if you have fact based evidence. You don't seem to understand your own hypocrisy.

She deserves to be attacked for lashing out at "boy moms" because her kid knows a dud or too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My SIL has 4 boys no girls. The boys (now 19-24) all show up everywhere looking homeless. Their clothes are crumpled beyond recognition, they dont know how to get haircuts, the are a mess.

We don't shame kids for dressing how they like anymore. Shall we start judging the girls for their muffin tops, bra straps, short hems, and everything else that makes them look like slobs?

[Anonymous]

I have an ADHD/ASD/Anxiety boy. He’s still developmentally about 5 yrs behind his age. He can’t cook because he’s afraid that he will get burned. He struggles with the microwave because he needs explicitly instructions—not 30 sec and then see if it’s hot. He’s making progress with laundry but remembering to switch from wash to dryer is tough. He’s does not like talking to strangers. Even making doctors appts is overwhelming and he cannot fill out the necessary forms. He does not know what is relevant information and what is not.

I am trying but it is a struggle.

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Anonymous wrote:What the mother said was just a friendly phrase. Relax. You take one comment and stretch it into his entire identity. That says a lot about you.

I have a son and think a mom who says something like that is a major red flag. She is expecting the gf to step into mom role and he may also be expecting that. I’m not saying it’s immediate break up but it’s definitely proceed with caution.

I do think a lot of guys will do what they think they can get away with. So if they think she will cook for them, they will pretend they’ don’t know how to cook. If she’s like— look, I find it really unimpressive when guys don’t know how to cook basic meals. Can you make dinner? A guy who thinks that cooking is a prerequisite to getting the girl will generally get on YouTube and figure it the heck out. It’s a little bit like stand and deliver — you need to have high expectations for them, if you expect nothing, they will take advantage of that.

Again, it’s a phrase. You are reading into it way more than you need to.

This. Maybe she meant, oh good, now he'll take her out to nice restaurants and stop eating McDonalds every night because his girlfriend won't want that.

I agree with the above sentiment. Raise your kids well and choose to be nice.