Mom friend can’t go to concert, but wants money for her ticket

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not your job to sell her ticket.

Ordinarily I would agree but I think OP is being obtuse here. It's not that hard to re-sell concert tickets in this day and age -- you post them online and especially if you are far enough in advance, you can usually recoup all or most of your costs.

What I think happened is that OP *offered* to find a buyer for the second ticket because she still wanted to go, and since her friend had bought the tickets and was in possession of them, her friend handed them over so OP could do that. But instead of finding a buyer, OP just found another friend she wanted to go with and told the original friend she "couldn't find a buyer."

I think the friend would have just tried to resell her own ticket, but OP likely insisted on having it so she could try to find someone she wanted to go with.

Yes, it is hard to sell tickets last minute. We have had last minute cancellations to NFL gmaes, big ticket concerts, Broadway shows, etc. and never on the day of does anyone buy the ticket on line. We always end up eating the cost. Sometimes for NFL you can sell it in the parking lot, but even then, not always.

[Anonymous]

If you found someone to go, they pay or you pay. Life isn’t free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Give her the money for the tickets.
Nothing in life is free. Lesson learned.

Why should the one who bailed not have to pay something?

[Anonymous]

I had a friend flake on a concert we were supposed to go to. I asked around and couldn’t find anyone who wanted to buy the ticket. I ultimately went with a friend who couldn’t afford to pay for it, and I gave the original purchaser half the cost of her ticket. I thought it was an ok compromise because I didn’t really want to go alone or with a stranger. But she gave me almost no time to find a replacement.

[Anonymous]

If she wanted money for the ticket she should have taken on the responsibility and legwork of trying to sell it.

[Anonymous]

Your friend who bailed and wants to be repaid seems tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not your job to sell her ticket.

Ordinarily I would agree but I think OP is being obtuse here. It's not that hard to re-sell concert tickets in this day and age -- you post them online and especially if you are far enough in advance, you can usually recoup all or most of your costs.

What I think happened is that OP *offered* to find a buyer for the second ticket because she still wanted to go, and since her friend had bought the tickets and was in possession of them, her friend handed them over so OP could do that. But instead of finding a buyer, OP just found another friend she wanted to go with and told the original friend she "couldn't find a buyer."

I think the friend would have just tried to resell her own ticket, but OP likely insisted on having it so she could try to find someone she wanted to go with.

It is super rude to cancel. It I couldn’t go, I would feel bad canceling and be glad if my friend could go with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend and I were planning on going to a concert together, she had a last minute emergency and couldn’t go so she sent the tickets to me. I told her I would try to sell them or just find someone to go with. This morning she texted me asking if I was able to sell them and I said no, but I found a friend to go with. Then she asked me for money for the ticket and I was a little taken aback, I was under the impression she just gave the tickets to me? WWYD? I had paid her for my ticket, but was just going to give her ticket to my friend. She didn’t say that up front when she cancelled.

Why do you expect your friend to buy a ticket for your other friend? They should at least split the price.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend and I were planning on going to a concert together, she had a last minute emergency and couldn’t go so she sent the tickets to me. I told her I would try to sell them or just find someone to go with. This morning she texted me asking if I was able to sell them and I said no, but I found a friend to go with. Then she asked me for money for the ticket and I was a little taken aback, I was under the impression she just gave the tickets to me? WWYD? I had paid her for my ticket, but was just going to give her ticket to my friend. She didn’t say that up front when she cancelled.

Why do you expect your friend to buy a ticket for your other friend? They should at least split the price.

If the money was important the flaky friend should have sold it herself since apparently it’s so easy. If OP sold it she should have charged the friend a hefty commission charge for the hassle.

[Anonymous]

I do not think your are in the wrong. If its a friend you want to keep, I would offer to pay half if its not going to be a burden on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Give her the money for the tickets.
Nothing in life is free. Lesson learned.

Maybe it is the cancelling that was not free here? The friend left OP in a jam by canceling last minute. This was a group activity, where the shared experiences is part of what was purchased.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird you assumed your friend wouldn’t want $ for the ticket.

Agree. You know the ticket cost money.

Do you always expect things for free?

This what kind of freeloader are you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An expensive lesson for the last minute emergency types. It's not your problem to solve for her.

Agree. But OP offered to sell or find someone to go with …which implies the friend would be reimbursed.

OP, I would just pay her the cost of the ticket you accepted. You could ask your other friend to pay for her cost of the ticket, but I’d be too embarrassed to since it seems like you invited her to this concert with the assumption the tickets were covered, other wise it would have been talked about initially

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get where the ticket purchaser is coming from.

Sounds like you and she could have communicated better about what to do if you couldn't sell the ticket.

So you are cheap too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird you assumed your friend wouldn’t want $ for the ticket.

Agree. You know the ticket cost money.

Do you always expect things for free?

No, I expect that if someone bails out and leaves me in the lurch with a ticket and the burden of theirs, that is now my problem, that they paid and decided not to go. Too bad, so sad. No way do I make another plan that costs $$ with that person. Your friends probably do the same re you.