Passion is fading. Should I divorce now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Divorce.

+2

[Anonymous]

A troll and not a very smart one at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry is this a troll?

Yes. No question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Passion is hormones meant to get you into a relationship.

You are a family now. You have ethical obligations to your spouse and kid.

Very few people have lifetime passion. How many spouses are you willing to discard before identifying this as a "you" problem?

I really don’t want to mess up my family. But is it really my fault that I don’t feel that passion anymore? Am I just meant to push aside my feelings and my happiness?
I know I could stick with the relationship and act like everything is fine, but isn’t unfair to my husband? Isn’t that just as wrong?
I didn’t decide to feel this way. I wish I could still experience love and passion.

Divorce, let him have the kid and move on. You can start a brand new life... how exciting for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Passion is hormones meant to get you into a relationship.

You are a family now. You have ethical obligations to your spouse and kid.

Very few people have lifetime passion. How many spouses are you willing to discard before identifying this as a "you" problem?

I really don’t want to mess up my family. But is it really my fault that I don’t feel that passion anymore? Am I just meant to push aside my feelings and my happiness?
I know I could stick with the relationship and act like everything is fine, but isn’t unfair to my husband? Isn’t that just as wrong?
I didn’t decide to feel this way. I wish I could still experience love and passion.

I see quite a few “I”. Where is the “we” and where do you put your priorities? Is your desire for new new new experiences overriding your responsibilities now that you have a child to raise? Are your needs met? Are your do’s needs met? Are your child’s needs met?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

I'm a put-your-own-oxygen-mask-on-first kind of mom, but your level of selfishness is shocking.

Also, your expectation that you're going to have burning passion your entire marriage is unbelievably immature.

The fact that you think being married to your current husband, who you describe as a great guy and a wonderful dad, is ENDURING something is painfully myopic.

If you do decide to divorce, please give your husband primary custody so that at least your child will have one parent who considers the child's needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Passion is hormones meant to get you into a relationship.

You are a family now. You have ethical obligations to your spouse and kid.

Very few people have lifetime passion. How many spouses are you willing to discard before identifying this as a "you" problem?

I really don’t want to mess up my family. But is it really my fault that I don’t feel that passion anymore? Am I just meant to push aside my feelings and my happiness?
I know I could stick with the relationship and act like everything is fine, but isn’t unfair to my husband? Isn’t that just as wrong?
I didn’t decide to feel this way. I wish I could still experience love and passion.

Look, you clearly got knocked up on accident since you've been married for only 5 years but your kid is 8 but once you decided to have him, you owed it to him to be his parent. And no, that does not mean forsaking your own happiness, but it does mean weighing how you feel against what that would do to your child. Your posts are all ME ME ME ME, which is pretty gross for a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, divorce immediately and go pursue your “passion”. Your ex can find a new woman who appreciates him for what he is and your kid will have a good stepmother who’s not constantly chasing random d!cks.

LMAO. He’ll marry a young woman he knocks up in the first four months of sowing his oats and she will encourage him to stop paying CS and spending time with kid #1.

[Anonymous]

Can't you just read romance novels? Or, there's so much nudity and sex in movies now, watch one and attack your DH.

Or, get divorced.

[Anonymous]

Someone will snap your husband up in a minute and appreciate him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

So what happens if you find a Tingler and hook up or even marry. Then innseveral years the tingle is gone. Ok you are 40. Divorce. Find your happiness

Repeat.
Repeat.
Repeat but you are 50 and your vag is a bit dry and the tingle guys are into maybe FWB but shortlived relationships.
Pow, you are 55.

Is this true happinss? Okie dokie artichokie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, divorce immediately and go pursue your “passion”. Your ex can find a new woman who appreciates him for what he is and your kid will have a good stepmother who’s not constantly chasing random d!cks.

LMAO. He’ll marry a young woman he knocks up in the first four months of sowing his oats and she will encourage him to stop paying CS and spending time with kid #1.

Would be really sad for this kid to have 2 crappy parents but it happens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

I'm a put-your-own-oxygen-mask-on-first kind of mom, but your level of selfishness is shocking.

Also, your expectation that you're going to have burning passion your entire marriage is unbelievably immature.

The fact that you think being married to your current husband, who you describe as a great guy and a wonderful dad, is ENDURING something is painfully myopic.

If you do decide to divorce, please give your husband primary custody so that at least your child will have one parent who considers the child's needs.

OP here.
Do you all not have any passion in your marriage anymore?
Isn’t that a bit sad?
I don’t believe that what I want is too much to ask. I know couples who have been together for many years and still feel that intense passion.
My parents have been married for 40 years. My Mom says she still gets butterflies when my Dad holds her hand, and the passion in their relationship hasn’t diminished.
I know it can happen.
Wanting this doesn’t make me a bad person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

I'm a put-your-own-oxygen-mask-on-first kind of mom, but your level of selfishness is shocking.

Also, your expectation that you're going to have burning passion your entire marriage is unbelievably immature.

The fact that you think being married to your current husband, who you describe as a great guy and a wonderful dad, is ENDURING something is painfully myopic.

If you do decide to divorce, please give your husband primary custody so that at least your child will have one parent who considers the child's needs.

OP here.
Do you all not have any passion in your marriage anymore?
Isn’t that a bit sad?
I don’t believe that what I want is too much to ask. I know couples who have been together for many years and still feel that intense passion.
My parents have been married for 40 years. My Mom says she still gets butterflies when my Dad holds her hand, and the passion in their relationship hasn’t diminished.
I know it can happen.
Wanting this doesn’t make me a bad person.

You strike me as a troll because your answers are just asking more questions and aren’t introspective at all. All you are doing is poking at other people, not really wanting information about your situation. I think you are an angry man who is cosplaying as a woman trying to figure out why someone broke up with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

I'm a put-your-own-oxygen-mask-on-first kind of mom, but your level of selfishness is shocking.

Also, your expectation that you're going to have burning passion your entire marriage is unbelievably immature.

The fact that you think being married to your current husband, who you describe as a great guy and a wonderful dad, is ENDURING something is painfully myopic.

If you do decide to divorce, please give your husband primary custody so that at least your child will have one parent who considers the child's needs.

OP here.
Do you all not have any passion in your marriage anymore?
Isn’t that a bit sad?
I don’t believe that what I want is too much to ask. I know couples who have been together for many years and still feel that intense passion.
My parents have been married for 40 years. My Mom says she still gets butterflies when my Dad holds her hand, and the passion in their relationship hasn’t diminished.
I know it can happen.
Wanting this doesn’t make me a bad person.

You sound very, very juvenile. I still have passion in my marriage of 15 years, but it's definitely a different kind of passion than pre kids. He still makes me happy and giddy. I still sometimes look at him and think about how lucky I am. I think you owe it to yourself and your son to get some therapy. Before making any decisions. This definitely sounds like a "midlife" crisis.