Neighbor kept having children until she had a girl

[Anonymous]

Well, it's nice that she can afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel so grateful I had both genders- girl, boy, girl. I’m sure I would have had up to 5 to have a girl. 3 was what we wanted though. Stupid, but I don’t think my life would have been complete without a girl. I just had so much I wanted to share with my daughters!

That being said, I love my son a lot too. I’m glad I didn’t only have girls because I find women who only had girls to be out of touch.

I can't imagine getting to adulthood being a parent and being this stupid.

[Anonymous]

Does she live in Springfield?

[Anonymous]

Why don’t these people just do IVF for their preferred gender? It’s cheaper than having five kids.

[Anonymous]

This story has to be a lie.
You can have sperm separated, since the ones with 2 X chromosomes weigh more than xy.
You could also find a state where you can get an abortion.
Also, there is birth control. A woman living in our timeline and century doesn’t need to cater to a man’s ridiculous whims. No man would agree to continue to multiply just to keep the wife happy.

Fertility care for gender selection is not free, but it is cheaper than having an extra 5 children

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel so grateful I had both genders- girl, boy, girl. I’m sure I would have had up to 5 to have a girl. 3 was what we wanted though. Stupid, but I don’t think my life would have been complete without a girl. I just had so much I wanted to share with my daughters!

That being said, I love my son a lot too. I’m glad I didn’t only have girls because I find women who only had girls to be out of touch.

Your son sounds like an afterthought, someone who provides you balance so that you’re not a girl mom, but who doesn’t carry the importance of your daughter. It comes through strongly. Whether or not this is actually how you feel, keep in mind it’s how you sound, and he hears it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel so grateful I had both genders- girl, boy, girl. I’m sure I would have had up to 5 to have a girl. 3 was what we wanted though. Stupid, but I don’t think my life would have been complete without a girl. I just had so much I wanted to share with my daughters!

That being said, I love my son a lot too. I’m glad I didn’t only have girls because I find women who only had girls to be out of touch.

Can you elaborate on this? Because my mom only had girls, I only have boys, and I feel like a lot of her endless criticism of my parenting stems from this.

This is so real. My mom had ADD girls. I have ADHD boys. It’s not the same assignment.

Right?!? My mom had me (well behaved girl) and my older brother (responsible, controlled, and driven for basically his entire life- never took a wrong step). I know it wasn’t her parenting because I disliked her , and it was obvious she favored my brother. I have two boys who are high energy but also high in love and affection and have many varying interests- pretty normal 7 and 9 year old boys across the board honestly. They do not stand out in terms of being “high energy” when compared to their peers. But if you ask my mother, I’m raising two out of control insane boys. What’s funny is she doesn’t criticize me for their behavior- she says things like “I can see they’re just inpossibke for you to control, you try your best but what can you do!” and it almost hurts more, because she’s like “yeah you definitely can’t handle this no matter what”. My kids are fine?? I’m fine?? Anyways this has nothing to do with the OP, I’m realizing. Cue the “maam this is a Wendy’s” response!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah this happens across time and space

Yes.
I’m the youngest and the only girl, born after seven boys. My oldest brother is 18 years older than me, and the brother closest in age is five years older.

My parents originally planned to have three kids, but they kept trying for a girl. After seven boys, they decided to stop and gave up on the idea of ever having a daughter. They were both pretty heartbroken about it. Then, when my youngest brother was five, they decided to try one more time — and that’s when I came along.

They were overjoyed, and honestly, we had a really great childhood, very spoiled, no complaining or regret.

From you. What about those 7 boys who weren't good enough. Or the last 4 who were never wanted except to keep trying for a girl. Gross.

I only have 2 kids, both boys, but surely you could imply that any second child means the first wasn’t good enough. Obviously a silly thing to say or believe, even when there are 7, 8, 9+ kids.

[Anonymous]

People who do stuff like this are emotionally limited and don't understand the parent-child relationship.

My MIL didn't do this but also spent her entire life lamenting the fact that she never had a girl (she had two boys). In the meantime, she made no effort to develop healthy relationships with her sons. She could have had two wonderful relationships with the two kids she was fortunate to have. Instead she harmed three people (herself and both of her kids) by refusing to evolve beyond the childish belief that you need to share your gender with a child in order to be close or loving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel so grateful I had both genders- girl, boy, girl. I’m sure I would have had up to 5 to have a girl. 3 was what we wanted though. Stupid, but I don’t think my life would have been complete without a girl. I just had so much I wanted to share with my daughters!

That being said, I love my son a lot too. I’m glad I didn’t only have girls because I find women who only had girls to be out of touch.

How so? I have 3. What do I need to do or know I don't?
Interesting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel so grateful I had both genders- girl, boy, girl. I’m sure I would have had up to 5 to have a girl. 3 was what we wanted though. Stupid, but I don’t think my life would have been complete without a girl. I just had so much I wanted to share with my daughters!

That being said, I love my son a lot too. I’m glad I didn’t only have girls because I find women who only had girls to be out of touch.

Can you elaborate on this? Because my mom only had girls, I only have boys, and I feel like a lot of her endless criticism of my parenting stems from this.

This is so real. My mom had ADD girls. I have ADHD boys. It’s not the same assignment.

Out of touch on how hard it is to parent boys?

I only have girls and am curious. But I suspect it may be different when the kids get older. Out of touch on how hard parenting teen girls can be

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel so grateful I had both genders- girl, boy, girl. I’m sure I would have had up to 5 to have a girl. 3 was what we wanted though. Stupid, but I don’t think my life would have been complete without a girl. I just had so much I wanted to share with my daughters!

That being said, I love my son a lot too. I’m glad I didn’t only have girls because I find women who only had girls to be out of touch.

Can you elaborate on this? Because my mom only had girls, I only have boys, and I feel like a lot of her endless criticism of my parenting stems from this.

This is so real. My mom had ADD girls. I have ADHD boys. It’s not the same assignment.

Out of touch on how hard it is to parent boys?

I only have girls and am curious. But I suspect it may be different when the kids get older. Out of touch on how hard parenting teen girls can be

DifferentPoster
I wouldn't say its more difficult at all, but there are trends in behavior that follow gender, despite the plentiful outliers. We all know tomboys and less active boys and gendered qualities are a mixed bag in any individual. Still, a cub scout meeting and a daisy meeting would be a great glimpse into the differences where a small faction of moms to only girls will be bewildered and aghast at boy behavior declaring parents raising boys who will rape and plunder the world because they are not under control and boys will be boys is an excuse of jackals but the likelihood is that boys will be boys and girls will be girls. The stress is somewhat flipped when tween drama hits and of course there are outliers again (I know a few boys that stand out from the rest in creating drama and many chilled out girls). Again, its not a flaw to feel high levels of energy as a child or high levels of emotion as a tween/teen. Its just stuff we have to go through and having kids who conform or rebel from gender norms is not something that needs to be shamed.

[Anonymous]

My aunt did this. Five boys until she finally had a girl who turned out to be a major tomboy.

Also an anti science religious family. Believed dinosaurs are in the Bible, etc.

[Anonymous]

Her body, her choice.

[Anonymous]

I stopped at 1. She’s a girl and I’m glad.