Can’t stand my ex-husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Vent post. My ex-husband makes me sick. He is just not a nice person. I often wonder how I was ever in love with him. I dunno that person is gone forever.

We have two kids and I try to co-parent respectfully with bare minimum text communication. Every blue moon we have to talk on the phone or in person and frequently it just goes to a nasty place on his part. He always assumes the worst about me. I just don’t get it. I see us as parents on the same team. Nobody will love our kids like we do.

That’s all. it’s sad. I hate my kids don’t get to have parents who can be in the same room.

Did you leave him for your AP? That would explain it.

[Anonymous]

I feel you, OP. DH’s ex is, still 7+ years later, just incredibly hateful towards him. I’m married to him, so I know he’s not perfect (lol), but her nastiness to him is completely uncalled for. Never in front of others and never in front of the kids (but they know), but completely and irrationally unhinged towards him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Vent post. My ex-husband makes me sick. He is just not a nice person. I often wonder how I was ever in love with him. I dunno that person is gone forever.

We have two kids and I try to co-parent respectfully with bare minimum text communication. Every blue moon we have to talk on the phone or in person and frequently it just goes to a nasty place on his part. He always assumes the worst about me. I just don’t get it. I see us as parents on the same team. Nobody will love our kids like we do.

That’s all. it’s sad. I hate my kids don’t get to have parents who can be in the same room.

He knows you hate him and responds in kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel you, OP. DH’s ex is, still 7+ years later, just incredibly hateful towards him. I’m married to him, so I know he’s not perfect (lol), but her nastiness to him is completely uncalled for. Never in front of others and never in front of the kids (but they know), but completely and irrationally unhinged towards him.

You have no idea what their marriage was like or how he treated her. Also, you’ve only been married 7 yrs. Sometimes it takes a couple decades for the mask to drop.

[Anonymous]

Why do you need to have conversations with ex-H? Just text concisely and keep it relevant to the kids. I don't engage in conversations with my ex-wife, it just means she wants something extra with no documented text record.

[Anonymous]

You can't stand him. He can't stand you. Both of you dislike the other and treat them accordingly.

Tale as old as time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:File for 100% custody. Do it now while your kids are young.

It's 2026. Courts don't do this without a very very good reason and OP has offered none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to have conversations with ex-H? Just text concisely and keep it relevant to the kids. I don't engage in conversations with my ex-wife, it just means she wants something extra with no documented text record.

If he’s like mine a partial sentence like confirming pickup time is enough to set off an angry rant always just shy of actual court-actionable stuff.

[Anonymous]

If he was physically violent before why do you expect him to be nice now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey - just empathy here. I have been divorced since 2018 and I'm still astounded how my ex treats me. I don't get it. I never will. And I'm also sad that our kids notice and will ask me why he's mean to me, and I still have to be the bigger person and navigate that question carefully. But because of how my ex treats me, there isn't even a way to have that conversation with him.

I was always hopeful we'd coparent well. And we did okay for a few years and then it just got worse and worse over the years for some reason and now we just parallel parent.

So I get it. I see you. I understand you. And I'm sorry. It sucks.

"I think dad must still have a lot of emotions about the divorce".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel you, OP. DH’s ex is, still 7+ years later, just incredibly hateful towards him. I’m married to him, so I know he’s not perfect (lol), but her nastiness to him is completely uncalled for. Never in front of others and never in front of the kids (but they know), but completely and irrationally unhinged towards him.

Just you wait

[Anonymous]

I feel you, OP. DH’s ex is, still 7+ years later, just incredibly hateful towards him. I’m married to him, so I know he’s not perfect (lol), but her nastiness to him is completely uncalled for. Never in front of others and never in front of the kids (but they know), but completely and irrationally unhinged towards him.

Kids always know.

Support your man to help protect the kids from psycho-mom.

[Anonymous]

Could you ➕ your ex-husband designate a middle-man so that you do not have to deal with each other directly??

This may not be needed long-term…..but it sounds like it is something that you should both consider so that your two children will not be caught in the middle of the acrimony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:File for 100% custody. Do it now while your kids are young.

really? because OP can't handle some hatred or resentment? She chose to have kids with this guy and he has right to be a dad and noone should punish their kids by taking 100% custody. Stupid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:File for 100% custody. Do it now while your kids are young.

really? because OP can't handle some hatred or resentment? She chose to have kids with this guy and he has right to be a dad and noone should punish their kids by taking 100% custody. Stupid

I mean, I agree with you about not taking away their dad, but jesus. OP was just venting. There was nothing there that indicated she "can't handle" some resentment.