Mom friend can’t go to concert, but wants money for her ticket

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend who bailed and wants to be repaid seems tacky.

As do all of her defenders on here! Tacky and cheapskates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your friend who bailed and wants to be repaid seems tacky.

As do all of her defenders on here! Tacky and cheapskates.

I posted previously my kid could no longer go to a concert and I invited friends for free after being unable to sell all our tickets online last minute.

If I had plans with one friend, I would not be wanting to go to a concert alone. I would be super annoyed at canceling friend unless it was a true emergency. The least she could do is let me take another friend. If that friend then said I had to pay her for the ticket, I would not want to make plans with this person ever again.

[Anonymous]

Pay her for the ticket and then never do anything that costs money with her ever again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pay her for the ticket and then never do anything that costs money with her ever again.

Why? She gave up the ticket. She should have sold it to OP before handing it over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird you assumed your friend wouldn’t want $ for the ticket.

I mean, if friend had to cancel she had two options. Give the ticket away or try to sell it herself. She handed it over to OP. OP generously offered to try to find a buyer *or* someone to give ticket to. She didn't find a buyer. It's kind of nervy of the owner to demand payment since OP didn't guarantee she'd find a buyer. In her shoes I would just hand the ticket back to the original owner and wash my hands of it. Sucks for OP because now she doesn't have someone to go to concert with. An alternative might be for OP and other friend to split the cost of the ticket and give original ticket holder the full cost. But I would remember this incident and not place myself on the line the next time.

[Anonymous]

you are a cheap freeloader OP FULL STOP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird you assumed your friend wouldn’t want $ for the ticket.

I mean, if friend had to cancel she had two options. Give the ticket away or try to sell it herself. She handed it over to OP. OP generously offered to try to find a buyer *or* someone to give ticket to. She didn't find a buyer. It's kind of nervy of the owner to demand payment since OP didn't guarantee she'd find a buyer. In her shoes I would just hand the ticket back to the original owner and wash my hands of it. Sucks for OP because now she doesn't have someone to go to concert with. An alternative might be for OP and other friend to split the cost of the ticket and give original ticket holder the full cost. But I would remember this incident and not place myself on the line the next time.

Np. That's a good point. There is another option. OP can still hand the ticket back so mom friend can try to sell it for herself. It's an awkward conversation, for sure, but all of these options seem less than ideal anyhow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend and I were planning on going to a concert together, she had a last minute emergency and couldn’t go so she sent the tickets to me. I told her I would try to sell them or just find someone to go with. This morning she texted me asking if I was able to sell them and I said no, but I found a friend to go with. Then she asked me for money for the ticket and I was a little taken aback, I was under the impression she just gave the tickets to me? WWYD? I had paid her for my ticket, but was just going to give her ticket to my friend. She didn’t say that up front when she cancelled.

I think she should eat the cost of the ticket because she is the one who canceled. She should have also offered to try to sell them and then given hers to you if she could not do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you are a cheap freeloader OP FULL STOP!

OP paid for her ticket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were the one canceling I would absolutely not expect money - I’d simply be happy you found someone to go with, so that you didn’t have to either (a) go alone to an event like this or (b) if you weren’t comfortable going alone, miss out entirely.

This is true for me, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pay her for the ticket and then never do anything that costs money with her ever again.

Why? She gave up the ticket. She should have sold it to OP before handing it over.

It's a social/emotional buyout. Clears any lingering debt and ends the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Not much fun to go to a concert alone. Friend kind of ruined the experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay her for the ticket and then never do anything that costs money with her ever again.

Why? She gave up the ticket. She should have sold it to OP before handing it over.

It's a social/emotional buyout. Clears any lingering debt and ends the relationship.

If the friendship is over anyway, I wouldn’t feel bad about not making her whole. The least the friend could ask for is 1/2 or something more reasonable, if not then $0 is fine too. She’s the one who bailed in the first place.

[Anonymous]

I’d say

“I tried to sell your ticket for you, but no one wants to buy it. Larla doesn’t even want to go to the concert, but she’s going to come with me as a favor to me. That way I can still attend the concert with someone instead of going alone because you dropped me.”

[Anonymous]

Probably not the most mature response, but because flakey people deepy annoy me, realistically I'd probably say something passive aggressive like "Oh, I didn't realize that you were still expecting me to sell it for you, since I told you I'd had no luck. The only reason so-and-so agreed to come was because the ticket was free and otherwise going to waste. But, if you do need the money, I'll just pay you myself."